I Matter, You Matter, We All Matter  

EroticMusings2 58F  
1609 posts
12/19/2021 12:36 am
I Matter, You Matter, We All Matter

I promise I will get myself on track better. You will notice that the blog I wrote yesterday is down. I had second thoughts on no longer being . I do not think that is something I am ready to give up on. Let me explain more of what has been going on with me.

As we age, we all or most of us have certain medical challenges. Sometime we do better with them, sometimes we do not. Lately my fibromyalgia has sent me almost crawling out of bed on a good day. And with that flair came the gouty arthritis in my toes. And other assorted things that have caused me to need to slow down.

I also found myself involved with a fwb the only one I have, that really wasnt a good fit for me. Very uncaring, narcissist, and he was not careful with me even when I told him what was going on. He was too rough, causing me to bleed quite a bit. Along with that the severe arthritis in my shoulders was bad after he yanked hard on my right arm.

I can still be , I just think I haven't met the right person. I that person to have some emotion display when we are together. I do not wish to be treated like a piece that doesn't matter. I us to be kind, and loving lovers. treasuring the time we spend together and then we go back to our normal lives. Stolen moments on or Im, s savoring it all.

I can't let this bad experience turn me into a sexually repressed woman, and I wont.

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spunkycumfun 61M/67F  
41171 posts
12/19/2021 3:08 am

Well said! Someone who makes you bleed is not good.


slobberpuss1 74M
167 posts
12/19/2021 6:21 am

YaY! Very good for you. I have had the experience of being with the wrong person and trying to make it work. Not worth it . Good to find the better one as you are doing. Best wishes.


EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
12/19/2021 7:23 am

I am glad you're staying.

It can be super difficult to find someone whose into the things you are as well as cares. Please don't give up hope.

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Fun4u3276 59M

12/19/2021 8:06 am

The problem I see at times is that movies, porn, and even some members here glorify "rough sex". Heck there is even a song that, sung by a female, that states "when it comes to love, if it isn't rough it isn't good." But, honestly, my experience is while both men and women do like some energy put into sex, no one really likes to be rough handled.
One needs to simply listen and observe the reactions of their partner to see what they really enjoy.


positively4you 72F  
4605 posts
12/19/2021 3:14 pm

I could do circus sex in my 20s and 30s. Not now. Dont want to. Sensuous sex is the best anyway. Hold out for what you want. The porn industry ruins it for normal people.
Plus porn sex is fake anyway.


69ereatwetpussy 59M  
6784 posts
12/19/2021 4:58 pm

you can find better
let them know you have to go slow and easy
you do Matter and they should respect you.
i would xoxoxoxoxox


EroticMusings2 58F  
661 posts
12/20/2021 11:28 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    Well said! Someone who makes you bleed is not good.
No, and I even told him it was because his nails were jagged and he was being way too rough. Kind of ruined the whole thing when he didnt care.

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EroticMusings2 58F  
661 posts
12/20/2021 11:29 pm

    Quoting slobberpuss1:
    YaY! Very good for you. I have had the experience of being with the wrong person and trying to make it work. Not worth it . Good to find the better one as you are doing. Best wishes.
Hind sight is 20 /20 and I should have gone with my gut instinct with that one. But lesson learned, and perhaps down the road I will find a suitable lover. If not, I foresee buying a lot of batteries in my future lol.

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EroticMusings2 58F  
661 posts
12/20/2021 11:31 pm

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    I am glad you're staying.

    It can be super difficult to find someone whose into the things you are as well as cares. Please don't give up hope.
I do love the way you think, and thank you. It is very hard to find a lover who can give you what you desire but perhaps one day.

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EroticMusings2 58F  
661 posts
12/20/2021 11:32 pm

    Quoting Fun4u3276:
    The problem I see at times is that movies, porn, and even some members here glorify "rough sex". Heck there is even a song that, sung by a female, that states "when it comes to love, if it isn't rough it isn't good." But, honestly, my experience is while both men and women do like some energy put into sex, no one really likes to be rough handled.
    One needs to simply listen and observe the reactions of their partner to see what they really enjoy.
You are absolutely correct. One can bring sensuality and sexuality with energy without needing ice packs for the bruising afterwards. I want passion, not wrestle mania.

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EroticMusings2 58F  
661 posts
12/20/2021 11:32 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you and Merry Christmas

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EroticMusings2 58F  
661 posts
12/20/2021 11:34 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    I could do circus sex in my 20s and 30s. Not now. Dont want to. Sensuous sex is the best anyway. Hold out for what you want. The porn industry ruins it for normal people.
    Plus porn sex is fake anyway.
Lol, very fake. There is no way I could get into some of the positions I used too. I long for a sensual caring man to enjoy all of me. Someday

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EroticMusings2 58F  
661 posts
12/20/2021 11:34 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    you can find better
    let them know you have to go slow and easy
    you do Matter and they should respect you.
    i would xoxoxoxoxox
Thank you, you always have such kind words.

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justskin1 70M  
13175 posts
12/21/2021 6:26 am

Even a casual partner should care. Staying with one who does not only makes you feel crappy. Do not give up hope. Someone good for you can turn up even when you are not actively looking but one does need to open to seeing possibilities.
Wishing you the best of luck finding that nearby friend and lover. Hugs

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