A First Time for Everything?  

sexyldy1000 59F  
6477 posts
7/3/2020 12:50 pm
A First Time for Everything?


I can honestly say that 99% of the males who have emailed here, have been at minimum, cordial. Even those I politely 'turned down', handled it respectfully. That all changed just a short time ago this afternoon.

First thing I do when anyone contacts me, is look at their profile and pictures. This will temper how I respond.

I won't name the individual but I will say he is '57' yrs old and local .

Here's the exchange.

Him: Hi there, my name is Michael. Would you be interested in chattiing?

Me: I respectfully decline and wish you the best in your adventures.

Him: Go fuck yourself bitch ....you think you are better?? think again


He thinks about it for '30' minutes and then sends:
You dont even show your fucking face

I shook my head thinking FFS! I craft an appropriate response, press Enter and discover he has blocked 'me' . Without hesitation, I reported him 'to' BlackSexMatch.com Abuse and provided a screenshot.

Ladies: Has this happened you?

Gentleman: How do you handle 'rejection'?


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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 1:02 pm

Initially, this bothered me as it does NOT represent the types of experiences I normally have on here. Now, I can laugh it off but felt it was worth sharing.

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pocogato12 68F  
33792 posts
7/3/2020 1:03 pm

Interestingly enough I never thought to report them- I just block and move on.
Unfortunately, I find that the longer they seem to have gone "without" the ruder they become and age is no barrier.

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Tmptrzz 57F
82253 posts
7/3/2020 1:27 pm

What a real jerk he is, I am so sorry he did that to you. You were being so nice too him, I don't get why some people are so nasty, and yes I have had that happen to me too. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day..

Just your average every day run of the mill nana here!!!


BendMeOver278 29F  
2757 posts
7/3/2020 1:59 pm

I'm shocked this is your first time dealing with a person like that.
I usually stop responding and only block if they get crazy rude.
I've never reported someone for being an asshole.


lonlyforlove2 77M
16465 posts
7/3/2020 1:59 pm

Some men never understood the word gentleman, They are spoiled, and so into their self that they can't see the real world and what it offers, apologies for the poor crude guy.. have a good day, be safe..

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LMx1234 25M
13 posts
7/3/2020 2:06 pm

Haha what the hell


dafocker44 61M  
948 posts
7/3/2020 2:39 pm

Rejection is a large part of life! Cant get the right girl, get the right car, right job! Those of us that do get rejected, reject others! Don't want that one, wrong color eyes, hair, nails etc! Some folks find sucess in numbers!! Broad shotgun blast!! Bound to hit something!! kiss enough frongs and you will find the prince! Ask enough girls and one will eventually say yes!!!

I could be mistaken!

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Brownie202 63F  
1831 posts
7/3/2020 2:56 pm

Yes it has. A few times before I even ignored the message. I mark all as spam which automatically gets it added to my blocked list. The not meeting at this time means nothing to the ones who sent a message. So does all or most of my preferences. Younger ones don't like I want my age. A few dont like I am not meeting. That is why I report all as spam. I believe I have I will do so on my profile. They refuse to believe I am not meeting. Maybe they think they are special. Ummm no they are not.

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classicalrebel4 65M  
1465 posts
7/3/2020 3:00 pm

I don't contact anyone, therefore I can honestly say that I've never been rejected, lol. Of those that contact me that I rejected usually take it well and even apologize for bothering me.

Please don't let me be misunderstood.


onlygoodtimes20 40M

7/3/2020 3:15 pm

people are crazy!


redrockrascal 61M
21616 posts
7/3/2020 3:22 pm

How do you handle 'rejection'?As a non-paying member my view may be different than others. I would prefer rejection to no response at all. No response leaves me wondering if the message got through (no matter the way it was sent) or not, then should I try again or even a third time.

