OVkittyeater 42M
10 posts
1/24/2021 4:27 am

So I think we could agree that dating sucks, at least until you find that last one... until then, it is fun and wastes time, but is frustrating.

I have recently had a financial set back, like Many Americans over the past year.... but I still wanna date and go out...

So, I ask women out, and tell them. I would like take you dinner and get know ya... but you would have drive because I am without a vehicle right now, and just temporarily... but that is when they ghost..(the ones I am interested in) and I am stuck thinking of the last two decades of going pick a woman , drop her off and now that it is 2021 and women are more free and liberated... they cannot do the same thing men did for decades... WHY? How do you women think that is fair? (( I know life is not fair, blahblahblah))

BiggLala 49F  
29426 posts
1/24/2021 4:13 pm

How do you women think that is fair?
-I don't think "fair" has anything to do with it. There are no, and has never been, any absolute "rule" that says a man has to pick up the woman for a date. We've just been socially conditioned to believe in these [supposed] concrete gender roles.

Regardless, I'll bet there are women who are " and liberated..." enough to have no issue picking a man up for a date. However, it sounds like they're not the type of women you would be interested in. Sooo...that's probably more your conundrum than a matter of "fair".

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if it's "fair" or not. You just have to keep searching until you find a woman willing to pick you up. Of course, there are other mean by which you can get to the restaurant though, right?

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OVkittyeater replies on 1/26/2021 12:07 pm:
that is why I said.
I Know life is not fair...
because fair has nothing to do with Love or War.
it just is...
was trying to save someone the time from explaining to me.. what fair is... I got it. but thank you

jajo696 66F  
3064 posts
1/24/2021 5:33 pm

Just tell her you will meet her there. Also, work out the payment arrangement beforehand too, since you have a financial setback.

There are plenty women here who would just have to have the patience to find them . As La said....broaden your scope and see whats out there...

OVkittyeater replies on 1/26/2021 12:08 pm:
I have... and the Plenty of women,... I have yet to meet a woman that I am interested in that would... so . maybe some of the women that I am not attracted to would. and that is awesome, but that is not what I encounter... and NO I am not changing my preferences.. I will just wait and get a car in a few months.

FresnoWoman 50F
851 posts
1/25/2021 3:56 pm

Aren't there any restaurants within walking distance of you?

This is a safety thing for women, how do you not know this? There is no way I would pick up a guy I didn't know and give him a ride anywhere. Nor would I let a guy I didn't know well enough beforehand pick me up and take me anywhere. In general, men are stronger than me and so the risk to me of , robbery, or murder is too high for me to want to get in a car with an unknown.

OVkittyeater replies on 1/25/2021 4:36 pm:
if I don't have a car... it would be your car... you could have a weapon if you were that scared... but I get it.. 2021.. but women live like it is 1960 and men still have to jump thru those hoops...

OVkittyeater 42M
20 posts
2/6/2021 12:22 pm


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