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lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
SCAMMERS - 8/14/2020

This has become annoying and frustrating to many of us .I have been on the site for a long time and i get asked the same question all the time. ARE YOU REAL ? i know many of us have been scammed especially men and it is sad when you have invested time in talking to someone only to findout they are a scam. My best approach normally is to ask many questions, insist on meet and greet first in a ...

7 response(s), 21 votes
Blog vs article - 8/14/2020

I guess I’m a bit confused, what is the difference between a blog post and an article in the “magazine” are articles just questions? What’s the benefit to one over the other? Does anyone know, and is this how you earn ?

17 response(s), 20 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Fun In The Sun - 8/14/2020

You are all quite aware of the fun in the sun contest of BlackSexMatch.com, I am sure. While I have not participated on any contest of BlackSexMatch.com so far, I seriously consider doing so this time. My motivation to take part in it is not to win, it is a one year gold membership, in addition most mature guys would vote for a girl around 20 I suspect, I am already a few months past that age. My breasts ...

29 response(s), 27 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Profile videos - 8/14/2020

Sherrill told me today that videos on a profile are great indications what people are really into, what kind of partner they wish for. While I have not given much attention to it, I wonder if you have made the same experience. When it comes to couples, yes there is a difference, if a couple prefers FmF over MfM, but I read most of the time the profile, prior to watch a profile video. How...

26 response(s), 36 votes
rm_undermythong 40 F
51  questions
Score 1.1
Anybody else? - 8/14/2020

Is there anybody else having a problem when you go to see who sent you a flirt? I go to it and nothing appears but a blank screen.

69 response(s), 67 votes
hotwife393 54 C
1  question
contests photo views - 8/14/2020

Ive entered 2 contests and am only getting a few views on my photos so not getting many likes or comments, where as I see others photos getting hundreds of views, therefore getting a lot more likes and comments...any advice on how to get more views on my contest photos? Thanks, Nancy

33 response(s), 34 votes
Mrfuntime3581 28 M
1  question
Meeting Advice - 8/14/2020

What are some good advice for meeting someone offline from this website?

46 response(s), 29 votes
weerrhuu 61 C
6  questions
Score 0.7
A Question Of Great Social Import. - 8/13/2020

OK, we got tired of not seeing any new questions here for a week now. <br><br> So we thought we would ask this one: <br><br> We think that most of the active members here are actually interested in meeting other members. Sure, it was always a tough process but meetings do happen. We know that for certain. <br><br> Our question is, how has the Corona virus ...

39 response(s), 53 votes
IM - 8/13/2020

What is the deal with the new IM..I have mine set to distance, as in those closest to me and all I get are people that are worlds away..have not figured out hot to correct it yet

37 response(s), 19 votes
dangbitches 55 F
35  questions
Quesstions - 8/12/2020

Why do my questions show up on A/L then there gone after a while?

10 response(s), 15 votes
Oceana1969 54 F
4  questions
Recent friend activity - 8/10/2020

I liked somones picture long ago. Since then they constantly show up in my current friend activity. I am not friends with this person and i have blocked the profile to try to silence it from taking up my feed. This person is very active and kudos to them. But why am i seeing their content if we are not friends and i have blocked their profile?

21 response(s), 22 votes
Pyhsical Sexual Feats - 8/10/2020

Do you/have you ever gone to extreme for sexual sensation. one example was holding a prone hold while having my cock milked by perky titted mistress. another is a handstand blow job. The mix of physical and sexual i find more intense orgasm. Has anyone else felt this and enjoy it

3 response(s), 4 votes
JayMMF 23 M
1  question
Spotting the fakes? New member advice please. - 8/9/2020

Morning all, <br><br> I recently joined this site and just like other apps / sites, I expected there to be fake profiles. However, on sign up I instantly received 14 messages that I cannot read without upgrading. <br><br> Now I am not against upgrading to 'GOLD' and would if I found this site helpful in my persuit of sexual kinks to try (MMF, DP, etc). However, ...

31 response(s), 27 votes
Daytimer09B 52 M
1  question
Need input from the guys on here. - 8/9/2020

I have been asked to do a photoshoot for a female model friend of mine. She is not sure what type of shots we need to take so I am going to throw it out there and let you all help decide. <br><br> What is/are your favorite shots of women... naked or dressed? <br><br> Examples: Upskirt, Downblouse, bent over naked, legs crossed, holding boobs up with arms crossed, ...

38 response(s), 27 votes
Wetandhard2020 53 C
3  questions
Double Vag - Urban Legend or Perfectly Doable? - 8/9/2020

Has anyone actually done it and if so, could you recommend the best position to do it in please? x

54 response(s), 37 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Communication - 8/5/2020

When a wife deceives her husband, about who the father of the baby she is carrying is, how would you communicate this fact to her husband, if you feel compelled to do so? She wanted a baby badly, quickly, but her hubby could not get it done in over a year, so she asked a former BF to impregnate her. Her BF was successful with 3 attempts, but her ...

44 response(s), 48 votes
MidwestMolly51 53 F
3  questions
Is it a bad thing to not want to talk on the phone? - 8/5/2020

I don't feel comfortable in talking on the phone to a man with I don't know. So because I won't talk on the phone the guy wants nothing to do with me. It should be my choice what I want to do not the guy's

65 response(s), 32 votes
MidwestMolly51 53 F
3  questions
What is your favorite sex toy? - 8/3/2020

Im interested in experimenting with sex toys and was just curious which sex toy should I experiment with first. I've never used sex toys before.

40 response(s), 15 votes
Wife Has Lost Interest in Anal - 8/3/2020

My wife used to love anal sex. We did it regularly and at times, surprisingly long and hard but that's what she wanted and I loved it! Now after having and some years have passed, the backdoor is locked tight. She'll let me tongue her and insert a finger or two and still enjoys that, but nothing more She seems to like the external attention but nothing larger. Any ideas on how to ...

18 response(s), 16 votes
jobella37 53 F
10  questions
IS HE STILL INTO ME??? - 8/3/2020

MY EX BF (DATED 3 YEARS) WHO I TOTALLY LOVED AND WE HAD AWESOME SEX ALL THE TIME, GOT MARRIED 7 MONTHS AGO, BUT HE KEPT CALLING ME WHEN HE WAS ENGAGED AND A FEW TIMES SINCE HE HAS BEEN MARRIED. HE CALLED 3 DAYS AGO FROM WORK (SHE HAS A GPS TRACKING HIM!) AND WANTED TO COME OVER FOR LIKE AN HOUR OR SO AND SEE MY NEWLY RENOVATED HOUSE AND PARTY A BIT. WE HAD NO SEX WHATSOEVER AND JUST TALKED AND ...

39 response(s), 24 votes
Acetheking216 36 M
1  question
Point for Gold - 8/2/2020

I'm fairly new to the site and I'm sorry if this has been touched on already. I was just curious if there is any way to redeem your earned for gold memberships? I think it would be an awesome incentive myself and again I do apologize if I'm behind the times with my question. Thank you, Ace

21 response(s), 22 votes
SomewhereSE 62 M
4  questions
Score 3.3
Polite/respectful vs pushover doormat milquetoast - 8/2/2020

Is it difficult for women to tell the difference between the two? <br><br> My general demeanor is polite/respectful, but over the last 20 years and primarily via internet rather than real life where they can observe to know better, too many women, once they get comfortable, make the mistake of assuming they can just step on me, try to take over my life/home, chase away my friends, ...

22 response(s), 12 votes
nimrod17 52 M
16  questions
Can one safely play with a partner who has herpes? - 8/1/2020

A woman I know wants IT bad but has herpes. She says she takes a daily med and is safe with a 2% chance of contracting herpes through sexual contact. She further claimed that the transmission comes from skin-to-skin, not genitals. That's a 1 in 50 chance! I don't like those odds. <br><br> Should I? And if I do what extra precautions should I take? Serious and humorous ...

36 response(s), 34 votes
mdbaltoeast 72 M
3  questions
Why Anal Sex? - 7/31/2020

For the ladies in particular, men can chime in as well. What is the fixation with anal? I once had a girl friend who liked it. I did it to please her, only once or twice, but was not a fan. I get notices from ladies saying they want a guy to do it to them. How many are saying that and really want it or just think all guys want it? Ladies, your thoughts, comments??

50 response(s), 19 votes
Do women enjoy watching guys blow guys - 7/30/2020

I just started dating a girl who really enjoys watching guys blow guys. Is it more of videos or do girls like watching the real thin?

39 response(s), 19 votes
booper8 33 M
1  question
Timing of Food Intake and Cleaning for Best Anal Play - 7/29/2020

Hi, <br><br> I am bi and interested to get more comfortable bottoming for men and pegging women or Trans-women. However, bottoming seems to be a lot of work for me, and slightly stressful and exhuasting before play. I'm looking for tips and insight into other people's (women and men) approach to prepare for anal play. What is your preparation to avoid any ...

24 response(s), 15 votes
Should I break it off? - 7/29/2020

I am a married man that has been in a hot discrete relationship with another man for the past 3 years. We really enjoy each others company and most recently he wants me to leave my wife and be with him. I told him no but I can tell he really wants me. Should I break it off or continue it and run the risk she may find out about us?

32 response(s), 22 votes
Wetandhard2020 53 C
3  questions
Exhibitionism - 7/28/2020

If you were seen having sex, would it be more embarrassing or exciting if its was someone you knew? If it was exciting being seen by someone you knew, who would be most exciting to be seen by? Friend, Relation or Workmate?

14 response(s), 16 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Is it true? - 7/25/2020

4th of July was always special, regardless if spending it on the beach, watching fireworks or creating our own firework. This year it will not be the same Chris told me that there are findings that doing a 69, giving oral pleasure to a man or woman, even a reverse cowgirl or doggy while the men wears a face mask will expose one to Corona? Is this true? He thinks we should not invite ...

24 response(s), 24 votes
vik5_6in 44 M
1  question
Why do women close their eyes during a blow while men open their eyes during the lick? - 7/24/2020

It is a mystery that needs solving. Women for their most parts close their eyes while the rod is down their throat while for the men it is the opposite. Men for the most part keep their eyes open when they are working their mouths for the pussy. Does this difference boil down to something evolutionary ? Are women are from Venus during the blow and are Men from the Mars during the lick ? Your ...

31 response(s), 14 votes
Married people - 7/20/2020

Is it relevant to you if the person you are having an affair with is married and cheating ?

58 response(s), 35 votes
niflifl2 24 M
1  question
Score 4.7
Feeling shy about first meets.. - 7/15/2020

I know this seems obvious.. but does anyone else get bad anxiety from crippling shyness the closer the date of a meet gets! i'm a bag of nerves! does it get better?! how do you cope? always work out or never worth the pain of it all in the end?

41 response(s), 37 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
COVID19 OR SEX? - 7/14/2020

Wow .. i think people are not serious.This is real. NBC just announced one of there production personnel just died from the COVID19. It is sad but amazing how people still don't get the reality with the death rate in Italy surpassing china. I like sex so much but with this i would choose life. Some guys are insanely mad when you tell them you can't meet .i know the dick will ...