Earlier this year I messaged a woman - for the third time. When we met it turned out she had not seen the first 2.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 3:27 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Interestingly enough I never thought to report them- I just block and move on.
    Unfortunately, I find that the longer they seem to have gone "without" the ruder they become and age is no barrier.
I normally would just block also. But this guy had contacted me before. He obviously had a short memory or someone put him up to it. I have NEVER been treated like that before by anyone.

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1seeking1 55F
3148 posts
7/3/2020 3:28 pm

Sadly has happened more then once to me. Delete, ignore and block. Glad you can laugh about it.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 3:32 pm

    Quoting BendMeOver278:
    I'm shocked this is your first time dealing with a person like that.
    I usually stop responding and only block if they get crazy rude.
    I've never reported someone for being an asshole.
I am not new on here. And yes, it is the first time anyone has reacted that way. To act like a spoiled brat and block me just shows why he isn’t successful on here. Thanks for sharing your opinion.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 3:35 pm

Not crazy as much as socially inadequate. It’s the first time I reported someone for their correspondence to me. Thanks for stopping by.

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mamacita38dd 41F
51310 posts
7/3/2020 4:02 pm

    Quoting  :

You accept all Pablo... even the stalkers? Happy Friday 🥃🥃🥃


mamacita38dd 41F
51310 posts
7/3/2020 4:06 pm

You know my friend I find it funny when someone here gets a little bit of recognition that someone sends a minion or two to chat you up... just saying
Hope you blocked him back, such a 🐤💩 to block you when you politely declined, smfh!


Winktothink 61M

7/3/2020 4:56 pm

Some idiots about we will never be suitedcto everyone. And the worldcis bigger than this. Keep calm everyone its stressful enough at time


onelastchan00 50F  
1384 posts
7/3/2020 5:28 pm

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    You know my friend I find it funny when someone here gets a little bit of recognition that someone sends a minion or two to chat you up... just saying
    Hope you blocked him back, such a 🐤💩 to block you when you politely declined, smfh!
I agree something is rotting in Denmark
Sounds fishy to me....I honestly bet i know his user name here too lol jus sayin

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Kalbi54 65M
1229 posts
7/3/2020 5:30 pm

I usually avoid initiating anything except conversation on their blog. I avoid getting rejected


ULIXBIG 65M
7835 posts
7/3/2020 6:11 pm

I take rejection in my stride. I would usually thank them for having responded at all.
If someone is very rude, I block them. I don't bother reacting in such a case.


p1947q 73M  
56 posts
7/3/2020 6:16 pm

I don't consider it a rejection - it is just some one's preference for whatever their reasons are. Like you I read profiles from pictures I like to those who reach out to me. I usually pass on the very short profiles and any that I don't seem to check many of their likes. Seems to me it would be rather egotistical and immature to expect everyone I contact to want to pursue even a distant chat.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:16 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    What a real jerk he is, I am so sorry he did that to you. You were being so nice too him, I don't get why some people are so nasty, and yes I have had that happen to me too. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day..
I guess some people act tough when they are hiding behind a computer screen. They haven't learned that no one is obligated to 'talk' to them if there is no reason to want to. Hope you enjoy a great July 4th

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:21 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Some men never understood the word gentleman, They are spoiled, and so into their self that they can't see the real world and what it offers, apologies for the poor crude guy.. have a good day, be safe..
Funny thing is, this guy has contacted me before. I didn't recognize the name but soon as I clicked on the pics, I did. Since when is anyone obligated to 'chat' if there's no reason to want to? Thankfully, I brushed if off. Thank you for dropping by.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:22 pm

Yes - my words exactly.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:24 pm

    Quoting  :

Really? I am sure, like everyone, you are not immune to having encountered it. If not here, elsewhere.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:27 pm

    Quoting dafocker44:
    Rejection is a large part of life! Cant get the right girl, get the right car, right job! Those of us that do get rejected, reject others! Don't want that one, wrong color eyes, hair, nails etc! Some folks find sucess in numbers!! Broad shotgun blast!! Bound to hit something!! kiss enough frongs and you will find the prince! Ask enough girls and one will eventually say yes!!!

