When did I become so.... Social??  

secret_lade 48F
14467 posts
8/25/2021 2:42 am
When did I become so.... Social??


I went to a coworker's birthday get together Monday night, after work.

Not a big deal, just a few people hanging out, eating pizza and drinking beer.....

Now I'm suddenly invited to a surprise birthday get together for another coworker on Friday night as well.

It's like an alternate universe!

Y'all know how much I 'love' hanging out with the work peeps after work....

Not!

I can't say no, now. I've already been to one, now I 'have' to go to the other!

It's just *so* much fun always being the single one in the group. No built in conversation partner to mingle through the group with.

When you're single, you're flying solo!

My plan is to make a quick appearance, wish the birthday girl a happy birthday, and escape unnoticed.

Wish me luck!

secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/27/2021 9:19 pm

    Quoting HermanG67:
    totally get where you are coming from... work obligations especially SUCK

    good luck
Yes they do!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/27/2021 9:18 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Young Lady, been there done that, make it early and loud, get a free drink and slowly work your way quietly out and back home... It is normal for these thoughts, you have. Dont think twice about it . Do and be done...
Luck was in my favor as the party was kind of rained out. I can go back to my ways of avoiding the work peeps while not at work once again!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/27/2021 9:16 pm

    Quoting exsquid46:
    I found in the past, once you attend a co-workers party, they invite you to all co-worker parties. That is one of the reasons I refuse to attend any party hosted by or for a co-worker.

    I will not mix my work life and my social life. It keeps me at peace that way.
I ended up not going.... It rained off and on all day and the party was an outdoor party so I used the weather as an excuse. Several other people did as well so I didn't feel quite so terrible.


exsquid46 63M
640 posts
8/26/2021 12:51 am

I found in the past, once you attend a co-workers party, they invite you to all co-worker parties. That is one of the reasons I refuse to attend any party hosted by or for a co-worker.

I will not mix my work life and my social life. It keeps me at peace that way.


lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
8/25/2021 6:23 pm

Young Lady, been there done that, make it early and loud, get a free drink and slowly work your way quietly out and back home... It is normal for these thoughts, you have. Dont think twice about it . Do and be done...

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HermanG67 55M
8464 posts
8/25/2021 5:40 pm

totally get where you are coming from... work obligations especially SUCK

good luck


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:17 pm

thank you, I'll need it!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:17 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    You have a kid. Most will pull the kid card when they dont want to do something. Like, show up for work and stuff. 💁‍♀️
I'm totally using her as an out! I'm dragging her along just because I know she'll be bored as hell within 10 minutes and everyone will visibly see it. That way, when I say "I'm going to have to leave" they'll be like, yep! LOL


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:15 pm

I'm gonna need it!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:14 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I never really enjoyed work parties; they always felt like an extension of work especially if the 'boss' was around!
I avoid functions with work peeps whenever possible.... The problem is people just can't leave work at work. The last thing I want to do on my own time is answer work questions and have people tell me "Can you look into this tomorrow when we're at work??"


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:12 pm

    Quoting jolielaide:
    yea, good luck with that. not spending my hard earned friday night with coworkers. sorry, not sorry.

    it'd be more like "sorry, i couldn't make it. yea, you get everything you wanted? you had fun though, right?" answer a question with another question and keep it movin'.
I thought about doing all that, actually.... but decided to just go. I'm definitely not staying long, and I'm thinking of dragging the Spawn along with me for excuse purposes. She'll be bored, and itching to go within an hour.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:09 pm

    Quoting WyoCowboy7751:
    I know after reading this, that it may not help !! BUT !! Maybe being Social at this point is Helping keep your mind off of another aspect of your life that is going on right know and is just the thing you need for now !!! 🤠
You may be right... I certainly won't be thinking about Boot Camp Boy and crucible if I'm focused on my social anxieties. I was a bit of a wreck all day at work today because of it....


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:06 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I understand what you're saying. I hate being the 3rd, 5th, or 7th wheel.
It totally sucks!


