~Silent Voices ~~  

jajo696 67F
576 posts
4/30/2021 11:36 pm
~Silent Voices ~~


......see first comment to avoid the Word Gremlins

thanks...

~ ja

jajo696 67F
4287 posts
4/30/2021 11:54 pm

All the Silent Voices swirling in my head

The echoes of those no longer on this earth

The voices that we yearn to hear one more time, before we forget how they
once sounded.
The conversations that go unanswered
The questions in our psyche

Then.....there are the voices of those we meet in forums such as this.
We talk, we begin to trust, we email, we friend, we text, we phone talk, we
look forward to their voice.
......and then......then the silence creeps in. These voices go silent often
sans explanations
The words, the thoughts, the feeling/s, the sentiment all come in to
question.......as lies.

The silence is cold and deafening.

Gives a new meaning to voices in our heads~~

Do you hear the voices too? Anyone have their own Silent Voices ?


author51 59F  
130010 posts
5/1/2021 12:09 am

Too many ghosts on this site who have lost their voice I had heard at one time. Silence in those circumstances can be golden.. The voices we do hear of family and friends in our real lives are those that matter. Even our cherished loved ones that have passed, their voices can often still be heard in our memories and in our hearts.. xoxo


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
5/1/2021 12:18 am

Hmmm... That doesn't sound good.
Voices? I hear them all the time ; sometimes, I understand what they're saying. 😶


mamacita38dd 43F  
62903 posts
5/1/2021 12:20 am

Yes my friend I truly know those voices and the feeling associated with silence that accompanies it sometimes, but honestly I have learned, especially here that it's for the best sometimes.

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MrWrong4RghtNow 56M
2439 posts
5/1/2021 2:29 am

Know all too well the feeling of silence and being silent myself. I used to carry the hurt like a shroud but now its more akin to being numb. One of the rare times I welcome numbness. If someone online leaves you, then they were not a good friend or more. Try not to carry that burden of abandonment from the virtual departures. The real life ones are far worse and worth lamenting. I hope you find some solace.

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arascal2 59M
96 posts
5/1/2021 3:39 am

People come and go in real life and online. If someone told me a few years ago that I would be talking with strangers on a computer I would have told them they were nuts .. now not only do I meet people online , I actually care about some .


lust4life59 63F  
2552 posts
5/1/2021 5:28 am

All kinds of voices. I think of everyone I encounter as "real" Their thought's, feelings, who, what, when, and where they are are tangible things that I take as face value. Only when they drop off the face the earth does the "why" call into question my perception of their reality.


PonyGirl1965 56F
22090 posts
5/2/2021 9:00 pm

Lots and lots of voices


hotdreamer1000 62M
12409 posts
5/4/2021 2:51 am

Nicely put, yes, I have some silent voices. Some though can never be forgotten, and despite their physical absence, I can always hear them in my mind. It sometimes does get harder to call them up though, as the years go by.


lindoboy100 59M  
23969 posts
5/7/2021 2:47 am

Not many silent voices, more happy memories of people gone by.

Fortunately I've rarely had the ghost thing happen to me too. I do wonder though why people can't be more straightforward.

Hope you're well McJayJay!


Art4urPleasure 56M  

5/11/2021 3:48 am

There is black and there is white and then millions of shades of gray. Like voices

use Silent Voices in your messages


Mark61Smith 62M

5/13/2021 7:22 pm

Stanley Kubrick, Full Metal Jacket, "The only thing dead people know is that it is better to be alive." I probably missed the point but that is my contribution.
But if you are talking about the voice in your head, then that is you. I like talking to myself because I am the only person I know I can carry on a decent conversation with.
PEACE !!!


lunchandconvo 52F
4034 posts
6/14/2021 3:02 am

beautifully put!
XO!

throwing that XO! out early to you!
i have been the voice to go silent.
and have had voices go silent on here.

as you know i had an old account.
and one day decided to WALK AWAY.
it was mainly due to security.
this was when the MadEEson REED thing happened and i didn't know if my real info was going to be public.

i was on the BookFace with a few people from here.
i reached out via mutual friends but some never replied.
yet do on my return here.

i am sorry you feel ghosted.
here...
sometimes i just don't feel i have a good post.
or just am not in the mood.
this is the first time i have had the emotional energy to comment on blogs in a while...

take care.
(( HUGS ))
-m-


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
6/18/2021 4:38 am

There have been quite a few voices in blogland that have become silent. I guess life gets in the way for better or worse!


bustinout20202 65F  
1080 posts
7/1/2021 11:29 am

Well put! "...the silence creeps in" That it does, that it does...