    I could be mistaken!
You may be right, but this guy had emailed me before. I was just as polite in my 'No Thank You'. Did he think I would given in to his 'charms' this time? His response was uncalled for. Thanks for stopping by and offering your perspective.

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powercaps716 63M
29255 posts
7/3/2020 6:28 pm

since this is a sex site they look at you and some easy target, they didn't take the time to know you and understand you....... now he has just lost out on meeting someone nice and friendly ........his lost ,


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:30 pm

    Quoting Brownie202:
    Yes it has. A few times before I even ignored the message. I mark all as spam which automatically gets it added to my blocked list. The not meeting at this time means nothing to the ones who sent a message. So does all or most of my preferences. Younger ones don't like I want my age. A few dont like I am not meeting. That is why I report all as spam. I believe I have I will do so on my profile. They refuse to believe I am not meeting. Maybe they think they are special. Ummm no they are not.
What a great way to deal with it! Saves all the hassle and nastiness. Seems too many feel 'entitled' because they believe the hype the site pumps out. Thank you for dropping by and sharing your experience.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:33 pm

    Quoting  :

I agree with your analysis except it seems they join here, expecting everyone is going to jump to their requests / demands / expectations. The reaction was completely uncalled for and the topper was blocking me! No worries, I am a strong, resilient woman and this was only a blip.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:35 pm

    Quoting classicalrebel4:
    I don't contact anyone, therefore I can honestly say that I've never been rejected, lol. Of those that contact me that I rejected usually take it well and even apologize for bothering me.
Sounds like your overall experience has been positive. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your observations.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:37 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    How do you handle 'rejection'?As a non-paying member my view may be different than others. I would prefer rejection to no response at all. No response leaves me wondering if the message got through (no matter the way it was sent) or not, then should I try again or even a third time.

    Earlier this year I messaged a woman - for the third time. When we met it turned out she had not seen the first 2.
I agree, a response of some sort (hopefully coherent and polite) is better than none. Although, I have seen some clarify in their profile that 'no response IS a response'. Sounds like the third time was the charm

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:39 pm

    Quoting 1seeking1:
    Sadly has happened more then once to me. Delete, ignore and block. Glad you can laugh about it.
Sorry to hear that you experienced something similar. There's simply no excuse for crude language and insults. Yes, have to sit back and laugh about it and move on. Thanks for stopping by.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:41 pm

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    You accept all Pablo... even the stalkers? Happy Friday 🥃🥃🥃
I think he was saying he's never been rejected? Seriously? Everyone has been.

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mc_justmc 60M
6316 posts
7/3/2020 6:43 pm

rejection? I avoid rejection by never asking, it's been a success!!!


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:46 pm

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    You know my friend I find it funny when someone here gets a little bit of recognition that someone sends a minion or two to chat you up... just saying
    Hope you blocked him back, such a 🐤💩 to block you when you politely declined, smfh!
Sadly, it seems anything is possible on here. Of course i blocked him and .reported him. Kind of suspicious that he has contacted me before under a different profile name. Soon as I clicked on his pictures, I recognized one of them.

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takeout42 65M  
14 posts
7/3/2020 6:53 pm

So sorry you had to experience that immaturity. Glad to be part of your 99% my friend!


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 6:58 pm

    Quoting Winktothink:
    Some idiots about we will never be suitedcto everyone. And the worldcis bigger than this. Keep calm everyone its stressful enough at time
Yes - the world is NOT centered around BlackSexMatch.com despite how it may be promoted.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 7:01 pm

    Quoting onelastchan00:
    I agree something is rotting in Denmark
    Sounds fishy to me....I honestly bet i know his user name here too lol jus sayin
Some people must have way too much time on their hands to worry about what anyone else is doing on here. Message me privately and I will give you his profile name. Funny thing is, he has contacted me before under a different profile name. I didn't recognize him until I clicked on his pictures and saw one familiar one.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 7:03 pm

