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Posted:Mar 12, 2022 8:14 am
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5 Cons of Swinging
Posted:Mar 9, 2022 11:09 am
Last Updated:Mar 9, 2022 11:13 am
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OK, now what are some of the downsides of swinging?

1. Keeping Your Lifestyle a Secret
Granted even though some swingers like the novelty of having a secret, quite a few feel the need to keep this particular part of there life secret due to society’s view of swinging.

Whether for reasons due to family, friends, job, political, or religious beliefs, unfortunately, there are still a lot of people who confuse swinging with cheating or immorality.

Photo of threesome from Wild ThingsUnfortunately a lot of people still confuse swinging with cheating or immorality.
When we lose our capacity to embrace differences, we lose the ability to understand and see that even if it is something doesn’t work in our relationship, we shouldn’t penalize someone who believes it to be a benefit in their relationship.

When we take away someone’s right to be who they are, we miss out on all the brilliant differences and the opportunity to learn something new.

2. Partners Can Disagree
This is a big one. When venturing into the swinging lifestyle, it is vital that both people within the couple want to swing.

I have seen instances where one partner wants to swing, and the other partner will agree to this only to keep their partner “happy,” or the agreement to swing is uneven. The partners both agree to swing, but the rules they set up will be out of balance due to one partner’s fears.

Photo of threesome from Spring BreakersWhen venturing into the swinging lifestyle, it is vital that both people want to swing.
Instead of enhancing the relationship, the swinging ends up creating resentments between the couple. Remember honest communication has got to be at the core of any (whether you swing or not) successful relationship.

3. It Can Be Hard to Find Play Partners
Just because you and your partner have decided to open the relationship by way of swinging does not necessarily mean you will have an endless supply of play partners.

Photo of American Psycho threesomeJust because you’re swinging doesn’t mean you’ll have an endless supply of play partners.
Being able to find four people who all get along, are all attracted to each other, and have similar play rules can be a challenge sometimes, making play planning feel more like work sometimes.

4. Swinging Can Be Time-Consuming
Whether planning to play together or separately, whether playing in a swingers club or house parties, being able to devote enough time can sometimes be a challenge, especially when our time is already divided between work schedules, , sports, and family.

Photo of On the Road threesomeDevoting enough time to swinging can be a challenge, especially when it’s divided between work and family.
5. Fears Can Surface
We can be in fear of a wide range of possibilities, from fear of our partner leaving us for someone else to fear of giving or receiving to much attention with a play partner to fear of constantly comparing ourselves to others.

If left unexamined, our fears can create a whole array of emotions, including anxiety, resentment, and jealousy.

Photo of Alpha threesomeIf you’re able to talk to your partner about your feelings, fears become an ally to learning.
Most importantly, it’s necessary to remember our fears can be a pro or a con, depending on what you do with the feeling once it surfaces. If we take our feelings and react or fight against them, then they become an enemy, something to protect ourselves against.

If you are able to talk to your partner about your feelings and learn to talk yourself through them, then your fears become an ally to learning.

Either way, we will learn something. It just depends on what lesson we decide to focus on.

I encourage anyone interested in swinging or open relationships to take that all-important first step into the lifestyle pool to explore and see for yourself whether this lifestyle is something you wish to pursue.

For me it didn’t take long after that first threesome to step back from the pool, jump into the air, and yell “cannonball!”
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3/9 MMSLTF...Mature Male She would like to fuck
Posted:Mar 9, 2022 8:40 am
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2022 8:15 am
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Change up for the ladies
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The Five Pros Of Swinging
Posted:Mar 7, 2022 1:45 pm
Last Updated:Mar 7, 2022 1:50 pm
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When you decide to swing, you dont necessarily have this tidy list of pros and cons that occur in succession. Its more of a swirling plethora of emotions as you and your partner explore a new terrain of possibilities within the relationship.

What is interesting about this new terrain, at least for most of us, is it is uncharted territory, so the list of pros and cons sort of materializes as you explore. This is all part of the joy you may experience in learning and deepening your relationship through swinging.

