We Have Lost Forty Million Good Men… WTF?😮  

Paulxx001 63M
7372 posts
6/15/2020 10:03 am

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We Have Lost Forty Million Good Men… WTF?😮

I occasionally go for the ‘Gold’ on this site. I perv about with liberty and impunity and then, get bored and …let things lapse. I don’t bother renewing. Shortly after my latest negligence, I received a shocking email from the team up at A F F HQ.

At first glance, it was a pleasant surprise to see that they’d offered me; ‘fifty percent off’ the regular membership - to continue to  prance around with the crown. I mean who can resist fifty percent off ANYTHNG? Then I noticed this line of enticement they included;

“As a Gold member, you can contact any of our more than 40 million BlackSexMatch.com members…”

Wait a minute… wait a MINUTE! I’d read where A F F had - seventy eight million members. What happened to forty million men? (I say men, because lets face it, 99.9% probably are.) My gosh… I knew things were going in the toilet but to lose THAT many members is… well… it’s shocking. It’s like losing Canada or Poland or wiping Australia and Taiwan off the map. There was another alternative and that is; A F F never had seventy eight million members and it was all an exaggeration and a lie! Hmmm…

I know, perhaps I should be doing MY part to be - a more responsible contributor here. Posting a blog ten times a day might help. More memes and pics of naked people might attract new members; god knows this site doesn’t have enough of THOSE. Or is the extinction and eventual disappearance of this site inevitable; like the demise of the dinosaur.

I got an email from my church group the other day. They’re looking for a new President to help coordinate plans for picnics and outings and things like that. There’s no salary (of course) but there is the esteem of smacking that varnished maple gavel at the weekly, distanced, face to face meetings. Hmmm… I’m thinking about it.

In the meantime; what are you doing to contribute to the overall quality of life on this island named A F F? Or are you just waiting till you try and log in one day… and find the doors closed?

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Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 10:04 am

Yep… It’s what it is.
That church group of mine is stymied by that ‘code of distance’ thingy, for now. But there are plans to go to the zoo, once things are opened up completely. Now who doesn’t like the zoo? 😊👍


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 10:04 am

I’m wondering if I can slip in - a dick pic - to the secretary who sent me the request for my interest in that Presidency candidature? Ya think she’ll be offended?😮

Or perhaps she’ll just post a church wide email lamenting and bitching about unwanted dick pics - in church emails?🤔


smartasswoman 62F  
33172 posts
6/15/2020 10:23 am

Maybe they finally got honest and pulled out the people who haven't logged in for five years? What am I saying. This place's management? Honest?

Cynical me agrees that the disappearance of this site is inevitable. Most young people go to Tinder or Grindr if they want to hook up. And I feel like a lot of the people who just want to look at sexy pictures or find local events have migrated to Fetlife.

Basically the site needs a major re-imagining and I don't see that happening, seeing as it seems to be held together with baling wire.


MrWrong4RghtNow 54M  
337 posts
6/15/2020 10:45 am

It depends. If you say “Jesus told me to” it might raise spirits amongst the congregation. It also depends on if the pastor or priest has shown his dick pic around. You know why they’re called holy rollers after all


Tmptrzz 57F
82132 posts
6/15/2020 10:46 am

The site is loosing members on a daily basis, the amount of people who have left doesn't surprise me at all. With all the price increases, the site not working the way it should, they are leaving as they are fed up with paying for stuff that doesn't work.

I have done more than my fair share over the years here, and I can't wait to leave here. As I am only here for a couple more months unless my gold gets extended. Oh sure I could use my points to stay afloat for some time but with all the personal information they need for that, its just not worth it.

I hope you take the job at the church as it sounds like it would be a great way of meeting lots of new people..I hope you enjoy your Monday..

Just your average every day run of the mill nana here!!!


lonlyforlove2 77M
16462 posts
6/15/2020 11:38 am

I got the same spread about %0% off.... but it is still 100% higher than what I paid last year and the two before, it just is not worth what they want, and they , themselves make it this low in value.. The numbers each month , for on line, on IM and on CAM have fell fast and hard..their lust for a few pennies is costing them many dollars..And for my points, I will just give them away, surely not going to give them back to the mothership.. I passed forward several thousand this week,
I see some one truly with a cause I will do it again, and again. have a wonderful day, just be safe.

