The Five Pros Of Swinging  

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3/7/2022 1:45 pm
The Five Pros Of Swinging

When you decide to swing, you dont necessarily have this tidy list of pros and cons that occur in succession. Its more of a swirling plethora of emotions as you and your partner explore a new terrain of possibilities within the relationship.

What is interesting about this new terrain, at least for most of us, is it is uncharted territory, so the list of pros and cons sort of materializes as you explore. This is all part of the joy you may experience in learning and deepening your relationship through swinging.

5 Pros of Swinging
Swinging can do wonders for your relationship, so lets start with the good news first the pros! If you want to jump to the cons, click here.

1. Opens Lines of Sexual Communication
This is my favorite pro because it brings the topic of sex off the shelf and pushes it to the front of the line.

I cant think of anything more loving than to be open and honest with your partner about what you desire sexually. Being able to discuss those desires in a loving and non-judgmental atmosphere deepens and strengthens the love between the partners.

Photo of the threesome from I Love You, Beth CooperI cant think of anything more loving than to be open with your partner about what you desire sexually.
I love when John and I can sit and discuss fantasies with each other or have deep conversations about how grateful we are to have such a satisfying sex life with each other.

2. Lets You Explore a Variety of Sexual Partners and Experiences
Whether you are in a long-term marriage or just starting your relationship, swinging is a perfect avenue to experiment with different erotic fantasies.

Photo of Vicky, Christina, BarcelonaEach new partner provides a slightly different prism in which to see sex.
What John and I have found in our swinging experiences is each new partner provides us with a slightly different prism in which to see sex a kaleidoscope of movements and emotions and positions in which we gain a deeper insight into each other and what we enjoy sexually.

3. Creates a Platform to Tackle Your Fears
Bringing fears to the surface may not seem like a pro, but believe me when I say that getting them out in the open is so much better than keeping fears hidden.

Photo of Alcide threesome from TruebloodBeing able to talk about issues with your partner can open the door to deeper levels of trust.
In order to deal with our fears, we first must admit we have them. If it bothers you to have your spouse kiss a play partner, for instance, being able to talk about the issue with your partner can and will open the door to deeper levels of trust, honesty, and a team effort in dealing with whatever issues arise.

4. Enhances an Already Strong Relationship
This can be a difficult one for those outside the swinging lifestyle to understand. How can having sex with someone else ever lead to stronger bonds between a couple?

I know before I became a swinger this was a question I had. I also realized how easy it can be to form opinions about certain lifestyle choices based on what we are told, not what we actually go out and try for ourselves.

Once I realized I was guilty of living my life on the foundation of what others said was correct instead of deciding for myself, I was able to cross that line in the sand and see what would happen if I gave swinging an opportunity.

Photo of threesome from SavagesJohn and I love experiencing the bonding that takes place when we share ourselves with others.
What I found out was, at least for John and me, the swinging lifestyle was a perfect fit. We are both highly sexual beings (which we also believe to be quite normal) and love being in our relationship with each other, but we also love experiencing the bonding that takes place when we share ourselves with others.

Not does it satisfy what we believe to be an innate need for variety, but it also reminds us of how lucky and blessed we are to have each other. Plus it makes for some fantastic sexually-charged conversations!

5. Provides an Opportunity to Give Compersion a Try
I use this word quite often when I talk about the swinging lifestyle because I love the whole concept wrapped in its definition. Most of the time you will hear that compersion is the opposite of jealousy.

Photo of Sookie, Bill, and Erics threesome. way to work toward feeling compersion is to see jealousy as constricted and compersion as expansive.”
I read recently in The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships” by Kathy Labriola that way to work toward feeling compersion is to see jealousy as a constricted state and compersion being an expansive state.

I love this! I know how much better I feel when I have room to move about, to throw my arms out wide and be free. I also know the feeling of constriction, when something is tightly bound, when I am unable to move, the almost panic that can ensue from this constriction.

If I can keep this image in the forefront of my mind when it comes to my partner, then I will be more conscious of when my behavior or response creates a constricted atmosphere or of freedom.


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