5 Pros of Swinging
Swinging can do wonders for your relationship, so lets start with the good news first the pros! If you want to jump to the cons, click here.

1. Opens Lines of Sexual Communication
This is my favorite pro because it brings the topic of sex off the shelf and pushes it to the front of the line.

I cant think of anything more loving than to be open and honest with your partner about what you desire sexually. Being able to discuss those desires in a loving and non-judgmental atmosphere deepens and strengthens the love between the partners.

Photo of the threesome from I Love You, Beth CooperI cant think of anything more loving than to be open with your partner about what you desire sexually.
I love when John and I can sit and discuss fantasies with each other or have deep conversations about how grateful we are to have such a satisfying sex life with each other.

2. Lets You Explore a Variety of Sexual Partners and Experiences
Whether you are in a long-term marriage or just starting your relationship, swinging is a perfect avenue to experiment with different erotic fantasies.

Photo of Vicky, Christina, BarcelonaEach new partner provides a slightly different prism in which to see sex.
What John and I have found in our swinging experiences is each new partner provides us with a slightly different prism in which to see sex a kaleidoscope of movements and emotions and positions in which we gain a deeper insight into each other and what we enjoy sexually.

3. Creates a Platform to Tackle Your Fears
Bringing fears to the surface may not seem like a pro, but believe me when I say that getting them out in the open is so much better than keeping fears hidden.

Photo of Alcide threesome from TruebloodBeing able to talk about issues with your partner can open the door to deeper levels of trust.
In order to deal with our fears, we first must admit we have them. If it bothers you to have your spouse kiss a play partner, for instance, being able to talk about the issue with your partner can and will open the door to deeper levels of trust, honesty, and a team effort in dealing with whatever issues arise.

4. Enhances an Already Strong Relationship
This can be a difficult one for those outside the swinging lifestyle to understand. How can having sex with someone else ever lead to stronger bonds between a couple?

I know before I became a swinger this was a question I had. I also realized how easy it can be to form opinions about certain lifestyle choices based on what we are told, not what we actually go out and try for ourselves.

Once I realized I was guilty of living my life on the foundation of what others said was correct instead of deciding for myself, I was able to cross that line in the sand and see what would happen if I gave swinging an opportunity.

Photo of threesome from SavagesJohn and I love experiencing the bonding that takes place when we share ourselves with others.
What I found out was, at least for John and me, the swinging lifestyle was a perfect fit. We are both highly sexual beings (which we also believe to be quite normal) and love being in our relationship with each other, but we also love experiencing the bonding that takes place when we share ourselves with others.

Not does it satisfy what we believe to be an innate need for variety, but it also reminds us of how lucky and blessed we are to have each other. Plus it makes for some fantastic sexually-charged conversations!

5. Provides an Opportunity to Give Compersion a Try
I use this word quite often when I talk about the swinging lifestyle because I love the whole concept wrapped in its definition. Most of the time you will hear that compersion is the opposite of jealousy.

Photo of Sookie, Bill, and Erics threesome. way to work toward feeling compersion is to see jealousy as constricted and compersion as expansive.”
I read recently in The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships” by Kathy Labriola that way to work toward feeling compersion is to see jealousy as a constricted state and compersion being an expansive state.

I love this! I know how much better I feel when I have room to move about, to throw my arms out wide and be free. I also know the feeling of constriction, when something is tightly bound, when I am unable to move, the almost panic that can ensue from this constriction.

If I can keep this image in the forefront of my mind when it comes to my partner, then I will be more conscious of when my behavior or response creates a constricted atmosphere or of freedom.
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It is TITTY Tuesday...
Posted:Feb 22, 2022 10:40 am
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Swinging concerns for men
Posted:Feb 22, 2022 10:30 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2022 9:03 am
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Going into your first MFM threesome is a big step, especially if youre the guy in a relationship. You might feel like youre ready, but theres a nagging question at the back of your mind: What if the other dude makes her cum harder? That can be a pretty scary thing in a serious relationship. Its also a common fear dont beat yourself about it! Were here to help.