92 response(s), 65 votes
CuteCouple4u2C3 53 C
1  question
Can't broadcast privately - 7/14/2020

Our cam is working fine. We can broadcast publicly, but we can't broadcast privately. Doesn't work when we try to send our cam in another member's chat room, or when we try to click the public/private button on the bottom left of our cam screen. <br><br> What is the deal? <br><br> Help! <br><br> Thanks! <br><br> CC4U

15 response(s), 13 votes
SarahLem80 40 F
4  questions
When do you stop using a condom - 7/14/2020

When you’re seeing a guy semi regularly, at what point do you stop using a condom? I’m keen to know experiences of others

51 response(s), 24 votes
cuddlymouse 58 F
1  question
Friends List - 7/13/2020

How do I take someone OFF my friends list?

5 response(s), 6 votes
BluBlaze87 42 F
1  question
Stranger hookups - 7/13/2020

So all the guys I know tell me they've had random sex with women that they have barely even spoken too. I not talking about meet online, chat for a few days then meet in person. I'm talking about see someone out and a few moments later having hot wild sex. Can it happen as often as they make it seem?

43 response(s), 24 votes
Broadcasting with an android phone - 7/13/2020

When broadcasting, how do i switch the camera from selfie, front, to the back camera? I dont want to show me, i want to show my wife in front of me.

9 response(s), 10 votes
Wetandhard2020 53 C
3  questions
Indoor or Outdoor Sex - 7/12/2020

Do you folks have a preference for indoor or outdoor sex and if so, is there a partiuclar reason for your choice? <br><br> L&G x

27 response(s), 11 votes
ffbim 64 M
1  question
I seen this on profiles - 7/12/2020

I seen this on profiles. can someone tell me the meaning of #&39 ?

13 response(s), 5 votes
oralbottomhere 67 M
2  questions
gay bar pickup question... - 7/11/2020

this question is for men that go to gay bars to pick up men, as someone that wants to be "picked up or hit on", how or what should i do or wear to better my odds?..and yes i'm a bottom....thanks!

14 response(s), 24 votes
Superman4695 35 M
55  questions
Score 1.3
Should the site notify when someone has blocked a user? - 7/11/2020

I have found out in a few instances like 2 or 3 that I cannot post on someone's advice lines post and I never made a personal attack on them. Fair's fair I will add them to my list which contains three members. <br><br> Another option is the site block also works both ways. they are added to your auto-block list which I could get behind. Why should they have the right to ...

58 response(s), 39 votes
southokguy58 59 M
5  questions
Have we lost any sense of common courtesy? - 7/8/2020

Can you help me understand why people on BlackSexMatch.com cannot provide the basic courtesy of replying, even to say 'not interested'. I don't understand why some start a conversation and then bail out. I'm not talking about someone who is rude, that doesn't warrant a response, but some conversations just seem to end abruptly. <br><br> And if given a 'not interested' ...

57 response(s), 41 votes
lukeaskewedx2 60 M
14  questions
JERKIN OFF - 7/8/2020

I was laying in bed last night and got an enormous hard on that I just had to play with, just as I was getting into it real good the wife rolled over and said " HEY, KNOCK IT OFF, I'M TRYING TO SLEEP HERE ". I lost my woody right away. Why are women so insensitive ?

33 response(s), 15 votes
RubenesqueDebbie 64 F
1  question
cum - 7/6/2020

(SIZE) Being a reader i tend to read a lot of the erotica. , i have written a few myself__I am curious Do people really really love cum that much?______________so much so that they would lick it out of their partners pussies, cocks, bum hole??______________ Cmon help me understand

52 response(s), 29 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Travel companion DELEMA - 7/5/2020

At first it looked like nobody can take off for at least a couple of weeks, now I am overwhelmed by travel companion requests for Krk. Some answered right away, excusing themselves because they can’t take off at least a couple of weeks, refused to go on a Pineapple diet prior to the vacation, don’t have the budget for the flight or found me too old, I guess age does matter Ot...

21 response(s), 36 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
BECOMING CELIBATE - 7/2/2020

I just turned 47 and yes that is my body working out works . I have been on this site for a very long time. I met very nice guys made friends with some and also did hengout with a couple. The last guy i met was recently.He is a guy i have always wanted and dreamed off . Things went well until a 2 weeks ago things changed. Communication died down and we don't hengout anymore.He says he likes ...

29 response(s), 20 votes
berlin4u1972 51 C
1  question
Is it just me??? - 7/1/2020

I was wondering something, and hopefully I will get some insight into the things I find myself fantasizing about more and more lately... Every time I am riding a cock, no matter how good it feels, I cant stop thinking about sucking it!!like, I have to make myself hop off of it so I can lick and suck it, it makes me so wet to even think about it, so when i am doing it , i ...

16 response(s), 18 votes
Hahaha0830 38 M
1  question
Not much meeting going on - 6/28/2020

I've been on here for 2 years and have had one meet with a women and it was less than stellar. I have sent to many messages to count through email or IM and I mainly get no response or rejected politely. Should I be more Direct in my messages rather than the conventional ?Hello, How are you?" I have a hard time sending expansive messages when the likelihood of a response is low. ...

24 response(s), 15 votes
nimrod17 52 M
16  questions
Opening Lines - 6/26/2020

I recently added a couple photos to my profile and the # of contacts increased dramatically. It's been interesting. Why would somebody send 1 or 2 word messages? I'm sorry but 'sup? (well not even a word) is going to be ignored in person or online. Are these simpletons TRYING to sabotage themselves?

29 response(s), 34 votes
Crog78 27 M
4  questions
Strap on fun? - 6/24/2020

What are people’s thoughts on mmf or strapon play?

41 response(s), 38 votes
Any luck from this site. - 6/23/2020

Is it easy to find a friend on this site. Any one had experience with couples M/F on from this site?

57 response(s), 31 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Out of line or do some women appreciate it? - 6/19/2020

This year I am considering to bring some friends with me to Krk, as not only Viviana and Claudia are very interested in US people, but also others. While on Skype with one potential travel companion, I almost lost it. It started out well, he was sweet, he showed great interest, was proud of his member, which has an awesome head, just like on the pics. But then it went downhill, I ...

33 response(s), 45 votes
Can one cam in secret - 6/19/2020

It's undeniably easier to hide your identity as a man when caming all the action is down below. How about us women who want to keep our faces secret. Any tips tricks thoughts?

32 response(s), 22 votes
Lakedemon72 73 M
2  questions
Anal Sex - 6/18/2020

I still have my ass cherry but am considering giving it . Do you normally cum when being ass fucked without jacking off?

15 response(s), 22 votes
jobella37 53 F
10  questions
IS HE STILL INTO ME??? - 6/16/2020

MY EX BF (DATED 3 YEARS) WHO I TOTALLY LOVED AND WE HAD AWESOME SEX ALL THE TIME, GOT MARRIED 7 MONTHS AGO, BUT HE KEPT CALLING ME WHEN HE WAS ENGAGED AND A FEW TIMES SINCE HE HAS BEEN MARRIED. HE CALLED 3 DAYS AGO FROM WORK (SHE HAS A GPS TRACKING HIM!) AND WANTED TO COME OVER FOR LIKE AN HOUR OR SO AND SEE MY NEWLY RENOVATED HOUSE AND PARTY A BIT. WE HAD NO SEX WHATSOEVER AND JUST TALKED AND ...

4 response(s), 1 vote
wolfandowl01 40 C
1  question
Lube preference? - 6/16/2020

So I don't like sticky. Its seems that every lube is just horribly sticky. The only lube i like is ky natural feeling but we always end up fighting the bottle weirdly shaped. What are your recommendations? .... I have tried water based aloe based still sticky.

32 response(s), 14 votes
sandburr60 65 M
9  questions
Score 0.1
Blogs - 6/13/2020

Does anybody write on blogs anymore. I had been following about a dozen different blogs, but nobody seems to be using them anymore. Why is that?

20 response(s), 5 votes
G0rd0_ 36 M
1  question
How do I cum harder? - 6/13/2020

Anybody know any tricks, tips, secrets to cum harder?

28 response(s), 17 votes
jackrback 72 M
1  question
Deja vu - 6/6/2020

I left BlackSexMatch.com about a year ago because the rules had been altered to make it very difficult to talk to people without an upgraded . I decided to give it another try and so far it is no better. I use to get free gold due to the number of views I received . Are there ways to get temporary upgrades now?

24 response(s), 16 votes
sandburr60 65 M
9  questions
Score 0.1
Blogs - 6/5/2020

Does anybody write on blogs anymore. I had been following about a dozen different blogs, but nobody seems to be using them anymore. Why is that?

1 response(s), 0 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Avoiding or Fighting? - 6/4/2020

Are you afraid of the Wuhan Flu? Do you keep social distance to avoid the flu or do you go for broke? While on Skype with Ali today, I learned that some people in Europe actually challenge the Wuhan flu by getting infected purposely, fight it; overcome it and then are free to live their lives again. He is planning to do the same this weekend, having sex with a woman who was just ...

37 response(s), 43 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
SEX TOYS - 6/4/2020

i have always wondered why people use toys during sex . I have never had the interest in being aroused by the use of toys alone or with a partner.I feel like i might get addicted to using them more. I know many guys enjoy using them on a woman and vice versa . I prefer to not have them. What are the advantages and disadvantages of using sex toys ?

28 response(s), 31 votes
bigthrills7 56 M
4  questions
CAMMING QUANDRY - 6/2/2020

I would like to start camming for show since we're all living in our bubbles. My Mac computer has a built-in cam and I can broadcast that way no problem BUT, I'd rather use an external cam that connects to my computer's USB port. By using the external cam I can maneuver the angle to where the action is. Besides, I'm too shy just yet to show my face on here so that's the ...

29 response(s), 12 votes
teclis55 40 M
1  question
Increased Interest! - 6/1/2020

Might seem a bit of a silly question, but whats the best way to get increased interest on here?! I've been on and off the site for a couple of years and never managed to get a meet or any email responses (and i must have sent 100 by now!) except one! A girl who exchanged numbers and we got very friendly but after i year i realised she was never going to meet and she never did lol. Perhaps my ...

14 response(s), 8 votes
Gottdatgood 55 F
2  questions
Cam Scam, what does this mean? - 6/1/2020

So I posted a pic and this was the comment, I am not 100% sure but I think this is insinuating something like I'm not real or a scam? Totally confused, can someone explain this? And of course, this person is blocked!!!...

25 response(s), 19 votes
zaktpe 42 M
1  question
Does a size making a different? - 6/1/2020

Some girls like a long tool but some like it wide, I'm always wondering if the penetration that's what matters or it's actually the fantasy itself?

46 response(s), 24 votes
Silkymadness 52 C
5  questions
Is BlackSexMatch.com being realistic in their expectations? Are they being fair in their actions? - 5/27/2020

Ok here is the situation. We received this message for BlackSexMatch.com in our BlackSexMatch.com mailbox <br><br> Dear Silkymadness, <br><br> Your Icebreaker has been approved and your Gold membership has been activated. You're all set. <br><br> Gold membership gets you unlimited access to photos, profiles, and videos, plus unlimited emails and flirts. ...

28 response(s), 30 votes
wickedcat2006 45 F
288  questions
all about the benjamins - 5/26/2020

what do i do if my partner and i always end up arguing and money? sex is great. every thing else is great except our money issues!!