    Quoting Kalbi54:
    I usually avoid initiating anything except conversation on their blog. I avoid getting rejected
Some people enjoy using their blog for 'conversation', although anyone can delete a comment they don't like. Nice to see you dropping by and commenting

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 7:04 pm

    Quoting ULIXBIG:
    I take rejection in my stride. I would usually thank them for having responded at all.
    If someone is very rude, I block them. I don't bother reacting in such a case.
Sounds like you have a process that is effective for you in dealing with contacts on here. Thanks for stopping by and sharing it.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 7:07 pm

    Quoting p1947q:
    I don't consider it a rejection - it is just some one's preference for whatever their reasons are. Like you I read profiles from pictures I like to those who reach out to me. I usually pass on the very short profiles and any that I don't seem to check many of their likes. Seems to me it would be rather egotistical and immature to expect everyone I contact to want to pursue even a distant chat.
Too bad some people don't share you logical approach for dealing with it. I appreciate you stopping by and sharing your perspective.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 7:10 pm

    Quoting powercaps716:
    since this is a sex site they look at you and some easy target, they didn't take the time to know you and understand you....... now he has just lost out on meeting someone nice and friendly ........his lost ,
Thank you for the compliment. However, I never would have agreed to meet him. We have absolutely nothing in common. And as I have mentioned in previous comments, he had contacted me before under a different profile name. I only realized who is was when I read the profile AND clicked on the pictures and recognized one of them. Thanks for stopping by.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 8:35 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    rejection? I avoid rejection by never asking, it's been a success!!!
What a great idea! You don’t ask, you just take? No doubt you are ‘successful’ in many ways 😊.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/3/2020 8:39 pm

    Quoting takeout42:
    So sorry you had to experience that immaturity. Glad to be part of your 99% my friend!
I am certainly glad you are in the ‘99%’ too 😊. Nice to see dropping by.

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ProfessorNaught 107M
1168 posts
7/3/2020 11:46 pm

    Quoting BendMeOver278:
    I'm shocked this is your first time dealing with a person like that.
    I usually stop responding and only block if they get crazy rude.
    I've never reported someone for being an asshole.
@ 'shocked'


ProfessorNaught 107M
1168 posts
7/3/2020 11:50 pm

Unfortunately, you could have, and probably have, met this type of personality somewhere and at sometime in public.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/4/2020 12:32 am

    Quoting ProfessorNaught:
    Unfortunately, you could have, and probably have, met this type of personality somewhere and at sometime in public.
You might think the odds would be in favour of that. However, to the best of my knowledge, No, I haven’t.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/4/2020 12:39 am

There have been posts by others that outline similar experiences. It does happen more frequently than many would like to acknowledge. I have no idea how many email exchanges I have had in the duration of being a member. For me, this was a first.

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easyrider4008 63M
1438 posts
7/4/2020 2:34 am

No time for people being offensive, a waste of energy replying to them, it just feeds their nasty ego.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/4/2020 3:17 am

    Quoting easyrider4008:
    No time for people being offensive, a waste of energy replying to them, it just feeds their nasty ego.
Yes I agree that’s true. Normally I wouldn’t bother but I knew that guy had contacted me before. I wasn’t going to stoop to his level of vulgarity but set him straight that his language and attitude was unacceptable. But, he took that opportunity away.