Be sure to look in at lonlyforlove2 . It may make you smile


sexyldy1000 59F  
6458 posts
6/15/2020 2:21 pm

Of course 'they' will do whatever they can to lure you and other men to part with their $. I have had a free gold membership for a long time. From what others have commented previously, that may change when my current membership expires in October. I have enough points to keep it going for longer then I could ever want. Not sure what I will decide.
If you send your 'dick pic' to the church lady, don't be surprised if it's met with the same disdain that most women here feel when an unsolicited one is received.
My contribution here is to do post what I want, when I want with no expectation as to who will visit and comment, nor what position I will be in the standings.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Does One Human Year Equal Seven Dog Years


japaneseass 52F  
49472 posts
6/15/2020 2:23 pm

ya...you know...the site can't count...they messed up on blog comment number...cam viewers number...anything to do with numbers...ain't right...

but for seriously...the number of mails i get everyday, is getting smaller and smaller for a while...i think the people are really fed up...especially standards can't do anything anymore...you know, they all sign up as a standard...just to look around...and nowadays, you can't even check anything anymore...site used to give a little taste to stay on the site, or bit on the bait, and shell out the money out of pocket...but now??? who does that...nothing to see here for standards...move on...they are doing wrong business...i tell yah, they ought to hire me as a marketing manager...really...

or maybe, the reason why the the number of mail i am getting smaller is just because i am getting old...yah...no one care for 50 year old female...you guys like young and fresh 20's fake girls...


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
6/15/2020 4:05 pm

Yikes, I'm not doing my part either. My blog posts are mainly words... And, I only post one a day... And, this time around I've chosen to NOT be Gold. Egads... Can I even be considered part of the millions?


HeartCollector 63F  

6/15/2020 4:39 pm

I’m afraid I haven’t been doing my part...

The gladdest hours we know are those shared with a friend or two. Wilbur D. Nesbit


mc_justmc 60M
6312 posts
6/15/2020 6:01 pm

It's true if you hold out on renewing your membership they'll give you a discount. I renew for as little as possible. I don't consider what "I'm doing for the site", it's more about what "the site has done to itself". It was big when they had the groups, but one glitch after another wiped them out. The glitches have really taken their toll on the blogs as well, not to mention the "blog wars" that the site could have stopped if they'd tried. By trying to save a buck or two they've really let it go to shit.


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 6:43 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    Maybe they finally got honest and pulled out the people who haven't logged in for five years? What am I saying. This place's management? Honest?

    Cynical me agrees that the disappearance of this site is inevitable. Most young people go to Tinder or Grindr if they want to hook up. And I feel like a lot of the people who just want to look at sexy pictures or find local events have migrated to Fetlife.

    Basically the site needs a major re-imagining and I don't see that happening, seeing as it seems to be held together with baling wire.
Fetlife ? ReallY? I thought Fet was on it's last legs...
I get the impression here, that people are in a rush to f**k and just look at pics- as if they can't get them on line FFS... lol
Re-imaging? I wonder what that would be?
True about people who haven't logged on, although if they haven't deleted their profile. I have a few of those...


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 6:45 pm

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    It depends. If you say “Jesus told me to” it might raise spirits amongst the congregation. It also depends on if the pastor or priest has shown his dick pic around. You know why they’re called holy rollers after all
Good points ! lol If HE told me... then I guess it would be OK then.
Another good point about the holy rollers!
Hey... Thanks for popping in. Drop any time !


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 6:51 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    The site is loosing members on a daily basis, the amount of people who have left doesn't surprise me at all. With all the price increases, the site not working the way it should, they are leaving as they are fed up with paying for stuff that doesn't work.

    I have done more than my fair share over the years here, and I can't wait to leave here. As I am only here for a couple more months unless my gold gets extended. Oh sure I could use my points to stay afloat for some time but with all the personal information they need for that, its just not worth it.

    I hope you take the job at the church as it sounds like it would be a great way of meeting lots of new people..I hope you enjoy your Monday..
So you think you're going to leave? No...You can't. Didn't YOU start this site?
You're right about stuff not working, but do you think people leaving really care about that stuff?


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 6:56 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    I got the same spread about %0% off.... but it is still 100% higher than what I paid last year and the two before, it just is not worth what they want, and they , themselves make it this low in value.. The numbers each month , for on line, on IM and on CAM have fell fast and hard..their lust for a few pennies is costing them many dollars..And for my points, I will just give them away, surely not going to give them back to the mothership.. I passed forward several thousand this week,
    I see some one truly with a cause I will do it again, and again. have a wonderful day, just be safe.
So you got 50% as well ? After all this time as Gold you don't miss it?
Sounds like you're still having fun and good for you!
Be safe as well.


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 7:06 pm

    Quoting  :

78 IS more than 40 - if it were true.
... and the world needs more literates, THAT's for sure.
Keep up the good work. Do you keep score somewhere on how many you've converted?
Seriously though... there's very little any of us can really do, right? Except tell a friend. I'm thinking about telling members of my church group.
They haven't served enough wine at any of our gatherings yet.