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


Jaun4u 51M
159 posts
7/15/2021 4:52 pm

I sometimes wonder - more often than sometimes - when the interest in a person slowly fades along with the frequency of communication, why don't you say it instead of staying quiet, ducking? Is the interest in the person genuine interest or just a distraction?

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DiscreteSlowRide 52M
384 posts
7/17/2021 8:58 am

Well put!!! I can completely relate, specifically to this part stated by you so perfectly.

....then the silence creeps in. These voices go silent often
sans explanations
The words, the thoughts, the feeling/s, the sentiment all come in to
question.......as lies.

The silence is cold and deafening.....


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/17/2021 11:54 pm

    Quoting author51:
    Too many ghosts on this site who have lost their voice I had heard at one time. Silence in those circumstances can be golden.. The voices we do hear of family and friends in our real lives are those that matter. Even our cherished loved ones that have passed, their voices can often still be heard in our memories and in our hearts.. xoxo
I think that any n every voice that resonates within us somehow...is impt and missed for a myriad of reasons. The golden silences are those we never cared for anyway. Thanks for sharing your thoughts ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/17/2021 11:56 pm

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    Yes my friend I truly know those voices and the feeling associated with silence that accompanies it sometimes, but honestly I have learned, especially here that it's for the best sometimes.
Yup....those silences that are for the best, never mattered anyway. The meaningful ones are those that we miss. Thanks for your thoughts. I needed to finish these comments before i no longer know how...with this new blog format. Ugh ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/17/2021 11:59 pm

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Know all too well the feeling of silence and being silent myself. I used to carry the hurt like a shroud but now its more akin to being numb. One of the rare times I welcome numbness. If someone online leaves you, then they were not a good friend or more. Try not to carry that burden of abandonment from the virtual departures. The real life ones are far worse and worth lamenting. I hope you find some solace.
Thanks for these comments. The numbness is not good for me....its a slippery slope to an unwelcomed path. Thats why the silences hurt so, as i feel /love/sense things very deeply~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:00 am

    Quoting arascal2:
    People come and go in real life and online. If someone told me a few years ago that I would be talking with strangers on a computer I would have told them they were nuts .. now not only do I meet people online , I actually care about some .
Your thoughts made me smile...thank you ! Me too.....and thats our downfall.....we actually care ( sigh )~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:03 am

    Quoting  :

Yep....very understandable. I can see that unplugging aspect. I cant see, however, the inability to communicate that. Yet....as ive learned ....no voice/response/answer IS an answer. Thanks for your thoughts~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:06 am

    Quoting lust4life59:
    All kinds of voices. I think of everyone I encounter as "real" Their thought's, feelings, who, what, when, and where they are are tangible things that I take as face value. Only when they drop off the face the earth does the "why" call into question my perception of their reality.
Very well said Lust.....thank you! The why ? and then i rethink...was it all a lie? When did it crossover to lies? Ohhhhh people and their motivations..we will never understand ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:08 am

Pony....i see ...you know exactly what i am trying to convey. Voices galore....just up and split. Leaving people...aghast as to why. Thanks for your thoughts ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:10 am

    Quoting hotdreamer1000:
    Nicely put, yes, I have some silent voices. Some though can never be forgotten, and despite their physical absence, I can always hear them in my mind. It sometimes does get harder to call them up though, as the years go by.
Zactly correct dreamer....as the years go by...we struggle with the remembrances ( sigh ). Thanks for your thoughts ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:12 am

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    Not many silent voices, more happy memories of people gone by.

    Fortunately I've rarely had the ghost thing happen to me too. I do wonder though why people can't be more straightforward.