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mc_justmc 60M
6316 posts
7/4/2020 5:21 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    What a great idea! You don’t ask, you just take? No doubt you are ‘successful’ in many ways 😊.
No, I don't take. I don't ask and I don't get anything, but I avoid rejection by not participating.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/4/2020 6:02 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    No, I don't take. I don't ask and I don't get anything, but I avoid rejection by not participating.
Well gee that doesn't sound like a whole lot of fun . It's hard to picture you being 'rejected' by anyone. I do hope you enjoy your July 4th weekend

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pocogato12 68F  
33792 posts
7/4/2020 9:05 am

well I now have a winner and he has been reported. First contact ws from Portland Maine. The one today was from Roxbury MA. I copied and pasted it all to ABUSE team and once I know they have responded I am going to block. His name is igotitrealbad and he's full of so much BS I can teven imagine how he lives
had to test it first...I ran truluvlife.com for 8 years and I've seen it all and cleaned it up. In the end, I have over 250,000 members and twice as many blogs. I want to date safe, I've been drugged 4 or, 5 times.
6/28/2020 4:50 am

When I got your first message it was from Portland Maine now you are in Roxbury MA let's talk abut honesty or fakes
7/4/2020 10:54 am

yeah, I have money...I own a business....I go all over. so there nah!
7/4/2020 11:05 am
take that and smoke it dummy
7/4/2020 11:06 am
I can make 1000's a day sitting on my ass...what do you think of that? I have an ebay store and I own a multi security agency.
7/4/2020 11:08 am
bet that sticks in your throat doesn't it???
7/4/2020 11:09 am
ebay: "area51cent"
clovisai.com multi-security agency it's not set up because it's meant to be like that so, people can contact me in secret.
7/4/2020 11:15 am
I owned truluvlife.com corp 9 years....I had 3 accounts deactivated
here....want the usernames? I'm pretty smart....AI stuff.
7/4/2020 11:33 am
that's one they deleted the rest out of my mail.

7/4/2020 11:34 am
she said she was the only real person where she was...what a joke...watch out for yourself....if you need help with that...I'm more than happy to oblige.
7/4/2020 11:35 am
I don't know why I'm here really this place is disgusting...I'm just so lonely. Sorry.
7/4/2020 11:38 am
I don't mean to be a drag.
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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/4/2020 11:04 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    well I now have a winner and he has been reported. First contact ws from Portland Maine. The one today was from Roxbury MA. I copied and pasted it all to ABUSE team and once I know they have responded I am going to block. His name is igotitrealbad and he's full of so much BS I can teven imagine how he lives
    had to test it first...I ran truluvlife.com for 8 years and I've seen it all and cleaned it up. In the end, I have over 250,000 members and twice as many blogs. I want to date safe, I've been drugged 4 or, 5 times.
    6/28/2020 4:50 am

    When I got your first message it was from Portland Maine now you are in Roxbury MA let's talk abut honesty or fakes
    7/4/2020 10:54 am

    yeah, I have money...I own a business....I go all over. so there nah!
    7/4/2020 11:05 am
    take that and smoke it dummy
    7/4/2020 11:06 am
    I can make 1000's a day sitting on my ass...what do you think of that? I have an ebay store and I own a multi security agency.
    7/4/2020 11:08 am
    bet that sticks in your throat doesn't it???
    7/4/2020 11:09 am
    ebay: "area51cent"
    clovisai.com multi-security agency it's not set up because it's meant to be like that so, people can contact me in secret.
    7/4/2020 11:15 am
    I owned truluvlife.com corp 9 years....I had 3 accounts deactivated
    here....want the usernames? I'm pretty smart....AI stuff.
    7/4/2020 11:33 am
    that's one they deleted the rest out of my mail.

    7/4/2020 11:34 am
    she said she was the only real person where she was...what a joke...watch out for yourself....if you need help with that...I'm more than happy to oblige.
    7/4/2020 11:35 am
    I don't know why I'm here really this place is disgusting...I'm just so lonely. Sorry.
    7/4/2020 11:38 am
    I don't mean to be a drag.
    Reply within 48 hours and get 20 points
What can I say? It takes all kinds? Some people get real brave when they are hiding behind a computer screen, often in a darkened basement. People like that have to be straightened out right away. Silence is consent and they will never smarten up if they are brought to task for it. Shake it off and don't let it bother you.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/4/2020 11:06 am

    Quoting  :

I had NO interest in him. There was absolutely No redeeming qualities that would make me want to 'chat' with him. I agree with your comments and trust me, I haven't given him a second thought. Thank you for dropping by and sharing your perspective.

