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first, i follow the Bro-code  so no but i find that time and friendship usurp any code violation as soon as said bro is read-in and second, as the distance one if the immediate future does not include returning or finding a way to move the other in a permanent situation i would "let it go" but maybe try to squeeze a tumble or two out of the whole letting go phase, contingent on the agreement of the other 
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If they aren't married or dating in an exclusive relationship, go for it. All's fair in love, war and sex. If she doesn't have feminine products in his vanity and he doesn't have a toothbrush in her medicine cabinet, it isn't exclusive.
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Why would you be worried that your friend found out her ex high school boyfriend and you being together for a year many years after high school? It's not like it was yesterday so does it really matter? However, will she be upset with (in the present) you now if somehow it came to light she found out that you didn't tell her you were seeing her ex being that you share so many things together? If I really connected with someone where we sent messages, and then talked on the phone yes I would travel to meet them if I thought there was the potential. How do you know it might only be for a week or two if you don't meet each other? What happens if it turns out to be a meet that lasts a lifetime? There is only one way to find out that's to meet each other. We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious
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Hypothetically speaking, I know that I lust after many of the same men that my girlfriends do. Now if we are all single, including the men, and all adults, why shouldn't some fun be had? There was a reason for any break up. But as we all know, sometimes circumstances get in the way for two people. That doesn't mean the emotions or the attraction will automatically go away. Often, it increases it. I will say this- I would want all of my exes to have fulfilling love lives. If one of them connected with you, or any other of my females friends, I would not only be happy for them, I would encourage them. Life is short, love is elusive, attraction is there. Be free and enjoy yourself. Kitkat The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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As adults, we don't get to call dibs perpetually on a past partner long after the relationship is over. Your friend should be mature enough to accept this fact, and the realities of life. One of my friends, dated and married a x-GF of mine. They have 3 beautiful daughters out of it. I went to their wedding and they came to mine. Your GF lived in the same town with her x-boyfriend the years you were away, so she had her chances if she was single and available. We can't have our cake and eat it too. If she is one who believes so... then good luck to her. As far as traveling for a relationship, long or shorter term, we must always weigh the opportunity cost. But I will add... noting ventured, nothing gained.  Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Great question, especially on a site such as this! have to defer to the local over the long distance.
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I would say go for it! Enjoy yourself to the fullest and you only live once hugsssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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I would say go for it. If you are true friends it shouldn't matter to her. They may be doing the same thing. Discretion is a must as far as what you tell anyone about anything. If it's done without malice it should be all good.
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Long distance relationships can often be difficult as I've found out myself.
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Without hurting anybody's feelings...I would try to talk to someone who I was attracted to. And let nature take its course. If it's a not a go, so be it.
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hmm, I would share friend with the person.....I would all sit down and talk about it with all parties. I bet it would be an awesome thing to share! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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I wouldn't be too concerned about it and not mentioning it to you. I would only be concerned if through the years she expressed that sh had feelings for him........I would think that she's had so many attractive men it wouldn't bother her.... Click Here To Read A Hot Erotic Story: When A Woman Meets A Stranger Part 1 of 4
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An ex is exactly that.....an "EX"...
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With no claim being made by either on this person, go for it. She who hesitates is lost  Drop in and visit my blog sometime, but you'll probably regret it 
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I think that it would depend on many, many factors... Obviously, I can't go into every single one, but, I could probably explore a few scenarios with you ... First, assuming you are both goddesses, with melonlicious breasts or both perky breasts and 10.5s on a scale from 1 - 10, with all things being equal, then, the only thing that you can do, is share him between the two of you, so that he can decide, and, take away the whole drama, diva, I'm so bad, you're so bad... and, I only want what's right for you kind of attitudes... This removes any bad blood, so, what you do, is pool your resources and agree to this three-way connection to take place... Yes, you should be willing to sacrifice for the bigger cause of you all's friendship... So, whether, you or the other lass is far away, then you or her needs to be transported (reasonable passage on rail, boat, plane) to the other destination... Now, at this point you have to have the true test for the man in question... well, you didn't specify, but, I'm assuming that your preference is 'male' and I guess this would apply to a three-way female encounter, but, I don't roll that way, so I could only speculate as to those details... In any event, the true test would come in the form of one-on-one with each of you and the individual in question... By doing this, it is not a contest, but, it is the testing of all of the senses, not just the cyber space, or texting hypnosis that women can weave for unsuspecting men on this site... (this is not my belief... I'm merely stating what I've read from other 'certified' bloggers on here... just sayin')... so, the first order of business is for the 'object' of this experiment to determine if he is capable of making the right decision... of course, the women would flip a coin to determine who goes first... then, it would be the other's turn... and, just to make sure there were no hard feelings, it would only make sense that you have a three way followed by two more one-on-one sessions... that would it make it absolutely positively sure that there was no doubt as to the measuring system being