    Hope you're well McJayJay!
McLindo.....yep...you are definitely Blessed. I agree, communication is the great equalizer . Thanks for you ~~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:14 am

    Quoting Art4urPleasure:
    There is black and there is white and then millions of shades of gray. Like voices

    use Silent Voices in your messages
Yes....agreed. Many gray voices inhabit our psyche..too many in fact . Thanks for your comments..Mr Art man ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:16 am

    Quoting lunchandconvo:
    beautifully put!
    XO!

    throwing that XO! out early to you!
    i have been the voice to go silent.
    and have had voices go silent on here.

    as you know i had an old account.
    and one day decided to WALK AWAY.
    it was mainly due to security.
    this was when the MadEEson REED thing happened and i didn't know if my real info was going to be public.

    i was on the BookFace with a few people from here.
    i reached out via mutual friends but some never replied.
    yet do on my return here.

    i am sorry you feel ghosted.
    here...
    sometimes i just don't feel i have a good post.
    or just am not in the mood.
    this is the first time i have had the emotional energy to comment on blogs in a while...

    take care.
    (( HUGS ))
    -m-
ohhhhhh Lunch...we ALL know about the emotional energy thing. No worries...here is what we need it to be...whenever that occurs. Thanks for commenting...Hugggss girl ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:18 am

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    There have been quite a few voices in blogland that have become silent. I guess life gets in the way for better or worse!
Ur right Spunky...many many have been silenced. We miss some..and others not so much. lol. I just like to think that, when they need to write...they will return.....hopefully . Thanks for these thoughts ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:19 am

    Quoting bustinout20202:
    Well put! "...the silence creeps in" That it does, that it does...
Bustin...yep...its like a sloooowww burn, we finally notice and say...hey , what happened to so n so. Sometimes we never know the answer. Its sad. Thanks for these thoughts ~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:21 am

    Quoting Jaun4u:
    I sometimes wonder - more often than sometimes - when the interest in a person slowly fades along with the frequency of communication, why don't you say it instead of staying quiet, ducking? Is the interest in the person genuine interest or just a distraction?
Oh em Gee.....THIS !! this is IT , so perfectly said. Thank you, thank you thank you ~~


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 12:24 am

    Quoting DiscreteSlowRide:
    Well put!!! I can completely relate, specifically to this part stated by you so perfectly.

    ....then the silence creeps in. These voices go silent often
    sans explanations
    The words, the thoughts, the feeling/s, the sentiment all come in to
    question.......as lies.

    The silence is cold and deafening.....
Yes.....Slow...it feels so cold....and at the same time...its Loud n Clear. Its completely sad ( sigh ). Thank you for listening n commenting ~


DiscreteSlowRide 52M
384 posts
7/18/2021 1:23 pm

You are most welcome. At least you know you are not alone.


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/18/2021 11:33 pm

    Quoting DiscreteSlowRide:
    You are most welcome. At least you know you are not alone.
😘


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/23/2021 11:40 am

    Quoting  :

That balance is what we strive for, in many aspects of our lives. I also think that the balance shifts at different times, depending on the need. Being cognizant of that juggle and not fearful can be an ally sometimes. Like knowing....its all okay, or going to be ok.

Thanks for your thoughts North ~


FunFitSexyMature 63M  
31 posts
7/24/2021 4:51 pm

Silent voices - a paradox indeed.

Some I'd like to silence forever, yet they come back to haunt me. When I hear that song on the radio - bam! There she is. When I'm in the throes of passion and some light reflection, some sound, some sensation brings her flying into the scene like a laser beam.

Others I welcome. Haven't seen you for awhile, come and have tea old buddy silent voice. Like my bro who passed only two years ago. He comes by often.

Love your writing. xx

Jesus said to Buddha give Mohammad a call. Conscious evolution is the writing on the wall.


jajo696 67F
4287 posts
7/24/2021 8:20 pm

first....i am completely sorry for the loss of your brother. I have my own recent losses..well they seem recent anyway....one of which is my brother and only sibling. So...i understand that pain...and i have blogged about it. I also understand your welcoming of his silent voice. Kudos to you.!! Im not there yet....when those voices show up...my tears also show up. Tears of knowing that we can no longer make memories...and that i hold all of our memories solo now.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts....and thank you for enjoying my writings. Writing is cathartic and i feel deeply and sometimes i just gotta write it out!