You might be worrying about nothing
Is your lady going to cum harder during your first MFM situation than when its just between you and her? Maybe. Does that mean youre going to hate the experience? Not at all.

Its easy to imagine the scenario in your head and get shaky knees, but theres a reason youre doing this. sex turns you on (and if it doesnt; what the hell are you doing? back out now!) Seeing your have a great time, even if its with someone else, should make you feel good. It should make you harder and make your experience better. If it doesnt, you jumped into things too soon or your fantasy is better left as that: a fantasy.

If she does cum harder than usual you helped make it happen
The experience you helped create for your lady has allowed her to have one of the best orgasms of her life. You did that: your trust, physical touch, and were all critical for this to happen. Its still an experience that the of you are having together, and it was possible because you allowed it to happen without shame or guilt. Its okay to back out if you become uncomfortable, but try to keep your ego at bay especially during your first MFM. You might regret it later.

-on- sex might be better from here
Dont be surprised if the way your lady orgasms changes after this experience. In fact, the of you will probably feel closer than before. This alone can supercharge your one-on-one play, but dont forget that an MFM is also an opportunity to pick up on some new techniques. Opening up your sex life, even if its just once or twice, can really amp things up in the bedroom if you treat it as a learning experience. Stay out of your head and dont let your insecurities get the best of you!
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How to convince your spouse to have a threesome
Posted:Feb 20, 2022 9:10 am
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2022 9:56 am
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Short answer: you cant. But you can certainly entertain the discussion. An MMF threesome (literally: a male/male/female threesome) can be a great way to introduce you and your partner to ethical non-monogamy. It can also be a lot of fun as a simple one-and-done thing. Of course, if you dont go about it the right way, you can introduce a lot of problems to your relationship. As a newbie, everything must be done carefully from your first conversation about it to what you both agree to in the bedroom.

There could be any number of reasons why youre interested in an MMF threesome. Maybe youre interested in exploring your sexuality. Maybe you reconsidering the swinger lifestyle and thought this might be a good way to kick things off, so to speak. Or maybe you just think it would be fun.

Regardless, youve come to the right place! We can offer you all the advice you need to have a successful MMF threesome and help you find the right partner to do it with. Thats because SwingTowns is the worlds friendliest dating site with millions of non-monogamous people all over the world. Once youre ready to jump in, go create your free profile to connect with like-minded people and finally fulfill that delicious fantasy of yours.

An MMF threesome can be a delicate subject
If you have had a monogamous relationship until now and are interested in spicing up your love life, an MMF threesome can be a big step. You might go into it thinking youre both ready only to run into any number of problems (your mans insecurity about his size or how the other man pleasures you, etc). Its important to take your first few non-monogamous encounters slow, checking in with each other every step of the way, and doing your best to prepare for every scenario as you go along. Then, create a couples profile on Swingtowns.com, where you can chat with other couples and maybe even set up a date or decide to meet up at a swingers™ club. With the right precautions, youre sure to have some wonderful experiences!

Swinger couples might be more receptive to experimenting
If you are one of those swinger couples that are always prepared to try something new, the MMF threesome will not be a problem. Similarly, when youve been on the swingers scene for a while, you already know most of the people that youre in a club or at parties. When you know what youre getting yourself into, and you have the right boundaries/expectations in place, every encounter can be just as good (or even better) than the last!

Finding swingers near me or single males that are interested in an MMF threesome is the easy part. What needs extra attention is how you communicate with your partner. When bringing it up to your partner, dont assume anything. They might be completely turned off by the idea of a threesome or maybe they have been thinking about it just as long as you have! In fact, many swinger couples wind up in the lifestyle by chance. They just start talking about it and find that they were both interested in non-monogamy all along.

On the other hand, you should be prepared in case your partner hates the idea or even feels hurt by the suggestion. Frame it in a way that lets them know you are not unhappy in the relationship or bored of them (these are not good reasons to enter the lifestyle). Instead, frame it as a chance to spice things up a little for both of you. If they still dont want to do it, respect their choice and dont try to push them. It ist the right time or its not meant to be.