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drinksprite62 57M
4840 posts
7/4/2020 1:26 pm

I handle rejection with dignity. I know not everyone is going to be into me. We all have different tastes.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/4/2020 2:04 pm

    Quoting drinksprite62:
    I handle rejection with dignity. I know not everyone is going to be into me. We all have different tastes.
Everyone should handle it the way that you do. Sadly, they don’t. Have a great weekend 😊.

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MrRareity 60M  
3922 posts
7/4/2020 7:04 pm

We are alike in many ways. When I write to someone I'm interested in I am polite hopefully I'll get a response. Rather good or bad I look at it as at least they took the time to write me. If someone takes the time to write me and I'm not interested I send them a polite thank you but no thank you letter. I have never sent or will I a letter like the one you received. We both have to much class for that.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/5/2020 3:48 am

    Quoting MrRareity:
    We are alike in many ways. When I write to someone I'm interested in I am polite hopefully I'll get a response. Rather good or bad I look at it as at least they took the time to write me. If someone takes the time to write me and I'm not interested I send them a polite thank you but no thank you letter. I have never sent or will I a letter like the one you received. We both have to much class for that.
I couldn’t imagine you handling the situation the way he did. Being respectful and courteous costs nothing.

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trixietrixster 52F  
1635 posts
7/5/2020 12:56 pm

My response is: "Appreciate your interest, tho, I am going to decline. The best to you!" Then, I get "your loss", "you are fat and ugly", etc. Not sure why someone can't just accept a no interest without being ignorant. Some seem to think anonymity means amp up the douche-bagism. Sorry you had to deal with that crap ... *huggles*

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/5/2020 1:58 pm

    Quoting trixietrixster:
    My response is: "Appreciate your interest, tho, I am going to decline. The best to you!" Then, I get "your loss", "you are fat and ugly", etc. Not sure why someone can't just accept a no interest without being ignorant. Some seem to think anonymity means amp up the douche-bagism. Sorry you had to deal with that crap ... *huggles*
I wasn't sure who he was but recognized one one of his pics when I clicked on them. I knew he had contacted me before under a different profile name. Interestingly, I since put a few of his 'other' pics through Google Images and sure enough, they all are for different people. Must think he is a real player but that's NOT what I would call him
Thank you for your support and the 'huggles'.

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Sensual_GentleM 56M
302 posts
7/5/2020 5:34 pm

How do I handle rejection? I simply move on ...


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/5/2020 7:15 pm

Seems like a simple, logical way to handle it. Too bad there are many who don’t. Thank you for stopping by.

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fashionablegma 77F
7743 posts
7/6/2020 8:14 am

Most gentlemen,i will use that term loosely,do not even read a blog let alone a profile,just see a picture or see the age and send a chat request on a whim thinking i either desperate or something else that they can convince me to change my wants and needs to fit him,worse still are those who send a young picture and have a young profile talk for months then arrange to meet and never like the picture or age they said


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/6/2020 10:54 am

    Quoting fashionablegma:
    Most gentlemen,i will use that term loosely,do not even read a blog let alone a profile,just see a picture or see the age and send a chat request on a whim thinking i either desperate or something else that they can convince me to change my wants and needs to fit him,worse still are those who send a young picture and have a young profile talk for months then arrange to meet and never like the picture or age they said
Actually, most of my experience on here has been quite the opposite. Men Do read my profile and will use something in it to start a conversation. What a waste of your time to mislead you with false information.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/6/2020 10:59 am

    Quoting  :

I agree that's why I put "rejection". Thing is, when I looked at the pics I recognized one picture from another profile that had contacted me before. Was this a new profile because he had been booted off previously? Did someone 'steal' his pic? Did he think I wouldn't do my homework first? I NEVER respond to an email, IM or blog comment without first checking the person's profile. I will chalk it up to an anomaly since No One has treated me that way before. Thanks for stopping by. Perhaps you will do so again

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lighthousecollec 57F  
548 posts
7/6/2020 4:36 pm

I have gotten a few and I just delete them and go on.