16 response(s), 26 votes
wincardium 57 F
1  question
Sex in the time of COVID-19? - 5/25/2020

I live in NYC. Noo Yawk always has to be at the center of something, and here I am, smack dab in the epicenter of the greatest global pandemic since the Spanish flu. <br><br> Not trying to make light of a horrible situation. All I hear these days are the ambulances racing by. <br><br> But, a girl has her needs. <br><br> I thought I'd take to the polls: ...

39 response(s), 25 votes
Gemini52783 37 F
2  questions
Instant messaging help - 5/24/2020

Where do my previous instant messages go? When I leave the screen and come back they are all gone.

6 response(s), 15 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
A Couple of Three - 5/24/2020

So, I'm wondering if anyone here is in a couple of three? I've seen couples on IG and have heard of a few people that I know that have tried it. I'm told that it works like any other relationship, but how? lol Just curious to know anyone's experience in a threeway relationship.

8 response(s), 8 votes
Gemini52783 37 F
2  questions
Instant messaging help - 5/22/2020

Where do my previous instant messages go? When I leave the screen and come back they are all gone.

1 response(s), 0 votes
Watching porn with your partner - 5/22/2020

I was curious.....do you like to watch porn with your partner while having sex or does it distract you? I was just curious.

27 response(s), 38 votes
silura99 37 F
2  questions
Cock sleeves - 5/22/2020

So, I just discovered that cock sleeves were a thing! Has anyone every used one? If so, how was it? Is it pleasurable for both partners?

23 response(s), 7 votes
Gottdatgood 55 F
2  questions
Do we tell him or no??!!!! - 5/21/2020

So, he is minding his business, looks peaceful, but, he is exposed... Do we tell him?...

24 response(s), 12 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
GOOD PUSSY OR GOOD DICK ? - 5/21/2020

What do we like ? I like sex so much. but i don't seem to attrart the right guy. I had a sexual partner for 5yrs he moved to philly for a job promotion. That was the best dick i ever had . Our connection and friendship was fun and amazing. After he left I opted to be celibate for a while . My friends setup the profile behind my back coz I didn't date or look for guys. I have an ...

12 response(s), 23 votes
HelloMollie 25 F
1  question
Score 0.1
urethral sound for ladies - 5/19/2020

Have any ladies ever tried a urethral sound? I just got a few and WOW! Its a bit odd at first inserting inside...but the sensation is amazing!!!

18 response(s), 30 votes
help for standard members - 5/19/2020

Any tips for how standard members can make contact . messenger isn't working and neither are comments on pictures

47 response(s), 20 votes
platinum_gigolo 49 M
5  questions
How long would you wait to start meeting again after this mess? - 5/18/2020

I'm thinking two weeks after everything opens back up. I'm still working and with the public daily. I don't want to get tested cause I don't have any symptoms and don't want to waste a test that someone else might need. <br><br> But for real I'm ready to meet right now but I got to keep my horny sex drive in check and make sure this mess is under control. ...

32 response(s), 14 votes
Atmosfear612 43 M
1  question
Roleplay Ideas? - 5/18/2020

Trying to spice things up at home and thought about roleplaying. Any good scenarios prides to share?

13 response(s), 15 votes
WyoCowboy7751 67 M
5  questions
How do you ? - 5/18/2020

When reading a Blog and you want to post a reply with an added photo; how do you load the photo ?? I know it's probably just me; but can't figure it out !!!

10 response(s), 2 votes
ChopTank62 59 M
4  questions
Score 0.1
What would you do? - 5/15/2020

I have this individual that continues to Flirt and Hotlist me. He has his Profile Hidden. Would you Block him or could it be a mistake?

28 response(s), 19 votes
wickedcat2006 45 F
288  questions
quarantine time!! - 5/14/2020

your partner has a with his/her ex and decided to spend some of the quarantine time to be closer with the . <br><br> how would you handle this?

13 response(s), 14 votes
Advice - 5/14/2020

Hello I am fairly new to all of this and wanted to take the time to tell you more about me, my experiences, likes and known dislikes. <br><br> I was born in 1981 and grew up in a family that sex wasn't spoken about and when you did you were made to feel dirty about it, especially whenever you touched yourself. Yes, I was a typical that experimented with my boyfriend at the time ...

8 response(s), 6 votes
GrowNoShow 35 M
3  questions
Discretion is a must 🤫🤫🤫 - 5/12/2020

As I peruse over countless profiles, really fancying the photos as well as some of the videos, I can't help but notice a common theme amongst a lot of the profiles. Yes, I do eventually get to the reading portion of the profile. What I'm noticing, 🧐, is there are a lot of you whom desire discretion to be a must. Which in itself led me to thinking, 🤔, well is discretion not the ...

5 response(s), 1 vote
daveisbad2 64 M
2  questions
caming and no show? - 5/12/2020

ok this is the deal. I am a straight guy and was on cam, fully clothed. People pop on and off .both and female, i don't always see who's watching since i am at work and cant always see the list of who is watching. usually when i notice someone and they are not what i am looking for i them off, mainly males. This one guy was on and he did'nt say any thing to warrant ...

1 response(s), 4 votes
HornyOldFucker76 63 M
4  questions
friend's profile - 5/11/2020

This weekend I discovered the BlackSexMatch.com profile of a friend/former coworker and his wife. I had no idea they were into swinging. Should I check out their profile details and send them a message, or should I pretend that I never saw it? I'd really like to fuck my friend's wife. What would you do?

22 response(s), 8 votes
JamesSpyBond 55 M
1  question
Why is it that nice guys finish last? - 5/11/2020

I am nice guy just looking to meet people, get to know them then have sex with him. When I do this, I never get any one to chat or hookup with me but if I act like a or a bad boy, I get replies out of my ears. I don't want to change who I am so any advice for this nice guy?

16 response(s), 10 votes
gethappy2019 47 F
2  questions
Best way to remove hair? - 5/5/2020

I know this has been asked before... Please don't feel like you need to belittle me... some of us have been a bit stifled for the past 25 years and need to get back into the swing of things! <br><br> <br><br> I want to get a clean start for summer.. What's the best way to remove all of the pubic bush? Regular razor? electric of some sort? cream? laser? wax? ...

50 response(s), 24 votes
Oldmanaz2 61 M
3  questions
Contacting a member that has blocked you. - 5/5/2020

Weird question. Someone hotlisted me but it appears they have me blocked. I’m not sure if the hotlist was legit. Is there any way to contact a member through BlackSexMatch.com that has blocked you?

52 response(s), 25 votes
lowerslowerguy 71 M
3  questions
Is this normal for a woman when she cums? - 5/5/2020

Unusual question here... Let me explain... I love going down on a woman and watching her cum as I lick her. Had a strange situation. Twice now, a woman I was going down on, came so hard, she momentarily lost control of her bowels. Not a lot, just a little. Has this ever happened to any of you?

15 response(s), 12 votes
older4young2020 52 M
1  question
What to write in a friend request... - 5/3/2020

I would like to get some advise on what to write when creating a friend request. I have written several and I typically keep them to a couple of sentences that either comment the person or note a compatibility, along with a request for friendship "if interested". I try to message only those that show a favorable compatibility rating and I am polite with my message. I do not add any ...

13 response(s), 9 votes
SuckMy8Plus 55 M
57  questions
Naked in Nature? - 5/1/2020

I Love being nude in the wilds of bushland. Do You? Why do you think it's So Exciting to walk around Naked under the trees?

11 response(s), 5 votes
IamBigSir78 41 M
1  question
Sexless Marriages - 5/1/2020

Sexless Marriages <br><br> <br><br> How do you or I or anyone survive a sexless marriage? is cheating and going on BlackSexMatch.com the solution? When counseling and multiple talks do nothing change the libido or attitudes of the low libido partner. What is one do? You do not want leave your partner, but they are never satisfying needs you have. What is the logical next ...

13 response(s), 14 votes
bigthrills7 56 M
4  questions
Do women really get lucky on here?? - 5/1/2020

Just wondering about all the women on here that are single and have ads. Not that I would look for one but curious to know if they're willing to have some guy come over to their house for hot sex. Is it that simple for many? I mean, that's what the guys on here do, with other guys but do single ladies take a chance and do it? To me it doesn't seem like it would be that easy....or safe ...

25 response(s), 18 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Intercourse with face masks - 4/28/2020

Yes, indeed, two questions in one. Perhaps I should have posted two questions Was asked by a local guy for some special time in one of my empty apartments at the beach, as he claims, if you wear a face mask and limit yourself to doggy style, the Wuhan Flue cannot be transferred. While I understand the complexity of his marriage, I told him, I don’t understand why he wants to ...

36 response(s), 35 votes
Why? - 4/27/2020

Why is it ok for a woman to look for more than what they are getting at home but when a guy does he is a cheater?or no one will talk to him? A guy can be in a sexless Marriage also!

12 response(s), 6 votes
nimrod17 52 M
16  questions
Seeking advice on message archiving - 4/27/2020

I wanted to go back to a contact I had made some time ago. When I tried to review the message, it was not displayed. The oldest message archived is about 3 weeks old. Is there a way, short of cutitng and pasting, to preserve message threads older than 3 weeks? If so, how do I find my older messages?

7 response(s), 9 votes
What is a reliable, practical remedy for erectile dysfunction? - 4/24/2020

I do not want to be embarrassed by an inability to get a hard on at a naughty party. (to say nothing of the waste of my time and that of others there plus the waste in the denial of attendance to perhaps a man with a harder, faster growing cock) I have read that Viagra and some other medicines have undesirable side effects, plus I need a doctor's prescription for such a medicine.) I have ...

54 response(s), 23 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Gift of Love or God - 4/24/2020

There was a firework at breakfast today, when Max asked for apartment keys. When questioned why, he told us with a big smile that his first woman, who is now married, asked him to impregnate her, because her husband for over 2 years was not able to get it done. She is now almost 30 and does not want to wait any longer. Even Chris who is very liberal almost fell of the chair. How could a ...

13 response(s), 24 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
labels? - 4/24/2020

When I was 15 [nearly 47 years ago] my best friend and I "experimented" in boy boy sex. Both of us are now married women and have no desire for man man sex. Are we still labeled as "bi"? Should my profile be listed as bi? Is there a statue of limitation on this? <br><br> If a man only wants recieve oral is he bi/gay? We laughed when we first heard the term ...

17 response(s), 11 votes
kinkybigirl1975 43 F
1  question
Men or women? - 4/24/2020

Question for the bisexuals. Who's better at oral sex, men or women? Is it true that if you have the equipment your more qualified?

I've actually had the best oral sex from a man but the most fulfiling by a woman.

1 response(s), 1 vote
EfresherE 37 M
1  question
Hard time busting in a condom - 4/24/2020

So, I've been having a hard time cumming with a condom on. I can almost get there but just cant cross the finish line. After this point I go to semi hard then back to rock hard and back and forth. Whats wrong with me? I just want to CUM!

37 response(s), 13 votes
1theMisfits 40 F
1  question
Do Men like/care/dislike/love/turned on/turned off when I meet with them and tell them exactly what - 4/23/2020

I wonder if men like it when I tell them where in the room and how to fuck me? Example come closer to me take of your pants. Im going to get up on this counter top and then we can change positions in a few mins. A few mins later ok im ready turn me around bend me over the chair and fuck me slow but hard. So I changed positions like 6times. Does that effect performance? Turn on or turn on? Like ...