Finding swingers near me can be a challenge if you are just starting out
The good news is that finding swingers near me is not going to be a problem if you sign up on Swingtowns.com, We offer you more than just access to the right people, but also a variety of interesting features that will help make your love life as exciting as it can be. The key here is to make sure that you dont just do it without talking about it with your partner. If you want to start something fun online, on a swinger site, see what your significant other has to say about it.

Once you have established some ground rules, you can go ahead and have some fun, especially as you can come across swingers that are ready to share this experience with you. You never know who you might find online. You may have a few conversations before stumbling upon someone that will spark your interest and the one of your partner.

Having a threesome can be an experience that will change your life
Having that threesome will require all the enthusiasm and consent of your partner. It might not be an easy conversation, but if things work out, it could really amp up your sex life. Youll never know unless you take a chance! Just start slow (even when youre talking about it) and allow things to evolve naturally. You can always refer to our blog for tips and advice or even chat online with experienced couples on our platform.

Even if your partner is not ready or interested, it doesnt mean that they will never be. If or when they are, try going to a swingers club and see what happens. It is useful to communicate your feelings as you go along. This way, your partner will understand you and you will both have the chance to perfect this lifestyle so that it matches your needs and expectations.
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My Journey into The Swinging Lifestyle
Posted:Feb 18, 2022 10:28 am
Last Updated:Feb 18, 2022 10:48 am
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My Journey in the swinging lifestyle
I have always been sexual, had my first real orgasm fucking an older woman at twelve, and then just went on from there. Porn was my go-to during my years and I was drawn to pictures and videos of couples fucking. Candy Samples was the first woman I saw doing porn.
It was in my early twenties that I began to realize that there were people; couples, that enjoyed being watched or joined for sexual play. My cousin was the first one to introduce me to a threesome. At this time I did not realize that there was such a thing as swinging. He was married to a wonderful lady and she was, to say the least, HOT. I mentioned to my cousin that he was one lucky fellow and he asked me if I wanted to get lucky too. I was, to say the least, thinking that he was kidding. No, he was serious and set up a time for us to play. Nervous as hell I met them at a motel room and when I walked in, there she was, nude and laying on the bed playing with herself. It did not take me long to shed my clothes and joined her and my cousin on the bed.
My cousin was the first to cum in her pussy and I surprised myself by eating her out, then it was my turn and she was one wiggling mass of orgasms, one right after the other, and she kept saying she was cuming, over and over. I squirted my load and just laid there holding her. I was in heaven. We met on several occasions and I kept coming back for more and they really got off on having me there. This continued for several months until she announced that she was pregnant! Still, wonder to this day?

That was my first introduction to a threesome and swinging and I never looked back.

(More to come)

Photo not of her...
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The 10 Sneakiest Red Flags in Men's Online Dating Profiles
Posted:Feb 14, 2022 3:36 pm
Last Updated:Feb 14, 2022 3:37 pm
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Watch out for these subtle signs that the guy isn't worth your time

In a perfect online dating world, the narcissists, commitment-phobes, and other undesirables would label themselves as such in their profiles. But since that honesty would ruin their chances of meeting mates, they hide their unappealing qualities—or at least they think they do. We asked online dating coaches to reveal the almost-undetectable clues that you shouldn't bother with a particular fellow. Spot only one red flag amidst an otherwise stellar profile? Then he's probably worth at least an email. See more than one of the below, though, and you may want to keep on clicking.

1. He has only one picture. "If he isn't willing to provide more photos, he may be hiding something about his looks, usually his age or weight," says Virginia Roberts, an online dating coach in Seattle. Or it could signal something more troublesome if the profile's also low on written details, cautions Laurie Davis, founder of online dating consultancy eFlirt Expert and author of Love @ First Click: He may not be taking online dating seriously if he's not devoting much time to his profile.

