Finding your Fetish  

CarpeJamie 52M  
93 posts
1/4/2022 10:26 pm
Finding your Fetish


You are not a freak! What is the biggest turn on you have ever experienced? Those fishnet stockings your lover wears? Your lovers biceps? Pretty feet? I love a womans breasts! I was talking with some AF.Fers and was wondering if they had any fetishes. I soon realized that we did not really know what a fetish was. We had heard about foot fetishes and leather fetishes and they seemed to be common knowledge. I believe I had learned over the years that BDSM was a fetish. But is it? Truly, when hard pressed to define fetish, I could not. So, obviously, I had to google it.

I learned from web_MD that a fetish is sexual excitement in response to an object or body part that is NOT typically sexual, for example, shoes, feet; and, that men more commonly have fetishes. Apparently to have a fetish, you must have that object or body part present during sexual activity to get sexually aroused or have an orgasm. According to the website, most common fetishes include feet, obesity, piercings or tattoos; followed by body fluid, body size and hair. Who does not love a man or a woman with great hair? But, does good hair excite you to orgasm? If your answer is yes, congratulations you have a hair fetish.

Even though I was insistent that I had a breast fetish, small or large does not matter too much to me as long as you got them! But sadly, breasts do not fit the definition for a fetish, because they would have to be a body part that is not typically sexual-and breasts definitely are typically sexual, as are asses. So, I have learned that I am fetishless at the moment; but I feel that I want a fetish so that I can get my kink on. Lol. It seems as though I have got to continue my Sexploration to find my inner kink and fetish. As I described in a previous post, I have been totally turned on when I have been bound in the past; but again, bonding does not fit the definition because it is not the binding material that excited me it was the anticipation and feeling of lack of control. Maybe there is hope for this vanilla sex, wanna be deviant to find his inner fetish. I think the idea of fetishes have evolved over time because what was once not common is now much more common because of the internet allowing for greater openness of all the different things people are into. I am interested in hearing from you to help me on my sexual journey.



Do you or someone you know have a fetish?
How or when did you or they find out you or they had a fetish?
What is it about the object / body part that excites you the most?
Has it been easy to incorporate it into your or their sexual repertoire with your or their partners?

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CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
1/4/2022 10:27 pm

Do you or someone you know have a fetish?
How or when did you or they find out you or they had a fetish?
What is it about the object / body part that excites you the most?
Has it been easy to incorporate it into your or their sexual repertoire with your or their partners?

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author51 59F  
130010 posts
1/4/2022 10:35 pm

I have a fetish for men with brilliant minds such as yours. Duly noted too on the bondage.Like you I love being tied up along with blindfolded.Than it becomes all about the trust and using our senses, as well as the lack of control..Good post.xoxoo-o


TicklePlease 54F  
13851 posts
1/5/2022 5:14 am

I've yet to hear of a female with a true fetish... it seems like the sexualization of the non-sexual is a male thing. Sure women "enjoy" a lot of sex acts/role play/kink but it's not a requirement for arousal.

Personally I've never cared for a lover with a fetish... it takes precedence over learning new fun together with a new partner and becomes the focus of any sexual interaction. That gets boring really quick when a certain item/act/attitude has to always be present.


CarpeJamie replies on 1/5/2022 5:50 pm:
I haven't met a lover with a fetish yet; but I get your point about always having to include the fetish in your love making. If it doesn't work for you but does for you partner then that could be problematic. But nothing is better than exploring your sexuality with your partner. Thanks for adding an important voice to the conversation.

spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
1/5/2022 5:37 am

Fishnet is my fetish. I wouldn't call it a fetish though because a woman has to wear fishnet!


silk_petal_rose 58F
2363 posts
1/5/2022 12:09 pm

perfectly fine and normal .....not........to have an type of fetish.

silky...


CarpeJamie replies on 1/5/2022 5:54 pm:
Whole lot of different normal out there ... just need to find a member of your group. Or not and explore new things.

CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
1/5/2022 5:38 pm

    Quoting author51:
    I have a fetish for men with brilliant minds such as yours. Duly noted too on the bondage.Like you I love being tied up along with blindfolded.Than it becomes all about the trust and using our senses, as well as the lack of control..Good post.xoxoo-o
With the new year upon us, lots of time to get your fetish on in 2022!

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CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
1/5/2022 5:52 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    Fishnet is my fetish. I wouldn't call it a fetish though because a woman has to wear fishnet!
with holes in the right places fishnet is no obstacle to a really fun time. Enjoy the big catch!

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passionateebony 62M/49F
11 posts
1/6/2022 2:29 am

For me a well groomed man with suit and shirt and tie really gets me going, I love to undress them slowly, they are usually rock hard before I even get to pull down their underwear, exposing the penis head and licking it
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CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
1/6/2022 9:04 am

Anticipation is a sure fire way to get your partner hard as a rock. The mind is a powerful sexual instrument. As you may well be too.

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PonyGirl1965 56F
22090 posts
1/13/2022 11:49 pm

Hhhmm so maybe my intense love for leather is a fetish. Any and all leather gear gets me going. I love my tack room of saddles and bridles. And my box of whips, floggers and straps.


CarpeJamie replies on 1/14/2022 5:20 pm:
Yeehaw! I think you might have a leather fetish. Especially if you get aroused by it or need it for sexual play. Leather is a very common fetish. Hope your partner equally enjoys this fetish and you have lots of fun with it.

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