53 response(s), 32 votes
WyoCowboy7751 67 M
5  questions
What do you use ..... - 4/23/2020

When broadcast yourself on cam; what software do you use ? I have had an issue with Flash ! I open broadcast and cam picture shows up but in the meantime the cam icon does not show ! I have gone into Model Chat, find a model with one or no viewers, engage her in private chat, tell her what issue is and request that she open my cam, permission box will pop up which I grant, picture for her ...

6 response(s), 10 votes
HowiePhD 28 M
3  questions
Worth it? - 4/22/2020

I have had an account now for a little over a year and I have had zero interest reciprocated back. What is the secret to actually making connections with people on here? I have my profile all done, pics up, status updates but no “hits”. Am I doing something wrong? Please advise!! <br><br> <br><br> Sincerely, <br><br> Sexually frustrated .

30 response(s), 16 votes
rm_castlemun1 56 C
2  questions
curious - 4/21/2020

does anybody know what rm means when it is used in front of a username?

20 response(s), 21 votes
ludo184253 65 M
2  questions
newbie getting no replies - 4/19/2020

Hi all. I have joined recently but I get no responses to messages or IM. could anyone give me advice on what I should do? Please criticise my profile as I want to chat and get to know people <br><br> many thanks in advance <br><br> <br><br> K

24 response(s), 11 votes
How do men feel......... - 4/19/2020

How do men feel if your girlfriend is wealthier than you?

63 response(s), 76 votes
rm_undermythong 40 F
51  questions
Score 1.1
Anybody know what happened? - 4/19/2020

Does anybody know what happened to the contests on here with all the changes going on here do you know if they removed it? I do not know if other people are upset with everything they have changed but its getting worse.

15 response(s), 38 votes
YoJuicyStarWhore 35 G
4  questions
NO BOUNDARIES What is your favorite thing to do? - 4/18/2020

No limits play every day in every way possible, what would he do? And you?

1 response(s), 0 votes
darkecanvas 31 M
1  question
Foriegn language? - 4/18/2020

I think accents and someone in bed yelling things I've never heard before are hot. Not sure why the language is always different, the website defaults to Italian when ever I sign in on my browser. Anyone else experience this?

1 response(s), 1 vote
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
SEXUAL CONNECTION OR FRIENDSHIP - 4/15/2020

I have been on the site for so long . I have talked and met so many nice and interesting guys . There some people you have a sexual connection and some a friendship connection. Besude sexual connection am glad i made some good friends too . Sexual connection can happen online but not in person because of chemistry and attraction. Why do people get upset when you say your not interested? I would ...

54 response(s), 41 votes
Cutehouguy 39 M
1  question
Standing Out in the Crowd - 4/15/2020

Since we're all being socially distant in the real world....you're all doing that right? I'm sure no one here would break the guidelines our governments are so carefully laying out just to get a little sexual healing, would they? I'm shocked. Anyway, since most (maybe) are keeping a safe distance, for now, it may be a good time to work on some of the 'ole profiles and ...

57 response(s), 24 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
ANAL SEX ? - 4/15/2020

Anal sex has become common. I always wondered how people got STDs through anal . So i asked my doctor. This is what she said . The tissue and skin around the anus acts like a protective barrier for the bottom of the digestive system which is also connected to blood stream. The tissue inside the anus is thinner and delicate and more likely to bleed and tear as a result of penetration. It ...

26 response(s), 36 votes
What’s the best way to finger a woman? - 4/15/2020

Do tell...

3 response(s), 4 votes
bigthrills7 56 M
4  questions
Feature returns! - 4/15/2020

A couple weeks back I asked about the feature on here when you move your cursor over a profile pic on your home page, the pop up window with the mini profile shows up and how and why that feature suddenly disappeared...I think it's been a few days now but that feature has returned! Anyone else notice it's back? Not sure of the reason, it was maybe a glitch or a bug that BlackSexMatch.com fixed or maybe ...

31 response(s), 21 votes
tiredkitty 39 F
2  questions
85,000 points - 4/15/2020

I'm like 100 points away from 85k in points what would you spend them on. my husband thinks i should try most expensive toy. i could also buy 2 years of free member ship or months and months of private , not that i enjoy chatting with many people. <br><br> <br><br> well thanks and i forward hear from you. <br><br> <br><br> ...

27 response(s), 35 votes
4urpleasur385 35 M
2  questions
Finding a dominant woman to try being a sub for the first time - 4/15/2020

Any tips on where to look for a dominant woman for a first time submissive experience? I have been with submissive women but never a dominant one that is willing to tell me what to do, lead things in the bedroom. Would love to hear some ideas of ways to find someone like that!

2 response(s), 2 votes
rm_rm_margalion 51 C
1  question
Would Buzzmode be a "turn Off" for my Cam viewers? - 4/15/2020

I was thinking of activating the Buzzmode feature when get on Cam (getting that pink toy and wearing it). But I was wondering if that would make me "Less Real" for my regular viewers (as if I'm not doing it just for own enjoyment as an exhibitionist anymore). Most people that watch me enjoy my "real" appeal, as opposed to the fake bored looking cam girls being very very ...

38 response(s), 33 votes
Koklhr 68 M
1  question
Help with gag reflex. Deep throat. - 4/14/2020

I don't know how many people do it. How can I get over the gag reflex with a I take a cock down my throat?

39 response(s), 23 votes
HowiePhD 28 M
3  questions
Worth it? - 4/11/2020

I have had an account now for a little over a year and I have had zero interest reciprocated back. What is the secret to actually making connections with people on here? I have my profile all done, pics up, status updates but no “hits”. Am I doing something wrong? Please advise!! <br><br> <br><br> Sincerely, <br><br> Sexually frustrated .

0 response(s), 1 vote
bigthrills7 56 M
4  questions
Home page question - 4/10/2020

Lately I've noticed that when I'm on my home page after logging in, I see member's photos that are online in a grid pattern...I used to be able to move my cursor over a member's photo and a sneak peek of their profile comes up in a small window...lately I've noticed that when I do this now, no profile window shows up...I have to actually click on the photo and a whole new ...

27 response(s), 24 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Manage Desires - 4/9/2020

At times like this, suspect this is not always easy. Talked to a local guy today, since he is a neglected married business man, it is not always easy to find a date for us to meet. OMG he is smooth, he had me going, how could a woman say NO to him if she has a desire for skin2skin love, even in days of the Wuhan flu. If I would not have live-in boy friends, I don’t think I could ...

17 response(s), 31 votes
Lakedemon72 73 M
2  questions
Anal Sex - 4/5/2020

I still have my ass cherry but am considering giving it . Do you normally cum when being ass fucked without jacking off?

3 response(s), 1 vote
WyoCowboy7751 67 M
5  questions
I'm Lost ...... - 4/3/2020

In the last several weeks; I have noticed Blog replies that have just 869 or eight six nine or other numbers only !! What is that all about ??

10 response(s), 12 votes
weerrhuu 61 C
6  questions
Score 0.7
Dick Length? - 4/2/2020

No, this is not one of the much over asked dick size questions' <br><br> In keeping safe from the spread of the novel Corona virus, health originations are suggesting we all practice and maintain SOCIAL DISTANCE. <br><br> So we are thinking that means at least a dick length apart or more. <br><br> How are you handling the process of meeting new people from ...

49 response(s), 53 votes
dragonuevo_2020 46 M
2  questions
Donde estan las chicas que me quieren ver en cam !! - 4/1/2020

Hay damas a las que les interese jugar cam x cam ? Aprovechemos ahora en cuarentena !!!

6 response(s), 8 votes
DocManther 57 M
1  question
Deep throat skill question? Seriously - 3/26/2020

Is this skill easy because one has a wide esophagus? Or does one train the throat to allow this. My wife has ZERO gag reflex...good right...but just can't get it to go down. She really wants to, but can't. I've never had it so u don't know how to guide her...I'm not going to slam it down.. LOL Any serious help would be greatly appreciated. <br><br> I

25 response(s), 12 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Anxiety - 3/24/2020

How do you deal with anxiety? My thoughts are with my friends Ali & Cyrous all the time, I am so worry about them, the virus is a big deal in Europe and who knows what will happen to them. I also feel guilty that I waived Ali off when he wanted another DP when I was last with them; I was just too tired and needed some sleep. The good thing is that they don’t just jump into bed ...

36 response(s), 51 votes
RDC916 68 M
2  questions
Dating men w/ ED - 3/23/2020

How many women are willing to date a man with ED? Especially one who will do most anything to please her?

21 response(s), 16 votes
drlktrhot 50 M
1  question
Score 0.2
Hover Quick View - 3/22/2020

My hover quick view has stopped working, is this just me? Is there a known solution?

18 response(s), 8 votes
rm_testedd2a 34 F
1  question
frustrated with dirty anal sex - 3/21/2020

i really love anal sex but am having a slight problem, i prepare well with multiple enemas to clean myself out. the problem is that once we get into it it seems like there is always more poop to come out. i hate it when he pulls out of me covered with my shit. when he comes in my ass i always poop out more poop with the come. i would like to just poop out the cum so i can drink it up like i see ...

18 response(s), 30 votes
connection interupted - 3/21/2020

when trying to use the IM window, after a few seconds, an alert saying "connection interrupted " pops up disabling the window. <br><br> what causes this ?

9 response(s), 16 votes
Wantsome12plzme 51 F
2  questions
Being creative with pubes. - 3/20/2020

Have you ever shaved or trimmed your partner's pubic hair? Have you made shapes out of it? What shape was the most pleasing?

28 response(s), 26 votes
wildcatr27 48 F
46  questions
Score 0.1
what is up with this site - 3/19/2020

is it weird that no one seems to have posted in the last few days? <br><br> anyone else dislike the new flirted format?

31 response(s), 24 votes
analicaly 66 M
2  questions
Score 0.6
Dirty,rotten, cheater or not? - 3/19/2020

I haven't had sex with the wife since 1983. Went to Greece on a remote Communications site for a year. No women and the nearest town over 45 minutes away down a winging road and you don't mess with the women there, you'll get beat up by the locals. I returned and she accused me of messing around so no sex upon my return. She refused my advances for a few years. We have 2 beautiful ...

21 response(s), 4 votes
After prostrate treatment - 3/18/2020

Guess the question is mostly for the men. But ladies, you can chip in too. Facing the event of might having prostrate cancer and needing to have it treated or removed. Would like to hear from those who had the treatment successfully and how sex has been afterwards. Would also like to hear from anyone who has had prostrate removal and how things have been since. Right now, am doing drugs and ...

22 response(s), 14 votes
wildthoughts 64 M
10  questions
What should you do - 3/18/2020

While it has not affected me yet , I do wonder if others might think it would be wise to wait a while before making plans to meet others in light of the news that the coronavirus is popping up in more places each day .That people may or may not have any signs of illness yet but show them later. They have suggested limiting contacts with others .

35 response(s), 29 votes
Superman4695 35 M
55  questions
Score 1.3
Hot listing get removed? - 3/14/2020

I no longer see an option to add anyone. My list is still intact but it does not appear on the thumbnail profile anymore just flirt and message. Any gold members do you still have the option?