2. He didn't write a bio. Most online dating sites allow you space to say more about yourself, in addition to answering the form questions and prompts. "If your match skipped this section, again, you should question whether or not he's actually looking for a relationship," says Davis. While she admits it's daunting to complete this part, Davis warns, "If you can't feel a connection with his profile, it may be challenging to feel drawn to him offline.

3. He describes himself as "loyal" and "trustworthy." "These are things about which you shouldn't have to reassure people from the get-go," says Roberts. "Specifically calling out these qualities can signal that you're anything but." Don't immediately discard the potential match; instead, proceed with caution, suggests Roberts. "If someone seems sweet and decent in the rest of his profile, it's possible that he got terrible writing advice from a friend."

4. He has a checklist of characteristics for his ideal mate. He wants a woman who likes hiking, spending time with family, dogs (specifically his two black labs), nonfiction, the mountains over the beach, traveling abroad and trying new cuisines. Not that he's picky or anything. Long lists "usually mean that your match has had a lot of bad experiences—and probably a terrible divorce—so he's looking to avoid these issues in the future," says Davis. In the end, however, Davis says it's perhaps the least egregious of the red flags. You're getting a glimpse of his baggage, she says, and everyone has baggage.

5. He uses words like can't, won't, shouldn't, couldn't, wouldn't and don't. He doesn't want a woman who works long hours. She shouldn't have pets. He can't stand talking about politics. A cousin of the previous red flag, an extensive list of negative declarations could show the dater is set in his ways. Still, you shouldn't necessarily steer clear of this man. "Many people translate differently on the page from what they are in person," says Davis. The first couple of emails can give you a clearer sense of his flexibility.

6. He's overly flirtatious or sexual. Davis says this is a major red flag. "Language is often indicative of someone's true intentions, so over-sexualizing a public profile shows he isn't selective and may be one-track minded." Roberts agrees, saying that kind of profile is "basically flirting with anyone who finds him," which doesn't make a woman feel special. It may also mean he doesn't know how to interact with women or pursue a relationship naturally, adds Roberts.

7. He wants a woman who "takes care of herself." Translation: He wants a woman with a fit physique, says Davis. Or it may mean he likes ladies who enjoy getting dressed up and putting on makeup. Before you write him off, Roberts advises looking at the rest of his profile. Has he specified a body type he's looking for? Are his pictures all of him doing active things? If so, ask yourself if that's consistent with your lifestyle and what you're looking for in a match.

8. Most of his sentences start with "I." It can mean this man is completely self-absorbed. On the other hand, "I" is the easiest way to talk about yourself in the narrative section of an online dating profile. So focus on the context and whether the "I" statements sound like bragging. If not, Roberts says, "It's way more telling whether his attention is balanced in messages and on actual dates with you."

9. You know exactly why his last relationship failed. "Divorcees, in particular, often feel the need to divulge the details of their marriage," explains Davis. This could be a sign that their last relationship ended recently, and he might not be as ready to move on as he thinks. But don't dismiss him over a mere mention. Roberts says many online daters make the mistake of mentioning an ex or a trait they didn't like in a past relationship in their profile. The red flag is multiple mentions and excessive details.

10. He says he's "not like other men." Comparing himself to other guys multiple times in his profile could be a sign of low self-esteem, perhaps from a lack of dating luck. Davis also warns, "Boasting that he's 'not like others' could mean he holds himself in high regard and expects you to stroke his ego." Roberts suggests you strike up a conversation if you like the other aspects of his profile and ask him to describe himself. If he continues to focus on comparisons to others, then don't pursue him.
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3 Benefits of Using a Cock Ring
Posted:Feb 11, 2022 11:28 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2022 11:30 am
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Here are a few sexual benefits that a cock ring can offer.