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:03 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    You could always make an excuse.......like, you're laying a new patio then (even though you live in apartments!)
Hmmm.... Open heart surgery first thing in the morning?? Think they'll buy it?


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 4:00 pm

    Quoting MelbLife:
    well obviously you were on too good behaviour at the initial get together...

    /......drink heavily, try and hit on partners, and accidentally knock over a few expensive vases, art works.....

    ....you will once more retain your hermit status.....UNLESS you are far too entertaining in your destruction; then perpetual invites will be yours
So that's the secret... Be a big enough nuisance that nobody wants you around. I can absolutely do that!


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8323 posts
8/25/2021 10:08 am

Alcohol helps!!!!


Weeload2 59M
1104 posts
8/25/2021 8:46 am

... I know what to do ! Take the spawn with and introduce her to social life. See how that goes over.

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citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
8/25/2021 8:45 am

Good luck!
I'm out on Saturday night celebrating my brother's 65th Birthday (even though his birthday was on the 19th). It'll be just myself and four siblings and I'm okay with that.


Blueyedguy823 55M
1077 posts
8/25/2021 7:15 am

Good luck! Have fun. you deserve some fun!


bluerock64 58M  
6 posts
8/25/2021 6:16 am

I'm remembering a work christmas party that ended with over half the attendees tripping acid and one person breaking an arm falling down stairs. I guess what I'm trying to say is: Keep an open mind. It might be more fun than you think. Probably not, but it could happen...


DiscreteSlowRide 52M
384 posts
8/25/2021 6:09 am

You can't stay long at all.
Did you forget that you have to pick up your kid at his/her friend's house that evening?


scoupe42 59M  

8/25/2021 6:08 am

Good Luck!


positively4you 72F
4605 posts
8/25/2021 5:46 am

You have a kid. Most will pull the kid card when they dont want to do something. Like, show up for work and stuff. 💁‍♀️


Jeffthor69 53M
19 posts
8/25/2021 5:29 am

Good luck


DiscreetQuirky 53M
281 posts
8/25/2021 5:29 am

Ha. Good luck!


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
8/25/2021 4:35 am

I never really enjoyed work parties; they always felt like an extension of work especially if the 'boss' was around!


jolielaide 50F  
1754 posts
8/25/2021 4:34 am

yea, good luck with that. not spending my hard earned friday night with coworkers. sorry, not sorry.

it'd be more like "sorry, i couldn't make it. yea, you get everything you wanted? you had fun though, right?" answer a question with another question and keep it movin'.


WyoCowboy7751 69M
2537 posts
8/25/2021 4:28 am

I know after reading this, that it may not help !! BUT !! Maybe being Social at this point is Helping keep your mind off of another aspect of your life that is going on right know and is just the thing you need for now !!! 🤠


mc_justmc 62M  
6929 posts
8/25/2021 4:22 am

I understand what you're saying. I hate being the 3rd, 5th, or 7th wheel.


lindoboy100 59M  
23969 posts
8/25/2021 3:34 am

You could always make an excuse.......like, you're laying a new patio then (even though you live in apartments!)


MelbLife 57M
313 posts
8/25/2021 3:25 am

well obviously you were on too good behaviour at the initial get together...

/......drink heavily, try and hit on partners, and accidentally knock over a few expensive vases, art works.....

....you will once more retain your hermit status.....UNLESS you are far too entertaining in your destruction; then perpetual invites will be yours


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
8/25/2021 2:42 am

I went to a coworker's birthday get together Monday night, after work.

Not a big deal, just a few people hanging out, eating pizza and drinking beer.....

Now I'm suddenly invited to a surprise birthday get together for another coworker on Friday night as well.

It's like an alternate universe!

Y'all know how much I 'love' hanging out with the work peeps after work....

Not!

I can't say no, now. I've already been to one, now I 'have' to go to the other!

It's just *so* much fun always being the single one in the group. No built in conversation partner to mingle through the group with.

When you're single, you're flying solo!

My plan is to make a quick appearance, wish the birthday girl a happy birthday, and escape unnoticed.

Wish me luck!


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