14 response(s), 10 votes
cuddlup49 63 M
1  question
How to get rid of the recent flirt # - 3/14/2020

43 Flirted with Me 8 <br><br> How do I get rid of the flirt # on the left side of my profile? This # used to represent a new flirt, however now it's cumulative and doesn't disappear after I've viewed the flirt.

29 response(s), 15 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
HIV AND STDs ARE REAL - 3/14/2020

I know we all like sex. i lost a friend years ago to HIV and it was hard to see her suffer. It kills with kindness. She barely rememberd who gave it to her since she slept around alot. Many get on here and wana sample each dick or pussy available. I am considering celibacy since every guy i meet wana sleep around. Kinda exhausting looking for that one guy who just wants one trusted sexual ...

20 response(s), 46 votes
nimrod17 52 M
16  questions
How could we increase participation in the Advice Line - 3/14/2020

The advice line is dying. Is that a harbinger of the future of this website? If it does go belly up what are the alternatives?

30 response(s), 20 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
HIV AND STDs ARE REAL - 3/10/2020

I know we all like sex. i lost a friend years ago to HIV and it was hard to see her suffer. It kills with kindness. She barely rememberd who gave it to her since she slept around alot. Many get on here and wana sample each dick or pussy available. I am considering celibacy since every guy i meet wana sleep around. Kinda exhausting looking for that one guy who just wants one trusted sexual ...

0 response(s), 0 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Saying NO - 3/10/2020

One of my friends asked, if he could stopover on the way home from Asia, as he does most of the time, since his wife does not like intimacy so much anymore after she had a baby. I care for him, I adore him, yes, I love him, but with the CoronaVirus a lot changes. MY HEALTH is way too important. I do believe him that he is only intimate with his wife ...

44 response(s), 41 votes
Koffla 64 M
13  questions
Which hobbies and interests make YOU attractive to the opposite sex? - 3/9/2020

According to a research study, men who list traveling, exercise, theater, dancing and cooking receive most interactions from women online. Outdoor interests, politics, pets, and photography make up the remainder of attractive interests. For women, according to this study, exercise is the most desirable pastime, followed by photography, travel, cooking, art, music and dance. One of my passions is ...

32 response(s), 26 votes
4urpleasur385 35 M
2  questions
Finding a dominant woman to try being a sub for the first time - 3/9/2020

Any tips on where to look for a dominant woman for a first time submissive experience? I have been with submissive women but never a dominant one that is willing to tell me what to do, lead things in the bedroom. Would love to hear some ideas of ways to find someone like that!

16 response(s), 16 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
paranoia/fear of bi men unfounded? - 3/7/2020

I understand and respect PERSONAL PREFERENCES. This post is NOT an attack or dismissal of anyone's choices. What I am asking are the "preferences" due to paranoid thought process. <br><br> Example: <br><br> Single females who say no"bi men". There are many legit reasons or feelings as to why a F chooses that. <br><br> This question ...

45 response(s), 37 votes
TucsonBoneAlone 54 M
1  question
Rhoids - 3/7/2020

Should you avoid or do anal anyway? <br><br> Gotta get anal

22 response(s), 16 votes
Fred_Wreck 38 M
1  question
New member getting no love - 3/6/2020

Wondering what I'm doing wrong here. I understand that people have their types but its been about a month, should have had at least one beverage date by now. Any advice to be part of the fun would be greatly appreciated.

28 response(s), 15 votes
Sherrt2 67 F
6  questions
Score 2.0
Icebreaker - 3/6/2020

Has BlackSexMatch.com done away with the icebreaker program with all the other changes that have been made?

27 response(s), 63 votes
WyoCowboy7751 67 M
5  questions
How is it that ..... - 3/6/2020

I periodically check my profile or make updates and see that I have had X number of Profile Views and X number of Picture Views . The question here is ; How is it that pictures can have more views than profile views ?

26 response(s), 13 votes
biflydog 50 M
5  questions
Foreign women - 3/3/2020

I had a co-worker who made numerous trips to the Philippines (I never asked him to tell me everything he did there, plausible deniability you know!), and eventually brought a girl home. A few months after the marriage (and thankfully a pre-nup), she was off fucking some other guy. The divorce was shortly after that. I wasn't the only one who said "I told you so..." Personally, I ...

37 response(s), 82 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
Misdirected anger on Advice Line [points & standard members] - 3/3/2020

Full disclosure... the Advice Line is the main part of BlackSexMatch.com that we participate on. [95%]. <br><br> . We see a lot of bitching about posting for directed at the poster. BlackSexMatch.com encourages new standard members post on the magazine, by giving for doing so. Yes it is annoying, but.by replying you feed the trolls. Blame BlackSexMatch.com not someone who is actually doing what is allowed and ...

20 response(s), 15 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Second Choice - 3/3/2020

It is almost a year, since a guy I fancied told me politely that he is only into blonds with big breasts. It made me sad, but I had to accept the rejection. Now I get a message from him, inviting me to dinner when he is in town, to my follow-up message “you are only into blonds, right? You may would not enjoy your dinner seeing not a blond woman across from you” ...

65 response(s), 39 votes
rm_bornhorny77 47 C
1  question
Big men - 3/2/2020

Why is it when women see a big man they turn away? Just because a man is big or fat, however you want to put it doesn't mean he's not clean, not good it bed and all those other labels put on then. So, please tell me why most ladies won't go there?

1 response(s), 0 votes
Adventurecpl47 72 C
20  questions
bathroom door - 3/2/2020

You are having some good sex with friend(s) and someone has to pee. Do you close the door?

37 response(s), 31 votes
youradventurecpl 44 C
2  questions
MFM with a BBC - 2/28/2020

My husband has a fantasy of me being with a BBC in a threesome with him. It's not something I've ever considered or not considered... I guess it's never crossed my mind. i know some women really have a fantasy about it. <br><br> His fantasy is to see it and that the guy has a monster cock. <br><br> Question... pro's and cons?

28 response(s), 36 votes
ludo184253 65 M
2  questions
newbie getting no replies - 2/28/2020

Hi all. I have joined recently but I get no responses to messages or IM. could anyone give me advice on what I should do? Please criticise my profile as I want to chat and get to know people <br><br> many thanks in advance <br><br> <br><br> K

2 response(s), 2 votes
zooter1968 51 M
2  questions
Wife share - 2/27/2020

Does anyone find it strange to want to watch their wife suck a stranger's cock?

33 response(s), 27 votes
zooter1968 51 M
2  questions
Wife share - 2/27/2020

Does anyone find it strange to want to watch their wife suck a stranger's cock?

1 response(s), 4 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
What can you expect from Standard Members? - 2/27/2020

You have a jungle of profiles on here, only 24 hours in a day, how do you get through the jungle when standard members can’t communicate. You just cut the first tree which looks good? What can you expect from a standard member if he is too cheap to pay for full membership or is cash poor? How can you develop a friendship if you have ...

44 response(s), 65 votes
Rivertonwolf70 42 M
45  questions
Why do you like older women? - 2/26/2020

There have been posts from time to time about younger men seeking advice on how to meet up with women much older then them.

I am just curious. What is the fascination with them for you guys that seek them? What don't you like about women your age that you believe an woman older than you can give?

11 response(s), 15 votes
rm_alonzo1943 72 M
2  questions
too old ? - 2/26/2020

I am 69 (good health & active) at my age am I wasting my time on BlackSexMatch.com. I understand that younger women would not be interested but the few older gals on this site often are looking for younger men

28 response(s), 31 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
missing posts - 2/25/2020

What is with all the posts being removed. <br><br> Are we being censored?

18 response(s), 12 votes
ScottyEcv 49 M
3  questions
What's your thought on the subject? - 2/25/2020

Would you tell them upfront that you recognized them from this site? Or Would you not say anything. Using the information you've learned from studying their profile to your advantage?

32 response(s), 24 votes
Adventurecpl47 72 C
20  questions
BBC as a qualifier in an ad. - 2/24/2020

What is the fascination with a black cock?

40 response(s), 32 votes
What the F*#K is so VIP? - 2/24/2020

We decided to drop the additional $30 to "upgrade" our membership from Gold to VIP. Soafter about 2 weeks we haven't noticed anything different from Gold to VIP that BlackSexMatch.com the company should be charging for. The customer service still sucks still have all the tech problems are they charging 30 bucks for VIP? Would love to hear back from some fellow members on the subject

31 response(s), 50 votes
Wantsome12plzme 51 F
2  questions
Do you think just about everyone cheats at some point? - 2/24/2020

After watching a movie that broached the subject, my neighbor and I got into an in depth conversation about cheating. She says that everyone is able to cheat once the honeymoon phase is over. And states that all they need is the opportunity to get away with it. I on the other hand think that it has more to do with a person's character and integrity. Now I'm asking the BlackSexMatch.com community for ...

22 response(s), 17 votes
SarahLem80 40 F
4  questions
First time - 2/23/2020

Who was the first person you cheated with? How did you know them? What did you do?

5 response(s), 6 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
Sex and Marriage - 2/23/2020

So, I've seen a lot of the guys I went to high school with get married and have lately. But I'm finding that they're all pretty much complaining that the sex stops after marriage or it's just not the same, which got me thinking... Can a marriage survive if the sex is completely gone but the relationship is still pretty solid?

24 response(s), 13 votes
rm_undermythong 40 F
51  questions
Score 1.1
Everyone has heard the saying. - 2/22/2020

I am sure everyone has heard the saying MILF I say we come up with a new one MILL which stands for ---mothers I like licking what is your opinion ?

51 response(s), 103 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Married to a SEX addicted woman - 2/21/2020

While having a drink with a few people, one guy complaint how he suffers under his wife sex addiction. When asked about it, he claimed that his wife demands to be intimate about 3 to 4 times a week. I feel bad for this poor guy, 3 to 4 times a week and now I wonder what you think. What is a sex addiction and what is a healthy sexual desire for a woman who is ...

72 response(s), 76 votes
NZ_DashnD 64 M
3  questions
Story Links not working - 2/21/2020

Can anyone tell why the links to a contributors other stories do not work and or if there is a work around to this problem. <br><br> It's really annoying when you come across a great story and want to read others from the same author only to get sent to a blank page. <br><br> Regards, An Avid Reader

13 response(s), 15 votes
Sexei_Doheragary 29 C
2  questions
COUPLES! Were you guys having 3somes and moresomes before you met each other? - 2/21/2020

Maybe one of you were or maybe both of you were. Or maybe this is new for you both! love to know

30 response(s), 23 votes
justjames587 55 M
1  question
Meeting people though BlackSexMatch.com - 2/20/2020

Has anyone actually met up with a real person after connecting on BlackSexMatch.com?

45 response(s), 36 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
What's in a name? gender neutral names etc. - 2/20/2020

When we first started using the internet to chat we used our real names. But because we both have relatively gender neutral names it caused confusion. <br><br> [although it was fun fucking with the single men who thought they were chatting with the female. They'd want to meet 'alone'. After they got me to agree I'd tell them I was the male then ask them when ...