It may help with erectile dysfunction. If you or your partner struggle with maintaining an erection, a cock ring may help. Once blood flows into the penis to cause an erection, the cock ring applies pressure around the base of the penis to trap the blood inside the erect penis for longer.
It can enhance pleasure. Since a cock ring helps keep your penis stay engorged and sensitive, wearing one can make sex feel more intense. It may also increase girth so that your penis feels wider to your partner if you are having penetrative sex. Toys like vibrating cock rings stimulate you when you wear them, as well as your partner's clitoris during vaginal sex and the anal region during anal sex.

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Flakes and Ghosts in the lifestyle
Posted:Feb 7, 2022 10:44 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2022 10:39 am
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If you have ever attempted the joys of online dating, you have probably had the unfortunate experience of someone flaking on you or ghosting on you. If you have not heard these terms before, let us turn to the ever-helpful (and often comical) Urban Dictionary:

Flake: A flake is someone who generally makes plans with you, promises to do things with you or for you but can never seem to follow through.

Ghost: When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they arere dating, with warning or notice beforehand.

How do these terms apply to the swinger lifestyle?

Flaking happens, sometimes the best-made plans fall through. A babysitter is unavailable suddenly or a family emergency or a work problem yes, real-life happens and it can get in the way of a fun time. Sometimes these issues occur last minute to a planned date and ruin the plans. Everyone should understand, but do your best to not make it a habit. It is frustrating to have made plans and to have a babysitter scheduled to have the other couple call the date off at the last minute.
The thing you can do is be open and upfront as soon as you know. Otherwise, you quickly dive into the ghosting category.

When swinging as a couple we had a -strike rule. We generally give first or second date tries. If they flake both times, then we wont spend much time or effort in facilitating the third attempt. I would suggest you come with your own rules that suit your situation.

Ghosting is simply rude and inconsiderate. Typically we have experienced ghosting with couples or persons who are new to the lifestyle, but experienced couples have done it to us before as well. Each ghosting experience seems to come out of the same playbook. We are chatting and clicking, everyone makes plans to meet and the day before or the day of the other couple or person goes completely silent and they dont show up for the date.

There is no reason to ghost anyone. If desires change, if anything changes, just be upfront and simply say Im sorry, but we dont think we are a good fit. Thank you for chatting with us and simply leave it at that. Any communication is better than no communication at all.
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Rules for a Successful Open Marriage
Posted:Feb 4, 2022 8:59 am
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2022 9:05 am
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Sylvia Smith
By Sylvia Smith, Expert Blogger

In This Article
Reasons for having an open marriage
Ground rules for open relationship
Wear protection at all times
Keep it a secret
Dont treat third parties as disposable objects
Keep your promises
Most people would ask, what is an open marriage anyway?

Why marry at all when you dont want to have exclusive sexual relations with your partner?

If you dont understand, then dont get into one.

Dont judge those who do. Some people marry for money, some with 40 year age gaps, and there are still arranged marriages for political gain.

Its just something that happens, live with it, or dont. Please dont waste your time thinking about what other people do with their lives.

If you are interested in open marriages, a successful open marriage depends on transparency. Cards are open right from the very start. The moment the relationship gets serious, if you want an open marriage, then open up the topic right away.

If you didnt come from a successful open relationship, then it would be a pain to transition it into one.

Reasons for having an open marriage

Most people think that people marry so they can have one partner forever. The truth is, you dont need to marry to stay loyal to someone, and they remain loyal to you. People marry for the legalities of family dynamics and raising .

Open marriages go through the legal mumbo jumbo of a civil union but allow each partner, with their permission, to have extramarital affairs.

They claim that the transparency and trust involved in open marriage beat those that are in a traditional one. It is a debatable topic, so we will leave it at that.

People in open marriages also claim that their sex life is more vibrant and never gets old. It also opens up possibilities of threesomes and the like.

Its easy to see and understand the advantages and disadvantages of an open marriage. So theres no need to discuss that. Lets get back to the topic at hand, What are open marriage rules and how to make it successful.

Ground rules for open relationship
As mentioned before, if you dont have an open relationship, do not even think about open marriages. Open marriages ground rules are the same as open relationships. You just live under one roof and have joint social security.

