Taking a New Tack  

Fun4u3276 59M
18 posts
1/9/2022 10:42 am
Taking a New Tack


This isn't my first "rodeo" here. Each time I return, the site is a bit less appealing. The site basically, wants to force full memberships, which I understand. But, the product is less and less appealing. WHY would anyone pay 40/month for a social media site. Some will suggest that this site is sexually-oriented. But, is it really?
As a single, straight man, I have found no woman on here that I even want to meet for sex that lives within a 500 mile radius of me and that also wants to meet men. I will even go out on the limb to say this is predominantly a gay/lesbian site. No issues with those of you that fall into that category at all! It just isn't what I am.
The female profiles I have come across are invariably not here to meet--most explicitly state that. There are numerous profiles here that were on here on my first visit to this site a decade ago. They have the same damn profile pics!! I question whether it they are still an accurate representation of their appearance this many years later.

So, what keeps you on here (or me for that matter)?

If just to blog and chat, is it worth 40/month when there are free sites out there?
Is it to be an exhibitionist and have your ego stroked by the accolades of others? If so, how is that working out given that most women won't comment on pictures? For women, does it feel good to hear men tell you how sexy your pics are, when you have zero interest in the man?
If it is to blog, what is the value if you never return to respond to those that left comments? (Some of you do respond...thanks, but most seem not to acknowledge.)
Is blogging an effort to influence others? If so, do you or I believe we will really succeed?

So, if we aren't likely to meet, can't respond to emails or IMs, receive no ego boosting comments, why, why, WHY would we pay for gold?

So, I have decided the one thing I can do, in spite of my above comments, is blog for free. I'll take note of the bloggers that respond and have dialogue; I'll avoid those that post for points only (or whatever "rewards" they get for being number ONE bloggers)

I have no interest in meeting anyone from this site; I, too, am now only a blogger. I'll see how this goes. I question the survivability of this site beyond 5 more years!

Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 10:43 am

The obligatory comment to get this to be visible; I assume it is still necessary to do this.


spunkycumfun 61M/67F  
41171 posts
1/9/2022 12:47 pm

I'm here to blog. I like crafting posts and the ensuing dialogue.


EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
1/9/2022 1:01 pm

If just to blog and chat, is it worth 40/month when there are free sites out there?

I don't pay for this site

Is it to be an exhibitionist and have your ego stroked by the accolades of others?

Though I have exhibitionist tendencies, I would rather be complimented for the creativity of my picture than the way I look. I'll admit to feeling a bit of an ego boost knowing someone enjoyed how creative I was.

For women, does it feel good to hear men tell you how sexy your pics are, when you have zero interest in the man?

I pretty well ignore compliments from strangers

If it is to blog, what is the value if you never return to respond to those that left comments?
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I respond

Is blogging an effort to influence others?

I blog because I enjoy writing and creating and sharing what I've written and created. Then, I travel around the blogs and respond to those I'm interested in. I've made "blog friends" this way. I enjoy their blogs, they enjoy mine, and the world keeps spinning.

So, if we aren't likely to meet, can't respond to emails or IMs, receive no ego boosting comments, why, why, WHY would we pay for gold?

I'm certainly not.

This week's HNW: Pink/Hearts (Or Chocolate) is available on the other side.


Naughtypursuit 54F  
2766 posts
1/9/2022 1:56 pm

Blogs are good way to interact and also a free way to communicate ie the private mail section most have in their blogs. It will get even better when the site converts to the new community I hope.

I have met many from the site - yet no bloggers...go figure.


countryqueen1 72F

1/9/2022 2:11 pm

If you figure it all out, post your finding in another blog so we'll all have an idea why the hell we're here!!


twosteps2 70M/48F  
297 posts
1/9/2022 2:30 pm

What a great post Buds.Wonder exactly the same thing.Got a free membership through ice breakers or ?????and survivability is something we questioned years ago when things were a little better.Now there's way too many glitches in the site,as well as,like you say,people wanting to chat,never mind meet.Hoping things really improve.


LadiesR2B1rst 59M  
2735 posts
1/9/2022 2:34 pm

I agree. It seems that when you find someone you may be interested in, the first words you see are (No Single Men) . They are a few ladies that don't say that but, only a limited few. I basically just enjoy the blogs and keep trying to find that special woman that I can't live with out. Thanks for sharing. I had been pondering the same thing.


freedrinksnoway 65M
10 posts
1/9/2022 3:54 pm

sir...america everything has a price tag. Death and taxes well taxes you can replace with porn charges. If you don't need it find others we all need to change..don't restrict yourself the newest is what's fun for me...if you don't like paying money you're screw nice pun...but if you're not happy that's karmas way of saying hey lets try something else. You don't like the other you can always cum back..


Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 5:21 pm

    Quoting  :

I can't fault you for trying! I have had success in the past. It just seems like the site has gone south in a hurry! Good luck!!


Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 5:22 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I'm here to blog. I like crafting posts and the ensuing dialogue.
I enjoy thoughtful dialogue. Even if people disagree, provided they aren't vicious or intolerant of other views. Dialogue is what I look for, but often it is very short-lived.


Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 5:25 pm

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    If just to blog and chat, is it worth 40/month when there are free sites out there?

    I don't pay for this site

    Is it to be an exhibitionist and have your ego stroked by the accolades of others?

    Though I have exhibitionist tendencies, I would rather be complimented for the creativity of my picture than the way I look. I'll admit to feeling a bit of an ego boost knowing someone enjoyed how creative I was.

    For women, does it feel good to hear men tell you how sexy your pics are, when you have zero interest in the man?

    I pretty well ignore compliments from strangers

    If it is to blog, what is the value if you never return to respond to those that left comments?
    (

    I respond

    Is blogging an effort to influence others?

    I blog because I enjoy writing and creating and sharing what I've written and created. Then, I travel around the blogs and respond to those I'm interested in. I've made "blog friends" this way. I enjoy their blogs, they enjoy mine, and the world keeps spinning.

    So, if we aren't likely to meet, can't respond to emails or IMs, receive no ego boosting comments, why, why, WHY would we pay for gold?

    I'm certainly not.
Yes, you are one of those that responds! I have commented over the years on your blogs! Thank you!
I too cannot bring myself to spend the money. I hope they don't start restricting our ability to blog on standard memberships. If so, that will be my final "ride."


Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 5:28 pm

    Quoting Naughtypursuit:
    Blogs are good way to interact and also a free way to communicate ie the private mail section most have in their blogs. It will get even better when the site converts to the new community I hope.

    I have met many from the site - yet no bloggers...go figure.
I have met many in the past. But only a handful have I enjoyed over time. Each time I return the prospects are significantly reduced. At present, there are literally a handful of profiles that catch my attention and are interested in meeting AND are close enough to entertain the thought.... except I think they are fake! haha!


Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 5:31 pm

    Quoting countryqueen1:
    If you figure it all out, post your finding in another blog so we'll all have an idea why the hell we're here!!
I once thought the site was simply addictive. I have even seen others comment that way. I used to get up in the morning, and over coffee I would peruse those that viewed me, flirted with me, or sent messages. That would be followed up by reading blogs and adding my thoughts. Now, I find it easy to forget about the site for several days.
So, if I don't figure it out, I'll find another morning routine!


Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 5:37 pm

    Quoting twosteps2:
    What a great post Buds.Wonder exactly the same thing.Got a free membership through ice breakers or ?????and survivability is something we questioned years ago when things were a little better.Now there's way too many glitches in the site,as well as,like you say,people wanting to chat,never mind meet.Hoping things really improve.
I think one of the first things the site needs to due, is gain credibility. Specifically, I mean find a way to validate the members so that those on here are real people, not bots. I even see fake profiles blogging now! I consider it fake, when it is clear the pics are internet pics, or when the profile pics don't match the profile verbiage.


Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 5:40 pm

    Quoting LadiesR2B1rst:
    I agree. It seems that when you find someone you may be interested in, the first words you see are (No Single Men) . They are a few ladies that don't say that but, only a limited few. I basically just enjoy the blogs and keep trying to find that special woman that I can't live with out. Thanks for sharing. I had been pondering the same thing.
For a site that boasts millions of members, there sure aren't many single, straight women looking to meet, is there? LOL
I have seen some suggest giving Gold to women to entice them, but besides that being discriminatory, it won't change the reason the women are on here. They won't suddenly start meeting men, if they don't wish to now. So, the real problem will persist.


Fun4u3276 59M

1/9/2022 5:44 pm

    Quoting freedrinksnoway:
    sir...america everything has a price tag. Death and taxes well taxes you can replace with porn charges. If you don't need it find others we all need to change..don't restrict yourself the newest is what's fun for me...if you don't like paying money you're screw nice pun...but if you're not happy that's karmas way of saying hey lets try something else. You don't like the other you can always cum back..
There are some interesting blogs on occasion for sure. But, the bloggers of even the last year seem to have given up. Or, maybe it is the new community that makes it appear that way.
Honestly, I have found as much excitement commenting on news articles LMAO!
The weird thing about this site, is that while it is reputed as a sex site, I find little sexual stimulation here! I get more on TUBI TV hahaha!


author51 59F  
130010 posts
1/9/2022 11:42 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I'm here to blog. I like crafting posts and the ensuing dialogue.
Precisely why I am here also. I have made some wonderful online friends in blogs and have met a few of them in real life. That is one pro of getting to know your fellow bloggers here..xoxo


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