13 response(s), 16 votes
Hawkfan533333 30 M
8  questions
Easier on here or in person? - 2/20/2020

Do you think its easier to carry on a conversation on here or in person? Its easier for me in person to carry on a conversation, and to let my personality show. I have a big personality in person, and like to joke and can make people comfortable talking with me. On here it's much harder for me to show that side of myself through typing. Do you have any tips for me. I definitely over think ...

24 response(s), 23 votes
Novel Corona virus (2019-nCoV) / meeting strangers? - 2/20/2020

I have decided not meet with anyone for a while for sex or for any other physical contact due to Covid-19 spreading fast all over the world and we are never sure where people have beeen to last couple of months or whom they have been in contact with. I know we can catch flu virus if we have not had flu shots or other viruses from people as well but i think it's better to be safe then ...

60 response(s), 71 votes
sextoybabe77 42 F
7  questions
ice breaker...... - 2/20/2020

what happened to the ice breaker and thoughts on the changes to the site

5 response(s), 5 votes
Spunsubinfl 39 M
11  questions
Anyone interested in working on a webcam site? - 2/19/2020

I'd love to try it out if any Dom's are interested. Thinking that it might be best job ever.....

7 response(s), 29 votes
worldlyfuck 32 M
1  question
Why do live webcam models react so excitedly when some viewers join the channel? - 2/19/2020

New member. <br><br> Noticed on numerous occasions, live webcam babes are bored and don't even notice me when i sign in. <br><br> Then, all of a sudden, they'd perk up and start acting all sexy and horny like. <br><br> I noticed this often happens when another viewer joins the channel. <br><br> Why is this? Is it some special member/VIP ...

24 response(s), 13 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
Pardon the 2nd question - 2/19/2020

What are appropriate "question" or subjects here? <br><br> I see a lot of "what advice are you asking for", "this belongs in a blog", and other "not here" comments. <br><br> Often in the "size" type questions get "check the archives" [like a hall of mirrors each post "reflects same thing]. Personal ...

60 response(s), 33 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
SECOND CHANCE !!! - 2/19/2020

I met a guy on the site 2 years ago . We had an instant connection but i got a job promotion two days after our meeting and my schedule became hectic before we could pursue anything. Anyone joins in a management position can relate.We did communicate but he was so impatient to even wait another week. I kept communicating but he never responded to my msgs . Fast forward he contacted me last ...

47 response(s), 37 votes
Hawkfan533333 30 M
8  questions
First time with a couple - 2/18/2020

I have been approached couples, and it's definitely something I'm interested in. Was wondering if you have any advice on this topic, or if you have joined a couple, what was your experience like the first time.

18 response(s), 13 votes
Hawkfan533333 30 M
8  questions
Bi or gay male vs bi/gay female vs transgender. - 2/15/2020

Do you think bi or gay men, bi/gay female or transgender people, are viewed differently? Is it easier or generally more accepted to be a bi/gay male, bi/gay female, or transgender, or is it about equal in your opinion. And if your wondering I identify as bi curious on here, and wld never feel comfortable letting that come out to ppl I know.

23 response(s), 23 votes
HothornedRed 44 F
4  questions
Does size really matter to us Ladies?? - 2/15/2020

Size is all well and good but would you turn down a lower based on a small penis ? I often think size is a much bigger issue for men than women.

My husband is an average 6 inch erect man and we have a great sex life .

Before I met him I'd had both bigger and smaller lovers , again with good sex .

Penis size doesn't matter to me half as much as men think it does, and I ...

21 response(s), 25 votes
albanynycouple51 59 C
8  questions
Score 0.7
input on green door swingers sex club las vegas nv ,how is it ? - 2/12/2020

we going thrus feb 27 and seeking info on the club who goes hows the rooms n play ares ? would you go back ? any and all info welcome ty .
...

3 response(s), 15 votes
SarahLem80 40 F
4  questions
First time - 2/12/2020

Who was the first person you cheated with? How did you know them? What did you do?

34 response(s), 58 votes
AnewWoman 61 F
139  questions
Grammar, lack of grammar, and culture - 2/11/2020

I am by far not the best with grammar these days, but other than this site dropping keywords occasionally, I would like to think I generally get my point across. We do seem to have our fair share of grammar critics on this site, but I suppose if they can't say something negative about a post they can at least say something negative about the grammar of a post. I use to be married to a ...

45 response(s), 51 votes
Caught Feelings - 2/10/2020

I met someone from this site and have been seeing him for the past few months. We usually meet once a month to do the deed but we also go to dinner in between our sessions too. My feelings are pretty preliminary, initial crush developing but I don't know what to do or if/how I should tell them. I get pretty mixed feelings from my partner so I'm not entirely sure how he feels. ...

29 response(s), 36 votes
threesome of one man with two women - 2/9/2020

is it a better experience for the man if the two women are solely heterosexual or if the two women are girl friendly? In short, does it matter or does the guy benefit from being the sole focus of attention of the two women have no sex with each other

4 response(s), 5 votes
Hawkfan533333 30 M
8  questions
Ex just got divorced - 2/9/2020

So I got engaged to this girl around 9 years ago, and I broke it off because I was 22, and decided I wasn't ready for that kind of commitment yet. So she ended up getting married a few years down the road, but just recently got divorced. She sent me a friend request on Facebook, and we messaged for a short time, which is how I found out about her divorce. So one I dnt know what the friend ...

36 response(s), 22 votes
Sexei_Doheragary 29 C
2  questions
Would you read a Sex Party Blog Post? - 2/8/2020

We're considering writing a blog about a sex party where Sexei had 5 guys and 7 women (not all at once but through the course of the night). Would you read it?

39 response(s), 29 votes
DolAmroth01 50 M
2  questions
Is height important? - 2/8/2020

Does the height of a partner make any difference? I am 6-4 and I know the old maxim "we're all the same height when lying down" but I do feel I would prefer someone who is somewhere near my height. <br><br> There are certain positions where it helps and it makes it easier when out together if there isn't a big difference in height. Walking together is an example. ...

38 response(s), 41 votes
HungUSMCvet 37 M
2  questions
No shows! - 2/8/2020

Why agree to meet then not show up? I get we are all on here for millions of reasons. If you want dirty chat, say so. If you want NSA/FWB, say so. Its not too hard to communicate, we are all adults. Does anyone else have this problem?

40 response(s), 39 votes
biflydog 50 M
5  questions
Feelings... - 2/8/2020

So, you've been playing with a boyfriend/girlfriend couple for some time now, not only threesomes but solo as well. Lately she's been coming over solo more frequently, always with some excuse why he can't make it this time (he's been sick, on a business trip, working late, etc.). Not only that but she's been spending more time with you afterwards, not the wham bam thank you ...

22 response(s), 21 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
What's the best position for anal? - 2/7/2020

The hotter way for me is doggy, but I find lying on my back with my legs behind my head is a bit easier to take it. <br><br> What do you people think us the best position?

20 response(s), 33 votes
rm_apples2685 33 F
1  question
Just curious - 2/7/2020

Hello everybody, <br> I just want to ask this question to see what kind of annswer will I get from my females and from my males. The question is does size really matter for males for their penis'? And does size also matter for females as far as their butts and tits go. Males and females can answer both of the questions I am just very curious. As for me size doesnt really ...

1 response(s), 7 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
FEMALE BJ - 2/6/2020

Reading about gay, bi-guys, condoms, BJ’s and straight men accepting a BJ from a man makes me wonder While I can see that a straight guy will give in to a BJ from a guy, him being shy, drunk, desperate, just to mention a few reasons, I wonder how a gay guy would feel, if a woman would want to give him a BJ? Yes, I suspect most women are better at it, but physically there is such a ...

27 response(s), 27 votes
weerrhuu 61 C
6  questions
Score 0.7
Green Porno? - 2/6/2020

OK, we are here fooling around on the site with Alexa babbling some show from National Public Radio in the background. The show was Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me. So the guest on the show turns out to be Isabella Rossellini , has an advanced degree in Biology. She has produced a number of "educational films" regarding how animals do the nasty. We sure hope this gets through the ...

19 response(s), 30 votes
Being a Sub - 2/6/2020

Is it a requirement that a sub must agree submit any and all those want her. Is there any reason she can't choose whom submit without "losing" her sub status? Or does the very choice of picking her disqualify her from being a sub?

14 response(s), 13 votes
stilshoots 73 M
2  questions
Oral sex - 2/5/2020

My FWB and I tried oral sex with her hanging her head over side of bed , she said it was so much better than the usual way . She got really excited by it . Any theories as why ?? I'll have admit I really enjoyed it too.

24 response(s), 29 votes
stilshoots 73 M
2  questions
Oral sex - 2/5/2020

My FWB and I tried oral sex with her hanging her head over side of bed , she said it was so much better than the usual way . She got really excited by it . Any theories as why ?? I'll have admit I really enjoyed it too.

1 response(s), 1 vote
rm_slut4camuse 31 F
30  questions
Is sex better with a butt plug? - 2/4/2020

I just read a post that basically said that men enjoy sex more when they have a butt plug, because it stimulates their prostrate. Okay, but what about women? Is sex better when a woman has a butt plug? Can the guy feel it? Is it just another layer of naughty/kinky or what?

12 response(s), 17 votes
JulesICU812 50 F
1  question
Wearing butt plugs.. - 2/4/2020

I get alot of compliments on my pics wearing plugs. I'm curious to know what is it that makes them so sexy?

29 response(s), 28 votes
Chocl8Dr0p 40 F
2  questions
Pain N DA Butt? - 2/4/2020

I’m opening up to the idea of anal; fingering, butt plugs, maybe Anal sex. For those who have experience in this area, did it cause any medical conditions later?

24 response(s), 27 votes
timeforachange55 64 F
20  questions
enamas - 2/4/2020

a friend of mine wants me to give him a enema. he said it has always turned him on. even when he was young and was given enemas by his aunt. he thinks she was turned on also. i have never given one and would like to know how and what to use. also is anyone else turned on by this?

11 response(s), 21 votes
51curiousvirgin 54 F
5  questions
Anal Virgin - 2/4/2020

I recently lost my virginity to a couple I met through BlackSexMatch.com. It was wonderful! Now I'd like to try anal sex. I'm both scared and thrilled when I think about this. How can I become relaxed enough to try this?

14 response(s), 25 votes
Bopper833 36 M
1  question
How many guys out there have had a threesome - 2/4/2020

Two guys one girl wierd?

41 response(s), 23 votes
threesome of one man with two women - 2/4/2020

is it a better experience for the man if the two women are solely heterosexual or if the two women are girl friendly? In short, does it matter or does the guy benefit from being the sole focus of attention of the two women have no sex with each other

23 response(s), 13 votes
Royston912 41 M
10  questions
Our survey says................... - 2/4/2020

Now were in 2020 I was wondering looking back past 20- years and how tech has evolved from phones to computers, cars, and planes, etc. Is there anything you would like to see improved or maybe something else yet to be made which you think would benefit people in the next 20- years. Just shits and giggles, this is people

20 response(s), 9 votes
XMotherMayIX 36 F
2  questions
Opinions needed - 2/4/2020

What is the sexiest thing your partner could wear lingerie/costume wise during playtime?...

45 response(s), 24 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
Post Affair - 2/4/2020

Serious question time. Has anyone's relationship ever recovered after an affair?