Be honest to both sides

If youre in an open relationship, and your partner allows you to have sexual relations with others, the third party should also be aware of the arrangement.

They should know that they are playing the third wheel, and you are interested in an intimate relationship, but not a serious one.

Pursuing others and giving them the impression of love, romance, and happily ever after can complicate the future. There is still infidelity in open marriages. That is when you start lying about your relations to either party.

Open relationship rules put an emphasis on trust and transparency. Make sure to discuss everything with your partner and judge their comfort level.

Wear protection at all times
Having sex with others is fun and fulfilling. If you have explicit permission to do it, then it takes away the risk of ruining your marriage because of it. However, that is not the only risk involved when you have sex with others.

There are STDs and Pregnancy. Mitigate these risks by wearing protection at all times.

You may have permission for sex, but if it ruins your health or has unwanted outside of wedlock, then things might not head the direction you planned.

Keep it a secret

Just because you and your partner are liberal with your sexual relations, that doesnt mean everyone around you, including your trusted friends and family, will understand. Gossip cannot be helped, but giving them a reason to target you is nonsensical and a waste of energy.

It is also draining to explain yourself to everyone you care about. That includes grown and your own parents, who may not agree with your lifestyle.

It might also give everyone else the impression that since you have open sexual relations, you are amenable to having sex with anyone. Obviously, that isnt true. The last thing you want is to spend your days rejecting advances from opportunistic losers.

Dont treat third parties as disposable objects
There are many misconceptions about open marriages.

Advocates claim that they are myths, but the truth is somewhere in between. Traditional and open marriages are about trust, communication, understanding, tolerance, and a common goal.

Both kinds of marriages have the same foundations implemented and proved in different ways.

Do open marriages work? Yes, they do. If you dont focus on the open part and work hard on the marriage.

It is a partnership, like all non-exclusive partnerships, you have to work harder to keep it working well. Treating all partners well will also help them be more cooperative and understanding of the situation. It might prevent them from creating problems in the future.

Keep your promises
Open marriage rules are not made to be broken. You have permission to have intimate relationships with others, but that doesnt mean you can ignore your primary partner.

Having an open marriage is still a marriage. You still walk your life journey with one partner. You are just not exclusively having sex with each other.

Prioritize your spouse as if you are in a traditional marriage. Just because you can have other partners, that doesnt mean you can date them on your spouses anniversary. It also doesnt mean that you spend more time with others collectively as you do with your spouse.

Being in an open marriage means you still have to fulfill all your marital obligations. A license to have other partners doesnt mean that you should have them all the time.

It may be difficult to imagine how to have an open marriage. Its actually simple. Be twice the husband/wife you can be to your spouse.

You need to overcompensate for the lack of sexual exclusivity. This is why advocates claim that they are better partners out of bed. They subconsciously try to please their partners for their promiscuity.

The formula for a successful open marriage is the same as traditional marriage.

Do your part, be honest, trust each other, and do all in your power to keep your partner happy. There is no magic open relationship advice. There are no special open marriage rules. How to have a successful open relationship is and always has been about trust, transparency, and fulfilling your role as a loving partner.
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The Dos and Donts of Swinging
Posted:Feb 1, 2022 9:44 am
Last Updated:Feb 1, 2022 9:47 am
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Be truthful and honest when you talk to your partner about your feelings. If you feel jealous of your partner, or have any other uncomfortable feelings about the whole sexual step, tell your partner. If you dont, they will only come out later and be much more awkward and damaging.

Once you get to the swingers joint, be yourself and dont pretend to be someone else. Being friendly, good-natured and exuding a warm aura has a positive effect on everyone. Leaving your inhibitions at home, both physical and social is a must as it can interfere with your swinging pleasure.

You cant expect to get much out of a swingers party if you arent prepared to put much in. Stay close to your partner but not in a clingy way as it may ward off others from approaching either of you. Know your needs, interests and desires and let everyone know about them. Practice safe sex and dont go beyond limits, even if you intend to try new things.

Are you ready to swap partners?

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