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At some point, they fly the coop.
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At some point, they fly the coop. My Middle called me at work yesterday... He was at the marine recruiting office and wanted to schedule a time for me to meet with the recruiter. I wanted to just die. Tears sprung to my eyes and I immediately said no. All I could see in my mind's eye was my tiny little boy smiling up at me on his first day of school. I heard him tell the recruiter I said no, the recruiter asked to speak with me. "Hi, how are you today?" "I've been better." "You sound like you have concerns." "Of course I have concerns. Look what is going on in the world right now..." I told the recruiter I would meet with him, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. When I stopped at my ex husband's house to pick up the Spawn, he was sitting on the deck with my Middle . "I can't do it. I don't want him to go." I cried, it was not a good scene. I don't know what had me more upset, the idea that he was going to be leaving me or the possibility that he could find himself out there in dangerous situations and I would not be there to protect him. My ex husband did go... And, I know that eventually I will have to go to. I'm just having a hard time with it right now, even as I type this I'm teared up and feeling upset. But, I told my today, that I support him no matter his decision. I'm just not ready to set him free. It was a conversation with one coworker in particular that helped me to come to terms with this. He had said that his was in the Marines and she just loved it. He had said it was one of the best things that had happened for her and even though she was not in the military anymore, she had developed friendships and bonds with people that continue to this day. Does it ever get easier? |
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I'm sure it'll get easier in time 
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I'm sure it'll get easier in time 
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No matter when and where they go...its always difficult for those left behind. A military career is def something to be admired and proud of...but for a parent..... scary. I have no experience with it. I cant even imagine your thoughts...just know they are all valid.....and in time hopefully they can be reconciled. This is the ultimate definition of bittersweet. Much luck with it all....sending wishes of calmness of spirit your way~~
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It sucks when you've prepared them to fly outta the nest ... and they finally do! I know what you mean. It's another step and the world is full of them. There will probably be more of them along the way...that's for sure Ya need a hug? I could use one now...  
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It sucks when you've prepared them to fly outta the nest ... and they finally do! I know what you mean. It's another step and the world is full of them. There will probably be more of them along the way...that's for sure Ya need a hug? I could use one now... ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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No matter when and where they go...its always difficult for those left behind. A military career is def something to be admired and proud of...but for a parent..... scary. I have no experience with it. I cant even imagine your thoughts...just know they are all valid.....and in time hopefully they can be reconciled. This is the ultimate definition of bittersweet. Much luck with it all....sending wishes of calmness of spirit your way~~
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I'm working on it... It helps to hear from other parents who have gone through this. It helps to know that, the worst case scenarios I have in my mind aren't the only scenarios. Thank you.
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I completely understand your issue. Dropping your child off at college is one thing but dropping them off at boot camp is something completely different. I hope you find a way to come to terms with your children becoming independent and leaving home for where ever their choosen life path takes them.
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I never had to go through this, I had a house full of girls and they all are working with the local School system, Teachers and food service managers. I guess it is a big thing to see one grow up, as one would say , with the signing of his name on a form...It is a very good service and has some of the worlds finest people. He could worse, Be proud, he is manning up.. have a good day, be safe..
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My nephew enlisted in the Marines, I think he learned a lot of self discipline. He's got out, went to a cooking school and is a chef in Dallas, now. As an alternative possibility, my 40 yr old son did NOT join anything, bombed out of junior college his 1st year, can't hold a job, and is currently in his room playing video games, as usual. It sounds like your son has plans for the future.
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you raise them to be their own people, it is awesome he wants to serve his country and the Marines are #1 mother on 
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Hi secret_lade I tell my kids that I wish I could go straight to grandkids it's so much easier, you just have to love them and spoil, and hug them, and read to them but, you don't have to make them go to bed, or clean their room, or get them ready for school, or all of the other things to raise them it is a challenge, it just shows that you are a good mom hmm be safe Kenny Loggins - "Return to Pooh Corner" Christopher Robin and I walked along Under branches lit up by the moon Posing our questions to Owl and Eeyore As our days disappeared all too soon But I've wandered much further today than I should And I can't seem to find my way back to the wood So help me if you can, I've got to get Back to the house at Pooh corner by one You'd be surprised there's so much to be done Count all the bees in the hive Chase all the clouds from the sky (chase the clouds from above) Back to the days of Christopher Robin and Pooh Winnie the Pooh doesn't know what to do Got a honey jar stuck on his nose He came to me asking help and advice And from there no one knows where he goes So I sent him to ask of the owl if he's there How to loosen a jar from the nose of a bear
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6/16/2020 8:48 pm |
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Hi secret_lade I tell my kids that I wish I could go straight to grandkids it's so much easier, you just have to love them and spoil, and hug them, and read to them but, you don't have to make them go to bed, or clean their room, or get them ready for school, or all of the other things to raise them it is a challenge, it just shows that you are a good mom hmm be safe Kenny Loggins - "Return to Pooh Corner" Christopher Robin and I walked along Under branches lit up by the moon Posing our questions to Owl and Eeyore As our days disappeared all too soon But I've wandered much further today than I should And I can't seem to find my way back to the wood So help me if you can, I've got to get Back to the house at Pooh corner by one You'd be surprised there's so much to be done Count all the bees in the hive Chase all the clouds from the sky (chase the clouds from above) Back to the days of Christopher Robin and Pooh Winnie the Pooh doesn't know what to do Got a honey jar stuck on his nose He came to me asking help and advice And from there no one knows where he goes So I sent him to ask of the owl if he's there How to loosen a jar from the nose of a bear To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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6/16/2020 7:03 pm |
Yep
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you raise them to be their own people, it is awesome he wants to serve his country and the Marines are #1 mother on
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6/16/2020 6:19 pm |
My nephew enlisted in the Marines, I think he learned a lot of self discipline. He's got out, went to a cooking school and is a chef in Dallas, now. As an alternative possibility, my 40 yr old son did NOT join anything, bombed out of junior college his 1st year, can't hold a job, and is currently in his room playing video games, as usual. It sounds like your son has plans for the future.
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I never had to go through this, I had a house full of girls and they all are working with the local School system, Teachers and food service managers. I guess it is a big thing to see one grow up, as one would say , with the signing of his name on a form...It is a very good service and has some of the worlds finest people. He could worse, Be proud, he is manning up.. have a good day, be safe.. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I completely understand your issue. Dropping your child off at college is one thing but dropping them off at boot camp is something completely different. I hope you find a way to come to terms with your children becoming independent and leaving home for where ever their choosen life path takes them. Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!
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