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 7:22 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Of course 'they' will do whatever they can to lure you and other men to part with their $. I have had a free gold membership for a long time. From what others have commented previously, that may change when my current membership expires in October. I have enough points to keep it going for longer then I could ever want. Not sure what I will decide.
    If you send your 'dick pic' to the church lady, don't be surprised if it's met with the same disdain that most women here feel when an unsolicited one is received.
    My contribution here is to do post what I want, when I want with no expectation as to who will visit and comment, nor what position I will be in the standings.
So you don't think our ex-priest's widowed wife will appreciate one? Who knows how it's been since she's seen one. Although there ARE rumors.
So... Whatcha gonna do with all your points? I here they're popular with the homeless...
...and those named Paul


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 7:29 pm

    Quoting japaneseass:
    ya...you know...the site can't count...they messed up on blog comment number...cam viewers number...anything to do with numbers...ain't right...

    but for seriously...the number of mails i get everyday, is getting smaller and smaller for a while...i think the people are really fed up...especially standards can't do anything anymore...you know, they all sign up as a standard...just to look around...and nowadays, you can't even check anything anymore...site used to give a little taste to stay on the site, or bit on the bait, and shell out the money out of pocket...but now??? who does that...nothing to see here for standards...move on...they are doing wrong business...i tell yah, they ought to hire me as a marketing manager...really...

    or maybe, the reason why the the number of mail i am getting smaller is just because i am getting old...yah...no one care for 50 year old female...you guys like young and fresh 20's fake girls...
Wait a minute... I still like the younger ladies in their fifties !!!
So... They should hire you, huh?
I remember when I first got here. I could IM and that was fun
Ever thought of sending in you CV? You probably work from home as Director of _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ ?


lonlyforlove2 77M
16462 posts
6/15/2020 7:33 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    So you got 50% as well ? After all this time as Gold you don't miss it?
    Sounds like you're still having fun and good for you!
    Be safe as well.
I did get the offer, but from experience it is still double what I have paid for last 3 years, Miss Gold? Yes, some things I do without thinking and in a flash , the site will tell me for a bounty you can continue, so backup and rethink. I do find that with the Top Fan program still in place , I have been able to message those that I cant via normal email. but They got to get their heart right to attract any of my backpocket.. I 'll just sit on the side, several saved me a place , got one with armrest, a built in cup holder and fridge just to the left, and widscreen directly in front, a remote in each hand to beckon anything media wise I wish.. no frills but carpet and AC...cant get much better.. have a good evening, be safe..

Be sure to look in at lonlyforlove2 . It may make you smile


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 7:39 pm

    Quoting secret_lade:
    Yikes, I'm not doing my part either. My blog posts are mainly words... And, I only post one a day... And, this time around I've chosen to NOT be Gold. Egads... Can I even be considered part of the millions?
Words? You too? Who reads words here ?
Anyway... I don't think WE (bloggers) have much influence on what REALLY goes on here. Or ... perhaps we DO have an influence.


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 7:42 pm

Does anybody really do any part? I'm not doing mine either...
It's all good... I don't think any of us can really do anything to change things here - can we?


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 7:47 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    It's true if you hold out on renewing your membership they'll give you a discount. I renew for as little as possible. I don't consider what "I'm doing for the site", it's more about what "the site has done to itself". It was big when they had the groups, but one glitch after another wiped them out. The glitches have really taken their toll on the blogs as well, not to mention the "blog wars" that the site could have stopped if they'd tried. By trying to save a buck or two they've really let it go to shit.
I've heard people talk about those groups - which were before my time.
Were they really THAT good? I guess I'll never know.
I think I missed those wars... for the most part.
People here like THAT type of drama... i'm guessing.
Yeah... They gave me 50% off, which isn't bad. I kinda figured with my relationship with the Bobs I though I could score an even BIGGER discount.
Oh well !


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/15/2020 8:04 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    I did get the offer, but from experience it is still double what I have paid for last 3 years, Miss Gold? Yes, some things I do without thinking and in a flash , the site will tell me for a bounty you can continue, so backup and rethink. I do find that with the Top Fan program still in place , I have been able to message those that I cant via normal email. but They got to get their heart right to attract any of my backpocket.. I 'll just sit on the side, several saved me a place , got one with armrest, a built in cup holder and fridge just to the left, and widscreen directly in front, a remote in each hand to beckon anything media wise I wish.. no frills but carpet and AC...cant get much better.. have a good evening, be safe..
I understand what you mean. Well... keep smiling and have fun for as long as it lasts.
Be safe !


author51 57F  
96518 posts
6/15/2020 11:05 pm

I would be sad if the site disappeared strictly because of losing contact with others I view as friends.I do my part with 2 posts a day and one each on the weekends.I like the creative process and the entertainment factor of this site.If it went away,I would still have that in our world outside these walls..Good post my coffee mate.....xoxo

One can never have enough JOY in their life...