24 response(s), 24 votes
Condoms - 2/4/2020

Let's face it, condoms are not nearly as fun, but needed. At what point do you stop using one with a partner?

18 response(s), 17 votes
bill5432100 ,26 C
1  question
Erotic stories excellent voting - 2/4/2020

How can a story be just posted and have a high rating. You could tell if a story is good by its rating.

11 response(s), 24 votes
SarahLem80 40 F
4  questions
First time - 2/4/2020

Who was the first person you cheated with? How did you know them? What did you do?

1 response(s), 2 votes
Squirt_Professor 66 C
3  questions
Score 1.5
Censorship or virus, how to get BlackSexMatch.com's attention - 2/3/2020

In your opinion does BlackSexMatch.com censor postings to blogs, or erotic stories? Or, do they have a virus playing havoc with postings by randomly deleting words. Argument for censorship they deleted from one of my recent stories the words fucking, and along with the normal words they delete. The argument for a virus, I worked with them to fix their past habit of random deletion of words like of, by, and ...

14 response(s), 12 votes
robdessertrider2 64 M
5  questions
Do you think a man who likes anal is gay? - 2/3/2020

I am a Bi sexual man, I tend to lean gay, men are just more willing to treat sex as sex, just an act performed for the outcome, not solely attached to LOVE. As for anal play I first experienced it when I found my mothers battery operated rocket. I knew sex was about a man's penis penetrating a woman's vagina. Butt I had only one hole down there, I was hooked instantly. I wore down those ...

18 response(s), 17 votes
Hawkfan533333 30 M
8  questions
Safety - 2/3/2020

Do you feel generally safe meeting strangers on here. Do you meet first or take precautions. Being a its something iv never even gave a thought to. I'd hate to think I'm heading over to meet someone, and they just go along with it, but in the back of there mind, they're wondering if I'm a predator. What do you generally do, when meeting someone on this sight.

32 response(s), 17 votes
Sudden2020 70 M
5  questions
What happened to the IM Incoming/Busy icon????? - 2/2/2020

Just noticed that the IM Incoming/Busy icon is missing. Now there is no way to tell when someone wants to chat.

26 response(s), 18 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Big Dream-NOT a book-YOUR opinion is needed - 2/2/2020

While in NYC for Xmas, having a blast, I told myself, I am already half way to Cyrous& Ali, why not buy another ticket and keep going, in addition Werner invited his cabin in the Alps near GVA. The first 3 days I was with my young friends, having one firework and then I took off for a couple of nights, to met up with Werner and some of his friends at his cabin, expecting a cabin ...

14 response(s), 20 votes
Filoxenia01 49 M
1  question
Gold Member Fakes? - 2/2/2020

Hi All, I've seen a lot about fake profiles, so of course I have to think up a dumb question. Since gold membership actually costs something, I wouldn't expect there to be fake gold member profiles. But, has anyone encountered this unicorn? I've seen some very light profile, gold members I figured are being discreet, but...?

38 response(s), 13 votes
Hawkfan533333 30 M
8  questions
For women - 2/1/2020

It seems like all men are pretty much game for meaningless sex with most any woman will have them if there is a physical attraction. Women can mssg a guy wana come over and fuck, and the awnser is more times then not going to be yes. So why are most women(not all) the complete opposite. Most women wldnt even respond to a mssg like that. Why is this? Why are we so different when it comes to ...

33 response(s), 16 votes
Gentleman952020 25 M
2  questions
Condoms - 2/1/2020

How many of y'all actual use condoms?

5 response(s), 2 votes
Tallandhansome30 52 M
1  question
Real or Ghost Partner? - 2/1/2020

Have seen several profiles. Where you see a single picture of person. But they say their partner want have with others. But there is no picture of so said partner or description of them. All which makes ask are THEY REAL??

16 response(s), 9 votes
Squirt_Professor 66 C
3  questions
Score 1.5
Counterpart word to Slut - 2/1/2020

Is there a counterpart word as degrading to the as the word slut is to women?

40 response(s), 49 votes
Mega_manX 41 M
3  questions
LTR on BlackSexMatch.com - 2/1/2020

Serious question, has anyone ever found a long term relationship on this site? How long did it last if so?

6 response(s), 2 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
Is he gay if he loves fucking my ass? - 2/1/2020

I have a straight and married guy that loved fuck from time time. He calls himself straight, but the dude loves ass, so I'm thinking he's bi but won't admit it. Maybe he likes being in a straight relationship but loves fucking tight ass? IT's honestly not a big deal, but I'm curious. <br><br> What do you think?

51 response(s), 40 votes
HungUSMCvet 37 M
2  questions
To stay or go? - 2/1/2020

Would you stay with someone because of the sex? If you have, how did it end?

21 response(s), 17 votes
denduzz 58 M
1  question
how can i get more pussy - 1/31/2020

how can i increase the number of times i get laid

29 response(s), 27 votes
Squirt_Professor 66 C
3  questions
Score 1.5
Is sex meaningless? - 1/31/2020

Have a friend and notice on some profiles that individuals claim sex is meaningless. Or, it's just sex! Do you agree fuck anyone and everyone you want, no chemistry, no attraction, it's just sex, it is meaningless?

42 response(s), 42 votes
For the straight men. - 1/31/2020

question is do men enjoy watching a woman give head? I am straight and not bi but I enjoy watching it in porn and in person. Lets hear your opinions.

20 response(s), 40 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
For All Those Fitness Buffs - 1/31/2020

What's are your favourite things put in your power smoothie after a workout? Looking switch mine up a bit.

12 response(s), 9 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
A poor business venture - 1/31/2020

Every site has good and bad . What my discussion is, do sites like this really want you to succeed? <br><br> If you meet someone from here, they stand to lose two active members. Most likely two paying members. <br><br> So what do you think? Are "dating" sites really set up for ease of meeting?

27 response(s), 25 votes
XMotherMayIX 36 F
2  questions
Opinions needed - 1/31/2020

What is the sexiest thing your partner could wear lingerie/costume wise during playtime?...

12 response(s), 5 votes
tdw720 60 M
1  question
Score 0.1
Has anyone ever used a Money order to purchase a membership - 1/31/2020

Hello BlackSexMatch.com members! I used to be a gold member & had a blast doing so. When the economy took a nose dive I had to cut some expenses & switch to a standard membership. Now things are starting to look better now I want to go back to GOLD. I do not want to use a credit card & they have a money order alternative that i would like to try. Have any of you used this method of payment ? were ...

20 response(s), 14 votes
Gentleman952020 25 M
2  questions
Condoms - 1/30/2020

How many of y'all actual use condoms?

31 response(s), 40 votes
Gold Membership. - 1/30/2020

Yes or no??

37 response(s), 32 votes
threesome of one man with two women - 1/30/2020

is it a better experience for the man if the two women are solely heterosexual or if the two women are girl friendly? In short, does it matter or does the guy benefit from being the sole focus of attention of the two women have no sex with each other

1 response(s), 1 vote
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
Death and swinging - 1/29/2020

We are a member of a "travel" consisting of "couples only". The "owner" insists/requires couples only. Neither the F or M of a couple can participate in any type of activities alone. That included my wife one year when I was in the hospital on the day of a party. <br><br> Every year she hosts a St Patrick's Day party for the at her place. ...

40 response(s), 29 votes
Darrendko92503 30 M
2  questions
Anal - 1/29/2020

Do women really actually enjoy anal? Or do they do it just to please the man?

28 response(s), 41 votes
Repeating - 1/29/2020

Do people expect a 2nd encounter? Is it usual that a BlackSexMatch.com person becomes a regular one?

21 response(s), 16 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Gentlemen - 1/29/2020

Is a female mistaken if she expects to find men on BlackSexMatch.com who behave like gentlemen? In the last few days, I have received some messages which I found way over the line and disgusting. I am ready to come over and f... your c... really good. I want to f... you tonight, call me and I will f... and use you all night. I have the best dick, I will f... the s.. out of you, etc. etc. Are there ...

36 response(s), 41 votes
lukeaskewedx2 60 M
14  questions
Strange ? - 1/29/2020

Did I see 6 or 7 questions go poof today ?

29 response(s), 29 votes
SiOcean4 40 M
2  questions
Changing location - 1/29/2020

I’m trying to change my location for the weekend but it’s not changing chat location or matches. <br><br> Any would be appreciated.

14 response(s), 12 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
Sex Tapes - 1/29/2020

For those who like to make them, do you ever feel like you up the performance? I feel like when I'm being filmed, I start to amp up the porn factor just a bit. Or does it not phase you?

11 response(s), 16 votes
SexyPerth49 71 M
3  questions
Question for experienced male doms - 1/29/2020

What are the usual financial arrangements for a live in salve / domestic servant? <br><br> Thanks

15 response(s), 18 votes
SexyPerth49 71 M
3  questions
For female subs - 1/29/2020

What are your expectations re financial arrangements if you live with a Dom / Master? Is it usual for a sub to work for employment? <br><br> Thanks

17 response(s), 15 votes
lookg4fun4all 61 M
1  question
does anyone read these questions? - 1/29/2020

Let me now if anyone reads these questions? If so I am curious are you happy with BlackSexMatch.com? The point system? The ?

38 response(s), 26 votes
MercedCouple209 49 C
3  questions
Pegging and homophobic men - 1/28/2020

In case you missed it, or this is the first time you’re hearing about this empowering sex act, pegging is when a woman wears a strap-on dildo and penetrates her partner anally. Usually, pegging is often reserved to describe the act between heterosexual couples, so it’s a woman flipping the traditional gender dynamic and “banging” the man. <br><br> Are you really that homophbic

39 response(s), 76 votes
Deleting words. - 1/28/2020

Does anyone know why this site will randomly delete words from articles written? It can ruin the flow of a story when you have to figure what word is missing.

31 response(s), 46 votes
Jaysen4moms 33 M
2  questions
Concerned about fake profiles - 1/28/2020

I think that is the one thing really holding me back from spending here. How are we able to identify profiles, is there a way to really tel or is it best guess?

34 response(s), 17 votes
Guy_B75 45 M
2  questions
Anybody find difficult to talk with women in here that are not looking for money? - 1/28/2020

I see that a lot of women are actually "Working" here....Or its just me?

16 response(s), 25 votes
Goodloveingman69 32 M
3  questions
Living - 1/28/2020

How long have you been without sex?

24 response(s), 29 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Acceptable Time - 1/28/2020

What is an acceptable amount of time to be spent on BlackSexMatch.com for someone who is gainfully employed? When you log in you are already confronted with exiting videos& pics, of which there are plenty of in the log on screen . You start thinking, awesome, could we be a match, could I stop by while traveling, does he, she, they have the same desires? You watch the clip, you look at the pics, ...

35 response(s), 69 votes
BolivarMOuy 48 M
1  question
limits and safewords - 1/28/2020

I am curious as the opinion of others about what they think about the use of safewords and limits within meeting others. Do you use them? Do you think they are needed? Do you think they are important?

39 response(s), 32 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
Gag Reflex - 1/28/2020

I'm pretty good with my gag reflex depending on how big he is. But is a gag reflex a deal breaker for anyone?

18 response(s), 21 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
What's your best oral advice? - 1/27/2020

Curious to know your thoughts

32 response(s), 36 votes
nehouguy 42 C
1  question
Free Chats? - 1/26/2020

Didn't this used to give you a few free chats , on the house, every day?

