Messaging Viewers  

Cutehouguy 43M
7 posts
2/7/2020 2:04 pm
Messaging Viewers

Guys - Do you message everyone that views you (assuming they fit sexual orientation and minimal parameters)?

Girls - Obviously you probably don't message every dude that views you but if you saw a guy that caught your interest that viewed you and didn't say anything would you message them?
Yes, let's not waste an opportunity
No, if they didn't say anything first, I'm not
I stalker message them until they respond or block me


Yours_4A_knight 59M

2/7/2020 8:08 pm

Back when I had a paid membership, my thinking on browsers who don't enquire was this,

If she was a premium member, and actually looked and read my profile, she had decided that I didn't interest her enough for her to make the effort to engage with me. Which is totally fine.

If the profile is a standard profile, really they can't have looked, and even if I did try to message them they could not read it anyway.

But in reality what is most likely to have happened was the cursor lay just a little too long on my main picture and postage stamp profile popped up, which the system counts as a viewing.

No matter which of those happened, odds are that I had already at least been considered and rejected, so trying to make something from it sounds like stepping up to the plate with your 1st strike already counted.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
2/8/2020 1:27 am

No I don't because I know some/most of the "views" my profile gets are not genuine and are automatically generated by the site to try and stimulate interest and get those with basic membership to upgrade.

Even if I was a fully-paid up member and was able to message others for "free" I still wouldn't message every viewer based entirely on a profile view.

Baffies

Link to my blog: MyBaffies


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
2/8/2020 6:55 am

Prompted by this blog, I went to the "who viewed me" tab... somewhere I've never been on the site.

There was not one single man on the entire first page who fit within my four parameters of consideration... Age/Race/Intelligence/Orientation.

Gonna have to change my name to Goldilocks I think.

To answer your question, nope I'd never message someone first. If they can view me, they can email me is how I see it.


Cutehouguy replies on 2/10/2020 6:20 am:
This is about how I assume most of the women on here would respond to the survey.

platinumandlace 59F
1 post
2/27/2020 12:15 am

This blog was very educational. I had no idea, that if I paused my cursor over their picture in a message, it shows I viewed their profile. I am a free member (don't know if that is considered standard) and I can not see any profiles, unless the member has paid for free members to see their profile... just like you have done.
I wouldn't have been able to comment on your blog post, heck... I wouldn't have been able to read your blog post, had you not paid for all women's entry fee.

I think you are on to something, in getting ahead of the game. If I were to invest money in my profile here, I would definitely spend the extra (what is it, 100 per yr) money so standard members could learn a little about me, before answering the email (message) I sent them, if they so chose to.

It is kind of challenging to answers the messages when you know only that little snip it of postage sized information. So thank you once again for the wonderful blog and the ones who posted under it, giving some insight to how this site works... and doesn't work.

If someone really piqued my interest, I would definitely message them first. Just from my experience, I don't have the time to respond to every message I receive. It would be a full-time job-- and that is for me, not especially gorgeous, but do-able older lady. I am sure, though haven't looked (bc I can't see profiles anyway), there are young Barbie doll babes on here. I can only imagine their inbox...overwhelming to say the least. If I were a man, I would get tired of writing messages to the women, and never getting so much as a "go f yourself" or "you are the man of my dreams" response. So yes...… I would write a man I thought "mmmmm...kinda yummy" when I read his profile... maybe, he was tired of sending messages the night he encountered my profile, or better yet, he may have only got the "postage size info" and didn't realize how fantabulous a lady I really was!! (joking-for all the haters)

So since I've left a novel on your blog, please consider this a response to your message.... I'm typed out.. and the men can blame you, because this is now the last one I am answering tonight...sorry my friend... (tongue in cheek-winking)


Cutehouguy replies on 2/28/2020 6:32 am:
Thank you so much for the reply and the kind words. You've inspired me to write more "educational" content for the BlackSexMatch.com crowd. I'm hoping, once I complete my dissertation, I'll have my doctorate in BlackSexMatch.com studies.

1seeking1 58F
3767 posts
4/1/2020 8:53 am

I would check out their profile, if they pique my interest and have what I seek, I have emailed them.


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