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/16/2020 12:09 am

    Quoting author51:
    I would be sad if the site disappeared strictly because of losing contact with others I view as friends.I do my part with 2 posts a day and one each on the weekends.I like the creative process and the entertainment factor of this site.If it went away,I would still have that in our world outside these walls..Good post my coffee mate.....xoxo
Yep... I would miss that as well.
Although on some occasions, I feel that the only person I'm entertaining - is myself, if you know that I mean.


azriel1970 49M  
30011 posts
6/16/2020 5:50 am

I do some posts as you well know and Yes I am guilty of the Porn pics posts as well....

I will admit my gold runs out in August and I am 99.99999% sure I will be gone when that does. I am of two hearts though. There are some great people on here in the blogs I follow and would miss actually. Present company included as I really enjoy your posts.

I am not sure what I truly will do when the time comes but I shall be here until then.

Another great post as always.


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/16/2020 8:26 am

    Quoting azriel1970:
    I do some posts as you well know and Yes I am guilty of the Porn pics posts as well....

    I will admit my gold runs out in August and I am 99.99999% sure I will be gone when that does. I am of two hearts though. There are some great people on here in the blogs I follow and would miss actually. Present company included as I really enjoy your posts.

    I am not sure what I truly will do when the time comes but I shall be here until then.

    Another great post as always.
Please don't misunderstand my comment about those 'pics'. You also post other things as well and I really have nothing against them; to each his own, right? I was being facetious... !
About that 'Gold Crown'...? They'll offer you a 20% discount first, before they offer you the 50% reduction.
I'm hanging around here for a while. Where else can you see tits and ass and naked people and be entertained like this? Even with it's limitations (as a non-Gold) , it's STILL a lot of fun, no?:
Of course it would be a LOT more fun if we were ALL getting laid...lol


smartasswoman 62F  
33172 posts
6/16/2020 12:03 pm

I have thoughts about a re-imagining but they are long enough that maybe I'll do my own blog post! Thanks for the inspiration.


JustLookn439 54M

6/16/2020 10:05 pm

    Quoting japaneseass:
    ya...you know...the site can't count...they messed up on blog comment number...cam viewers number...anything to do with numbers...ain't right...

    but for seriously...the number of mails i get everyday, is getting smaller and smaller for a while...i think the people are really fed up...especially standards can't do anything anymore...you know, they all sign up as a standard...just to look around...and nowadays, you can't even check anything anymore...site used to give a little taste to stay on the site, or bit on the bait, and shell out the money out of pocket...but now??? who does that...nothing to see here for standards...move on...they are doing wrong business...i tell yah, they ought to hire me as a marketing manager...really...

    or maybe, the reason why the the number of mail i am getting smaller is just because i am getting old...yah...no one care for 50 year old female...you guys like young and fresh 20's fake girls...
I don't think it is so much that us guys like young and fresh... I think what disheartens ME is that virtually no women really want to meet. I am not on here JUST to chat and blog. I came on with a few to a possible meet. I've spent points when I see a person of interest. Most turn out to actually be married women, or not into meets. TONS and TONS of fakes of ALL ages now!
I can't bring myself to pay as I really have no reason to believe it will be better.
Also, as men get smart and STOP paying, they then cannot email, anyway, unless you happen to have paid so they can.


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/17/2020 2:54 am

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    I have thoughts about a re-imagining but they are long enough that maybe I'll do my own blog post! Thanks for the inspiration.
Kool... I look forward to reading it...


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/17/2020 3:06 am

    Quoting JustLookn439:
    I don't think it is so much that us guys like young and fresh... I think what disheartens ME is that virtually no women really want to meet. I am not on here JUST to chat and blog. I came on with a few to a possible meet. I've spent points when I see a person of interest. Most turn out to actually be married women, or not into meets. TONS and TONS of fakes of ALL ages now!
    I can't bring myself to pay as I really have no reason to believe it will be better.
    Also, as men get smart and STOP paying, they then cannot email, anyway, unless you happen to have paid so they can.
True a... about the real goal being to meet and not just chat and blog. There are a few women in this city who are on this site.
I would have thought that Boston women would be up and around on this site as well.
But you're right ... quite a few married women and fakes on here.
Hey... Happy hunting and have fun!


lighthousecollec 57F  
544 posts
6/17/2020 8:57 am

For me I will not join up again. Hell there are not that many men in my town on here. Its a waste of time to pay for it. I will do Blogs but that's about it

I have set up a private mailbox on my Blog for your convenience.