33 response(s), 34 votes
rubb_ens3 35 M
2  questions
preferencias! para todos - 1/26/2020

No me falleis! donde os gusta correros (si soys chicos) o que se os corran (si sois chicas)? <br><br> A) dentro cara C) boca D) tetas E) culo F) Otro

6 response(s), 8 votes
ChopTank62 59 M
4  questions
Score 0.1
What site are you on? - 1/26/2020

[image] <br><br> As I communicate with people and somehow it gets to the point that the conversation comes around to what site 'we' are on, the majority have never heard of Senior Sizzle. <br><br> I realize that BlackSexMatch.com has multiple sites that somehow overlap and skew the membership numbers, so what I ask is what site are you on?

17 response(s), 9 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
When a lie has truth to it - 1/25/2020

Oh the use of spin to embellish. <br><br> When you read profiles have you ever been impressed at what is written only to find it wasn't quite true? Yet not really an all out lie . <br><br> Let me give you a couple personal 'facts' that not telling the back story seems quite Spin if you will. <br><br> 1] I beat a former NFL player out as league ...

27 response(s), 27 votes
dirtydad63 56 M
2  questions
morals police - 1/25/2020

Not sure I understand the people on here are trying to be the moral police in the erotic stories section. what part of stories don't you understand? and if your that worried about moral content what are you doing here you pervert...

22 response(s), 44 votes
BigMilkyTits 44 F
1  question
Standard Member Points - 1/25/2020

Whats the quickest or easiest way get more points when you're a standard member?

56 response(s), 65 votes
can u get points this way - 1/25/2020

can u get points by doing this ?

23 response(s), 25 votes
Questions and Points - 1/25/2020

How is it that after everything has been filled out, , you put pictures up, videos up and do blogs, answer question and write articles, You have to ask people for points. Why?

31 response(s), 35 votes
YoungHung4FunNow 29 M
2  questions
Earning points - 1/25/2020

What are the easiest activities to get a lot of points?

23 response(s), 26 votes
Lumbee1027 42 M
1  question
Point - 1/25/2020

Besides becoming a member. What is the best way to get points

16 response(s), 12 votes
HungCOstud9 41 M
3  questions
whats the best way to find a relationship outside of marriage? - 1/25/2020

any advice or tips, other than using this site.. going into an open relationship... looking to wax some knowledge here

20 response(s), 21 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Video and Skype verification - 1/25/2020

It was about a couple of months ago that I was contacted by a mature guy from Mobile, who was planning visit his friend who moved Cali. Being vary of mature men when it comes performance despite his assurance he is a dream manwhen it comes the bedroom, I did like his pics, the hotel he will stay at while in LAX and his writing very much. I have been with a few men from ...

23 response(s), 30 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
A touch of the flu - 1/24/2020

We meet with a new, slightly , couple last night [play was possible]. the F was visibly ill. She was coughing, red runny nose, and other signs. <br><br> She said she had a "touch of the flu". They didn't want to cancel and seem . We left before we were seated. <br><br> WTF is a "touch" of the flu? Personally, at my age and health, a flu virus ...

36 response(s), 21 votes
Iceking6996 34 M
4  questions
ice breaker? - 1/24/2020

What is the icebreaker? i saw it mentioned in a blog

26 response(s), 25 votes
tightsmoothfuck 31 M
11  questions
Sex Positions - 1/24/2020

What's your favorite? I love doggy because I love my ass being slapped while getting nailed.

24 response(s), 42 votes
lake1997 56 M
1  question
why is it so hard to hook up on here ? - 1/23/2020

I mean really . it's even hard get someone chat on , I mean if you are on isn't that why you are on it ?

53 response(s), 37 votes
hapygoluckyguy01 32 M
1  question
How do you go about this? - 1/23/2020

Is there a better way ask and or bring this up. I had a fantasy I wanted live and kind of sprung it on her. She was stunned for awhile then day of the blue she wanted do it but in the shock of it and the worry she'd change her mind back NO you agreed. It didn't go over well both with lack of prep for self and toys while the experience didn't go well due to stuff not ...

17 response(s), 27 votes
sex - 1/23/2020

Oral Sex? Anal Sex? which do u like?

16 response(s), 13 votes
ch3rryp13 29 F
2  questions
TEST QUESTION - 1/22/2020

This is a test. Please ignore.

26 response(s), 39 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Important question - 1/22/2020

If you would be my BF or Bi-GF, what gift would you like to receive from Europe when I meet up with you again? Xmas is also upon us, what would you like for Xmas , would it be OK with you if you got only 1 gift for both occasions? <br><br> + <br><br> = and I wish you all a wonderful holiday season Not Bling Owner ...

31 response(s), 53 votes
Xxentric_1 46 F
38  questions
NARCASSIST - 1/22/2020

Has anyone dated, married, a Nacassist? If so why do you think they are a narc?

20 response(s), 51 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
A difficult situation - 1/22/2020

Do you think a blog; AL or making a poll out of it would be the best way to go? While spending Xmas in NYC, I met a couple through a GF of mine, she is quite a few years younger than him. He is handsome, fun, well to do, just a wonderful gentlemen and his wife encourages him to have lovers, since she is not much into love making. However, he is only allowed to do it with a condom and while she ...

20 response(s), 20 votes
pisceslover32 45 F
8  questions
Script Errors WTF ???? - 1/22/2020

Every time I try to IM, or Flash Chat I get an error saying script error and if i don`t quit my computer will freeze. What kind of flash player do you use? Dose anyone else have this problem or something similar? ~xoXox~ {=}

9 response(s), 20 votes
jobella37 53 F
10  questions
Bisexual females - 1/22/2020

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO MEET OTHER BISEXUAL FEMALES ON HERE? I JOINED IN 20 AND ONLY MET 2 BACK THEN AND NONE SINCE. WHEN I WRITE TO THEM, THEY DON'T EVEN WRITE BACK...

31 response(s), 44 votes
lyavu 47 F
33  questions
Score 2.8
NO ATTRACTION BUT GREAT PERSONALITY . - 1/21/2020

I am sure most of you have been in situations like that . A friend talked to a guy on the site. Great conversation and connection online ..She decided to meet the guy but down side no attraction but awesome personality. He has good sexual energy.The guy has some qualities she wanted but no attraction. She is so drawn to his persona but .... What advice would you give in such a situation?

37 response(s), 63 votes
Adventurecpl47 72 C
20  questions
bathroom door - 1/21/2020

You are having some good sex with friend(s) and someone has to pee. Do you close the door?

2 response(s), 8 votes
dangbitches 55 F
35  questions
Little Confused Bling - 1/21/2020

I read the bling manager, I don't have time to make bling at this time. I tried to use the chickens I got as a gift all that came up were the numbers. I went back to see if I copied it wrong and they are gone. When I select the bling on my profile it takes me to the maker. How can I use bling? I'm not understanding it I guess. I like my chickens they are sweet and can come in handy ...

14 response(s), 23 votes
jobella37 53 F
10  questions
Bisexual females - 1/21/2020

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO MEET OTHER BISEXUAL FEMALES ON HERE? I JOINED IN 20 AND ONLY MET 2 BACK THEN AND NONE SINCE. WHEN I WRITE TO THEM, THEY DON'T EVEN WRITE BACK...

3 response(s), 5 votes
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
2020 New Year’s Resolution - 1/21/2020

Staying young, staying fit, doing some work, but also having fun, is what resolution was. Now I have a hard time balance work with fun. How do you do it? ...

36 response(s), 34 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
When a lie has truth to it - 1/21/2020

Oh the use of spin to embellish. <br><br> When you read profiles have you ever been impressed at what is written only to find it wasn't quite true? Yet not really an all out lie . <br><br> Let me give you a couple personal 'facts' that not telling the back story seems quite Spin if you will. <br><br> 1] I beat a former NFL player out as league ...

7 response(s), 1 vote
sussi1028 59 F
388  questions
Score 4.1
Big Surprise - 1/21/2020

I could not get fast enough to the hotel, was actually about 1 hour early, my expectations were high, my heart pounded hard, I was filled with love. When I got my room key I was told Ali checked in already, I jumped into the elevator like a , could not await to arrive at our floor, rushed to our suit and what a surprise. Ali & Cyrous were in fact already in the suit, but ...

13 response(s), 31 votes
bedstarr 54 F
2  questions
Piercing - 1/21/2020

I have been thinking a lot lately about getting my belly button pierced. <br><br> I am a 55 year old woman who does have belly fat. <br><br> Not sure what others would think of someone my age and size getting one. <br><br> I do have one tattoo which I got over 10 years ago. I know it is my body but what are other people's opinions. <br><br> ...

27 response(s), 39 votes
weerrhuu 61 C
6  questions
Score 0.7
State of the....... - 1/21/2020

advice line. <br><br> We would like to hear what you think of the trend of posts and responses on the advice line. We don't want opinions about the site itself. The advice line is free for all and doesn't require points to participate. So we just want to hear what you think about it. <br><br> If you like it and feel you are enjoying it completely, we would still ...

41 response(s), 45 votes
Senior sizzle? - 1/21/2020

Has anyone got some information on site called " senior sizzle" ?? Thank you in advance!

17 response(s), 15 votes
yummmmmmyMe 44 M
2  questions
wasn't it more charming without "coining" for every single mail? - 1/21/2020

I so much liked the "good old days" of BlackSexMatch.com - writing eMails without being charged, sending messages for free, watching profiles .... I blame BlackSexMatch.com for not having sex on a regular base anymore! Do I really need to from now on ...? Looking forward to your highly appreciated advice!!!! ... I the following after my original posting above: ... Just had a look at your very vivid feedbacks ...

20 response(s), 32 votes
riversidecpl4cpl 62 C
46  questions
Who is Marvin? - 1/20/2020

There is much 'in fighting' on this forum. Nothing new, it has been going on for years [over a decade in fact]. It is not uncommon for <br><br> I am recovering from another procedure and have some "free time" and decided to check out what was going on. <br><br> Missing from this round is the Tennessee Troll and the ntn profiles. {you may remember it ...

36 response(s), 41 votes
Avonsenior 66 M
8  questions
BlackSexMatch.com ambassadors does it work? - 1/20/2020

I have received emails from ambassadors in the past and it seemed that the it was not a problem with responding. Now as a std member they are blocked just like all other members. If this is the case and they cannot help other members with questions or reach others as a person representing BlackSexMatch.com What does an ambassador do or why would someone want be an ambassador?

17 response(s), 32 votes
Trapper69 63 G
29  questions
Score 2.1
Who Wants Points? - 1/20/2020

100 people can win 100, 000 points. All they have to do is not post anyplace on this website begging for points for 1 month.

40 response(s), 68 votes
Ziost113 35 M
1  question
To speak sexy or not? - 1/20/2020

Hi ladies. I'm curious when someone tries to talk to you, do you prefer them starting talking about sex on here or not? Some women seem to be angered by it even though this is a sex site. Am I wrong?

46 response(s), 33 votes
Goldenman56x 63 M
7  questions
Blowing - 1/20/2020

Do you worry about diseases when someone is blowing you?

29 response(s), 49 votes