used... If, at the end of this somewhat detailed experiment, it was determined that additional explorations of the mind needed to be conducted, well, so be it... I think that the person in question, would truly be the one that solves the problem... In this fashion, there is no guilt on either of the other two parties, and you both would have a 'taste' of him, so to speak... Another scenario that comes to mind is one, where the two women, have a 'rock, scissors, paper' competition... Perhaps, you do this using Skype or maybe even the site's IM application... However, I, suggest, that you have a judge (some extremists might even offer to use the male in question as a judge) to determine who would be the winner on getting 'dibs' on said male... This type of scenario has been proven over centuries to be mathematically guaranteed to provide a winner, because someone always gets tired and let's the other one win... Another scenario would be where each of you provides a 'stand-in' so that neither gets an unfair advantage due to closeness... so, you would have family members or other female friends represent you that would be closer to the male in question. In this way the tests of the first scenario could be duplicated, fairly and safely using stand-ins that could act on your behalf... The male, then chooses based on your wise decision of representation. I hope that this helps clear up any confusion... thanks for the post... I luved it Joy!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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Evening, Reverse the position and think how you would feel were you to find out about your friend going to visit this person that you both lust after. That will give you your answer since it is what you will tell yourself each time you look in the mirror. H
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Not much I can do to help you... After all, I am married, and will not be meeting anyone anytime soon. However, if I had been single, and my best friend and I lusted after the same woman... well, that hasn't happened since the 70's. And we did not handle it very well at all. He's been happily married to the same woman since he graduated from college, so I don't think it will come up again. However, I had been tempted to get back together with an old flame who had been married to one of my close friends. I was single, she was single... he was in another country... but, nah, I didn't want to go through all of the hogwash we went through when we dated the first time. Still not very applicable to your situation. Personally, the adult way to handle it would be to talk it over with all three interested parties. And, while a polyamorous situation would be great, I know my friend would never go for anything like that (very straight-laced conservative - I embarrassed the crap out of him at his bachelor party when I gave him the "instant honeymoon kit" - a body length mirror, some duct tape to attach it to the ceiling, and some whipped cream!). A better solution would be to let the woman decide, and see what happens. Frankly, it would be her choice anyways, so I feel it would be best to get it all out in the open, and see if having one of us near (and the other a little farther afield) would influence her decision, or if she would rather be motivated by her emotions and how she felt for us. The hard part would be living with her choice, as someone would be left out in the cold.
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When I was in college my room-mate and I would talk. If we wanted to date someone we would make sure that the other person was not interested. We never had a problem. I am guessing we would do the same thing today with any of our friends. Openess is the best way. Now, if a couple breaks up, they break up. They are free to date whomever they want, including mutual friends who are single. In fact, many of my friends are now dating (or are even married to) ex-girlfriends of mine. It's never bothered me and why should it?
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I haven't seen you girlfriend, but I think your are very desirable. Your have beautiful thighs and a well shaped ass and nicely toned belly.
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I find myself giving up! Just celebrated my birthday again alone making the best of it joking with folks along the way. Got 2 days of winter camping in { ROCKS }. Far to difficult to connect with women anymore. It's not just another animal, rather it's to beyond description. An my travels I have branched out to helping volunteer in several states to making things better for others to enjoy the beauty of nature. One single dude covering lots of ground with no car and an enormous heart! It's so beyond outrageous. I keep the lust at bay, and don't try to keep false hope going far to much heartbreak. By years of walking away has been a life assuring of self protection and being able to carry on when rejected and or neglected. Real stuff, real pain, not I dance alone with a tune or too in my heart, and leave the worry to someone else. Sounds so simple, it's not. It's actually a rats ass of years of pain and so much heartache. Thank GOD for music therapy, and my camera's taking me on vacations that R-O-C-K-E-D the living ebbie gebbies out of me! I'd go the distance to lay under the stars in Yosemite National Park looking up through the trees to refresh my soul, pizza at the beach rocks too! Happy New Year 
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Evening, Reverse the position and think how you would feel were you to find out about your friend going to visit this person that you both lust after. That will give you your answer since it is what you will tell yourself each time you look in the mirror. H Life is a big circle, and it may come back to you. So, thats just something to think about. If you are ok with it, then go for it!! If they broke up, its up to you!! [I]Da Focker!!
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author51 replies on 1/5/2016 5:13 am: I would have loved to get a gift like that for my honeymoon..and used them all.lol. It has been discussed with the 2 friends and all is well with the situation now.. That's good to hear!
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Hello JOY!! I believe that if you can't trust your mind and follow your heart how can you follow others advice? After my ex and I divorced if I hadn't followed my heart I would have missed out on the best woman that I've been married to for 36 years! There's more to that story for another time. You have to follow your dreams and the friendship that I'm sure has had some bumps in the road will surely last thru this--just be honest with yourself AND your friend! There will never be enough JOY in this world especially if you aren't happy!
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I have dated women my friends have dated, and vice versa. As friends, we would always be open about our dates. It made things easier as it's often difficult to keep these things secret. Long distance relationships are great on paper but they can be very frustrating!
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