I have set up a private mailbox on my Blog for your convenience.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/6/2020 5:00 pm

I would have too, except I recognized one of his pics. Seems he has a new profile and I am not sure it the other pics are even his. Regardless, his actions were uncalled for which I felt warranted being reported. If you don't, these guys think their behaviour is acceptable - another type of bullying.

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Casablanca_0540 66M
6 posts
7/8/2020 6:01 am

"Rejection" is easy to deal with on a first attempt at making contact. I know what I have to offer and if, from the profile, I think we could be a good match, I just tell myself that it is her loss for not trying to meet somebody new. Rejection after a relationship has started is a lot harder to get over, especially if it comes out of nowhere. That can take some time to get over. Stalking and being a total a&&hole will not make things better. You have to walk away.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/8/2020 6:50 am

    Quoting Casablanca_0540:
    "Rejection" is easy to deal with on a first attempt at making contact. I know what I have to offer and if, from the profile, I think we could be a good match, I just tell myself that it is her loss for not trying to meet somebody new. Rejection after a relationship has started is a lot harder to get over, especially if it comes out of nowhere. That can take some time to get over. Stalking and being a total a&&hole will not make things better. You have to walk away.
I agree that 'rejection' and how one reacts to it could be different on a number of factors. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective.

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Massass1963 57M
118 posts
7/9/2020 9:10 pm

I have to find someone to "hit" on before I can be rejected. Honestly, I don't like that word as it is not politically correct. We need a "kinder" word for it...like "declined".
If I were to have my advances "declined", I would simply move on. I thoroughly believe you cannot talk someone into liking you or suddenly finding you attractive. On this site, being declined doesn't actually mean the person doesn't like you, necessarily; it could be they simply lied to you and don't want you to discover via a meet.
I never take offense. In the past, I have also had to decline someone's offer to ME....If you care about people in general, you likely find that is harder than being turned down. It can be tough to put it in a compassionate way.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/10/2020 3:32 am

    Quoting Massass1963:
    I have to find someone to "hit" on before I can be rejected. Honestly, I don't like that word as it is not politically correct. We need a "kinder" word for it...like "declined".
    If I were to have my advances "declined", I would simply move on. I thoroughly believe you cannot talk someone into liking you or suddenly finding you attractive. On this site, being declined doesn't actually mean the person doesn't like you, necessarily; it could be they simply lied to you and don't want you to discover via a meet.
    I never take offense. In the past, I have also had to decline someone's offer to ME....If you care about people in general, you likely find that is harder than being turned down. It can be tough to put it in a compassionate way.
Thank you for dropping by and sharing your perspective. I agree that 'rejected' is a harsh word, hence I had put it in quotation marks. My issue with the whole situation was his reaction was uncalled for and crass. It was shocking as previously No One had responded to a basic and polite 'No Thank You' in that way.

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dafocker44 61M  
948 posts
7/15/2020 2:18 pm

I think I forgot to ask, but

"I shook my head thinking FFS! I craft an appropriate response,"

Why? He showed no reason to deserve a response and certain showed how little he was by blocking YOU?!? WTF, Over?!?

Just curious why you would respond?

[I]Da Focker!!


sexyldy1000 59F  
6489 posts
7/15/2020 5:33 pm

    Quoting dafocker44:
    I think I forgot to ask, but

    "I shook my head thinking FFS! I craft an appropriate response,"

    Why? He showed no reason to deserve a response and certain showed how little he was by blocking YOU?!? WTF, Over?!?

    Just curious why you would respond?
I was going to respond because I recognized one of his pictures from a previous profile who contacted me. I didn’t know he had blocked me until I pressed Enter. The fact no one had never treated me that way before also compelled me to want to respond.

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