...and yes....Fredericks def WAS the trashy Vickys...lol I agree! i was also gonna mention National Geo too.....but i see you covered those bases...lol


seingalt23 58M
5565 posts
7/26/2021 9:07 am

From friends and relatives who passed away - there are still voices in my head: quite often I´m happy to hear them or to feel, that they are somehow close from the distance.

Here it´s different: I´m afraid, some friends were lost during the journey, they suddenly disappeared and sometimes I´m thinking of them, re-checking their blog etc.

If they would have planned to leave, I guess, I would know. Some concerns, what happened to them. I hope, something good - but most probably it was something bad.

Giacomo


smartasswoman 64F  
35813 posts
7/30/2021 11:50 am

It's upsetting to be ghosted (even though I have kind of come to expect it).

What I find truly sad are the bloggers who disappear because of an untimely death. I can think of a couple. One was murdered in his apartment - I only learned of it because another blogger who knew his real name was worried when he stopped posting, and started investigating. In another case the person committed suicide and I learned of it because of being FB friends with her. Hopefully for most of the other people who have disappeared over the years, it's only because they lost interest in blogging.


MyHeartLost4U 57M  
2487 posts
8/14/2021 7:10 pm

There is no escaping reality. Even in the realms where there is no air, skies, water or life forms within technology. Yes....I hear the silent voices too of the past, even my own at times with how loud it was in the past. I can only hope that those I known that are silent are doing well, and the ones that passed on will always remain in my memories.


Sakwes77 68M  
153 posts
9/10/2021 3:00 pm

    Quoting jajo696:
    All the Silent Voices swirling in my head

    The echoes of those no longer on this earth

    The voices that we yearn to hear one more time, before we forget how they
    once sounded.
    The conversations that go unanswered
    The questions in our psyche

    Then.....there are the voices of those we meet in forums such as this.
    We talk, we begin to trust, we email, we friend, we text, we phone talk, we
    look forward to their voice.
    ......and then......then the silence creeps in. These voices go silent often
    sans explanations
    The words, the thoughts, the feeling/s, the sentiment all come in to
    question.......as lies.

    The silence is cold and deafening.

    Gives a new meaning to voices in our heads~~

    Do you hear the voices too? Anyone have their own Silent Voices ?
I do.
But my voices are mean.

They say, "you dummy, why didn't you ask for her number".
Or, "you sound like such a doofus, want to dance! is that the best you can come up with!"
Or, they say, "forget it bud, you ain't got nothin she wants."

I don't like silent voices.


SCMale4U1000 62M

11/11/2021 5:03 pm

I find as I get older my ghosts are becoming more real. Up until the last few years I was too busy living in the present to spend any real time on my ghosts, my regrets. I recently dreamt of a 20 year best friend who took his life 10 years ago. For the first time I find myself wondering "what if". All those "what if" moments everyone has. I'm guessing it's something we all do as we age, especially as the longer we live the more ghosts we accumulate.
I enjoyed your blog, it made me think.

"Where words fail, music speaks." Hans Christian Anderson


Freefallend 70M  
29 posts
1/21/2022 8:47 am

Think of the good time when the vibes made you all excited. Don't dwell on what is lost. Too many of us live a life of illusion, not realizing that all we really have is now. We live between the unchangeable past and the unknowable future. Listen, and you will hear the distant sound of the next voices, with new stories, things you never dreamed of. Sometimes, especially on line, people disappear. Maybe they got bored, got caught, even died. You can't take disappearing as a personal affront. This is a playground and sometimes people get tired and leave. It seems mean and impersonal at times but you never really know the situation, especially the situation that was only a disembodied text, a stranger, maybe a pretender, online. Don't take it personally.


Freefallend 70M  
29 posts
1/21/2022 8:57 am

Harry Truman, when asked about the decision to use nuclear weapons, said he went to bed with a clear conscience. His stated philosophy was that the two most destructive emotions are guilt and regret because neither can be fixed. Not to downplay your pain but, other than saying"I won't do THAT again", what good is dredging up a painful past, a missed opportunity?


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