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Very sorry for your loss, Newfinese1. It has been my experience that you never get over this kind of loss but you do learn how to deal with it and move on with your life. You will never ever forget your husband, and nobody expects that you will. In time you will find the courage to take that first, very hard, step to look for another partner in your life, whether it be marriage or just a partner to spend time with. Many people will agree that your husband would not expect that you live out the rest of your life alone, or with just your family. He would feel that you should have someone beside you to hold you in your times of difficulty and to protect you since he is unfortunately not there to do that for you. Any man who would like to be a part of your life would not expect to replace your first husband, but to become another part of it. I am not trying to say you are not a strong woman who cannot take care of herself. Just that having someone beside you makes it easier to get through the things life throws at you every day. Until that person comes along for you, if you find yourself in need of someone to talk with, please feel free to contact me even though I am a whole country away from you. I have big shoulders and am more than willing to listen to your thoughts and feelings. Easiest way to find me would be kiiking around as vbray2035. Take care and I hope you stay well. Lance_G.
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You take it a day at a time, and eventually time will take away the hurt.
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Talking and writing about your husband is a great way to deal with your loss. Share your experiences with others here and in the other places in your world. Some, use this space as a diary and a form of therapy. Go for it! And, as others have mentioned, time - is your only ally. He will never be replaced - but with time and if you step outside your comfort zone - you'll begin to paint a new canvass. Best of luck. 🍀 ❗ 🌹 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Its the same for me...will be 4 in January. I use writing here as catharsis.....so write on. For the most part you will get lots of support. Grief is a personal and private thing.....noone does it like you will. We will never get over it, so dont expect to. We will learn to live our lives n carry on while carrying it with us. The hole will cover with scar tissue , but it will still be a hole and can be opened with a scent, a song, a memory. Read some of my blogs, im sure some of it will resonate with you. Mine is called complicated grief because i ive lost all of my fam within 6 years and have never lived alone. Was with hubs for 42 yrs. Its all a process. Just remember to be kind to yourself and wherever you are in the process is right where u are supposed to be. Im so very sorry for your loss. Write me any time. Huggss ~~
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Loss remains as a constant reminder for most people. If you are able to surround yourself with a good support system (friends, family or both), please do so. Being alone only isolates you further. If writing here helps at all, by all means please write whatever you want. This is your forum and many people will read and hopefully share thoughts and perspectives. My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment
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Time does help. One thing I did not do was go looking for another right away. It took me 3 years to even want to meet somone . Ive never found another but I am ok with it. I have had some good times and it never diminishes him. He wanted me to be happy so I am happy for the time I had him and my great life since. And I always embrace the cry. I hooe you can find your peace with it.
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Time does help. One thing I did not do was go looking for another right away. It took me 3 years to even want to meet somone . Ive never found another but I am ok with it. I have had some good times and it never diminishes him. He wanted me to be happy so I am happy for the time I had him and my great life since. And I always embrace the cry. I hooe you can find your peace with it.
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It took me a year after the lose of my wife before I started to come back too what might be considered as " moving on", but yet never forget my loved one !! The one thing I did was to remove my wedding ring from my finger but did what I considered was a more appropriate Remembrance of Her !! I placed the ring on a gold chain so the ring hangs over my heart which places it nearer and dearer to me !! The chain won't come off over my head , because of length , and had the clasp soldiered so that it is none removable !! It took me a bit longer to come too terms but Fate seemed to drop a suitable replacement into my life !! She became my long term FWB , my Significant Other or Lover with Benefits !! She did at one point move in with me and We live our life as husband and wife but without the sanctity of marriage !! YOU also, will Hopefully find Your Life Fulfillment !!!!  
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