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If you're only reason for contacting the fellow is to be courteous, then perhaps there's good cause for contacting him.......on the other hand, if there's any other tiniest of motivations, then it sems to me that there's not much point. If it was me, I'd probably just leave it. If you tell him it's over after 3 months of no contact, well, is that not likely to generate some sort of negative response that gets neither of you anywhere? What ever choice you make, good luck McTive.
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Don't waste time on something that is not what you ultimately want .Do not settle for the easy thing in the moment . If it seems too hard it is not right .It should be easy to connect , to talk ,to understand to set things up .why bother with difficult guys or gals there is another one on the next corner who might be better for you ,or not .Up to you to decide what you want in a guy ,and take no less . 6 years ago a woman said to me i,m gonna marry your ass someday , well we stopped seeing each other for 5 years no contact at all. went our ways both picked bad partners , we reconnected she reached out to me after checking around about me. .after some friendly question about help it went another direction , now 2 months later she is in love with me again . it takes a loooonnngg time to figure this stuff out . best of luck no matter what you decide
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8/17/2020 4:14 pm |
I wouldn't. I'd wait and if he contacts you, see how you feel about him at that particular time. Besides, if he come sniffing and you're not interested, the dumping will be much more satisfying.
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Since he has not had the courtesy to contact to find out how you're doing and how your tests turned out, I would not contact him. I would also delete all contact information for him just to remove temptation and to help move on. I hope the doctor found the reason for your stomach issues and has been able to help with that!
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8/17/2020 4:33 pm |
- If you enjoyed his company on a sexual level, and want him for the companionship of getting physical, there is a remote possibility that sending him a smoke signal might be worth your while. But then again, living in this pandemic will turn people anti-social real quick, so I don't blame you for turning the other cheek in regards to your own well-being. M~
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Yes if he has not contacted you to see how you are he most likely don't care. Now if it sex you want with him then start it up see what he says .. is he worth you troubles plenty fish in the ocean. I had one letting with someone and she and I talk all the time she is waiting for it to be safe. We talk like we are in bed together she want to be touched so badly but she hold firm and I respect this. So i'ld say No.
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I would not contact him. I agree with pagancountrygirl. He has not bothered to stay in touch. I feel no response is a response. I had one a couple yrs ago. We were so good together but he was here then not here then here. So, I just said no more. Cant stay in touch tells me how much I dont matter.
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Nah. You don't need to tell him it's over .... after 3 months of mutual silence, he knows. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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No {=}
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I'm sitting here reading different blogs from people and I came across your blog and read it and I meet at someone on this site a few months ago and we emailed like crazy back and forth and this happened before the virus and we were going to meet then the virus hit so he quit contacting and I was the one doing the emailing and it's been two months now I haven't gotten any email from him and of course being who I am I send an email to him and one day I was talking to another fellow blogger who's a female on here and we were talking about it and her advice to me was not to do anything wait and see if he would contact you so I do not think I would text him at this point if he wants you in his life he would have kept contact with you and that's how I feel about my friend if he really wants me in his life he will be the one contacting me I hope you're doing well with your stomach issues I have PTSD from stress in relationships that were not good for me so I feel for you there.
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8/17/2020 10:25 pm |
No I wouldn’t ever! Impossible not even debatable
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No. Don't open the bag of worms.
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No way! imho If he didn't think enough of you to call you to see how your tests went, he isn't worth a text!! Please visit my Blog "Older but no Wiser"
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Let it go as is. He is not showing any interest
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well.....since this is the M.O. for both of you, let sleeping dogs lie. He may or may not show up again and you can see how you feel then. If not, then you both know its over. Whats more disturbing to me, is that you were having health issues and if nothing else, IF someone cared for you as a person, they would have reached out to ask...how things were going. To me, the insensitivity of that speaks volumes.~~
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It sounds like a lot of your feelings in the relationship stemmed from trying to deal with other issues in your life through the relationship, which never works. Without that underlying psychological driver, there's nothing really there. Having recently stepped off an emotional roller coaster myself, I can relate. Our unconscious selves screw with our feelings and make dependence and codependence feel like love, and it's impossible to tell the difference in the moment. It definitely sounds like avoiding him might be the best option. There's no benefit to offset the risk of slipping back into the pattern. Good on you for talking about this openly. More of us need to be open and honest about what we're dealing with, both to break down the stigma surrounding mental health and to show people that they aren't alone in their struggles.
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