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Lifestyle Mistress I have been a lifestyle Mistressin the BDSM lifestyle working as a pro domme both on and off video with video's of sessions on our xhamster page with 5 years of training older subs and caged cuckolds so if thats you are then our fetlife profile could be just what your looking for If you ever wanted be trained by a young BBW Domme with a big cock or then a BDSM session could be just what you need Much has been written about how a Dominant/Top should care for their submissive/bottom during the evolution of a scene. Concerns over possible abuse, inaccurate techniques and unsafe surroundings have been discussed, lectured and written about to no end. As the dominant ones, we are told it is our mandatory responsibility, for all our encounters, to follow safety guidelines and after care rules. Learning how to care for one's submissive is an excellent goal for all dominants. It will assist them in having a better understanding of what a submissive goes through. An often-ignored area is the dominant's rights. Yes, we do have them as well as bottoms! It is often viewed by our community that the bottom is the at risk when engaging in our lifestyle//encounters. Not we hear stories of dominants being beaten, or abused by their submissive do we realize that dominants are also at risk. Sometimes even more so as we are supposed to be the caretakers. Our scenes are often described as a power exchange, with the energy flowing freely back and forth between partners. would assume the best encounter would be of an evenly balanced exchange. Not so. Each interaction differs on what the people involved desire and agree upon. I might engage in heavy energy manipulation where I am giving much more than taking. Therefore would it not seem logical that both involved are affected by the encounter and might need verify well being in each other. How many times have we witnessed a scene finishing with the submissive being taken down, given water, body conditions brought back normal stasis and then the domme left fend? Many scenes can be more emotionally and/or physically taxing for the dominant. At the end of each scene, both parties involved need assess not the other's condition but their own. The basic tenets of Dominant rights include: 1. The right their safety in all encounters; Physical: The right be informed of any potential physical dangers they may encounter in playing with you, including STD's, possibly infectious diseases and recent illnesses a submissive might have. keep such hidden the guise that it doesn't affect the scene is reckless and dishonest. Accidents due happen and it is not ethical put another in unknown harm's way. They have the right refuse a scene or partner without repercussions, such as damage their reputation. All dominants have the right interpret this aspect for themselves. 's comfort is an individual concept. Emotional: The right maintain their own space and boundaries. If uncomfortable with a situation, the right remove themselves from such. There is a common myth that as the "strong ", the dominant should show little emotion and maintain decorum at all times. All of us are humans with emotions that affect our processes. Dominants have the right show and express the emotions that are affecting them. This includes anger, sadness and disappointment, keeping in mind the concept of do no harm in mind. Mental: The right be informed of any past repressions, mental issues or abuse or possible triggers that may affect the they initiate with a partner. They also have the right end a scene or connection if they feel it has become unhealthy for either person involved. Spiritually: The right practice BDSM spiritually if they so desire and find likeminded partners. The right not be judged or criticized for not playing with someone based on this aspect. 2. The right informed consent: Dominants have the right agree or not on participating in a scene based on honest information. They have the right research all potential partners as much as needed become comfortable. This includes inquiring into experience and past relationships. They have the right to refuse gracefully if they feel uncomfortable with a possible scene. 3. The right to educate themselves: Pursue knowledge and expand their skills in any area they are interested in. Ask other dommes for assistance if they are uncomfortable with an activity. Admitting that does not know all is a show of good character. Exercising intelligence will help insure a good and safe scene for all involved. 4. The right stop a scene. You might have witnessed a scene where the dominant is goaded on by the submissive give more. As the dominant, we have the right a scene if we feel a limit has been reached, fatigue has set in and hindered our accuracy, we are tired or just done. 5. The right of determination. Just as a submissive does, a dominant has the right determine what they desire from a submissive, may or may not fit those criteria and the right say No thank you ones that do not match. They have the right determine train, what style they enjoy training in and how someone earns their collar. In the aspect of ownership, the dominant also has the right request a collar be returned. 6. The right their own style. Each of us is unique in our dominance. No way is better. What works for does not always work for another. How boring this life would be if we were all the . The right not be judged by other dominants or ridiculed because 's style differs. 7. The right be proud of their dominance. Without crossing over into arrogance, the dominant should enjoy the strength and control they have. Being dominant does not give the right to be a bitch or jerk. A true enjoyment of 's nature and role is acceptable. Enjoy the privileges that come from it. Please remember as a dominant, you do have rights. First and foremost is your right honesty between yourself and any potential partner. You have the right interview, inquire and question before, during and after any scene. Get know your partner before you with them. Let them see you in action with others. Be honest about you are, your style, level of experience and what you have offer. Misrepresentation of any kind can lead a disastrous encounter. Use your instincts. If you feel uncomfortable, there is probably a reason. Many of the rights expressed here do apply both partners in any lifestyle encounter.  |
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