JustLookn439 54M

6/17/2020 1:50 pm

    Quoting lighthousecollec:
    For me I will not join up again. Hell there are not that many men in my town on here. Its a waste of time to pay for it. I will do Blogs but that's about it
Make no mistake, I am not condemning you for just blogging. I DO wonder, though, what is the point of that? Isn't it a lot of your time spent writing for the benefit of people who aren't really friends (I don't consider people friends if I've never seen them, or even have confirmation of who they really are).
Sometimes, I DO see blogs that allow me to voice my opposing opinions....I guess I see value there; maybe you do, as well?
I just see myself spending too much time on here and improving my life NOT one bit.


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/17/2020 7:38 pm

    Quoting lighthousecollec:
    For me I will not join up again. Hell there are not that many men in my town on here. Its a waste of time to pay for it. I will do Blogs but that's about it
I understand what you're saying... yep...
If there's no one in your town - what's the point?
I'm lucky, in the sense that my town is large.
Well... whatever you decide - even if it's just for blogging - have fun while you do it ! You know I'll do my best to make you smile!



Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/17/2020 7:43 pm

    Quoting JustLookn439:
    Make no mistake, I am not condemning you for just blogging. I DO wonder, though, what is the point of that? Isn't it a lot of your time spent writing for the benefit of people who aren't really friends (I don't consider people friends if I've never seen them, or even have confirmation of who they really are).
    Sometimes, I DO see blogs that allow me to voice my opposing opinions....I guess I see value there; maybe you do, as well?
    I just see myself spending too much time on here and improving my life NOT one bit.
True about blogs and blogging - in general - although many view it as a form of self expression; almost like a diary.
Myself? I mess around here with the intent of amusing myself and if I bring a few people along for the ride - then so be it.
You're also right about - time wasted, which could be re-invested elsewhere. I've taken a hard line on how much time I devote to this space. It's surprising how just poking around the 'blogs' turns into this hike of an hour or so - before you even realize it...!!! lol...


Only_one_14 51F  
1031 posts
6/18/2020 9:23 pm

Thank god that I am one in a million and still around since 06😂😂. I’m gonna have to argue about the 40 million- I’m sure many many people have many many different profiles 😂😂


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/19/2020 6:51 pm

    Quoting Only_one_14:
    Thank god that I am one in a million and still around since 06😂😂. I’m gonna have to argue about the 40 million- I’m sure many many people have many many different profiles 😂😂
'06 ? Wow... You've probably seen quite a few changes here...
Was it really as good as some people say?
And yet... you're back - so it can't be ALL that bad?
True about the 40M... I'm sure many of those are fictional..


sonic_n_sideshow 47M/49F
15113 posts
6/23/2020 2:07 pm

I find it odd for some reason that your hippo is drooling in the water. Not sure why.

Wow 78 million dirty peeps. Quick math - isn't that like a little over 10% of the world's population. Huh - would have speculated more dirty devils here.

I drift in and out of here a lot. I used to be here a lot more when you didn't have to do so many tricks to just use the site. Or have to open your wallet so wide

I am a celebration of willful chaos and a hugger.


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
6/24/2020 3:37 am

    Quoting sonic_n_sideshow:
    I find it odd for some reason that your hippo is drooling in the water. Not sure why.

    Wow 78 million dirty peeps. Quick math - isn't that like a little over 10% of the world's population. Huh - would have speculated more dirty devils here.

    I drift in and out of here a lot. I used to be here a lot more when you didn't have to do so many tricks to just use the site. Or have to open your wallet so wide
The Hippo Q? 🤔 Is a good one! 😊 😂
They do seem to charge per use...
Hey... keep smiling :it's what we do.
And drop by any time!👍


BeccaLuvs 58F  
18554 posts
7/5/2020 1:27 pm

What is it that is always said Paul - "Everything has to end" - and eventually that is true I suppose? But, on a happier not - seems like your real life is picking up - yep, going to the zoo is def fun!

..... And always 'hold onto all those sexy thoughts'!
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Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
7/5/2020 10:44 pm

    Quoting BeccaLuvs:
    What is it that is always said Paul - "Everything has to end" - and eventually that is true I suppose? But, on a happier not - seems like your real life is picking up - yep, going to the zoo is def fun!
True about 'everything ending'. I guess it will...
Also true about zoos. Do you have any where your are? Or more likely wild reserves...I would imagine.


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