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Being a " Bi " guy is not easy, but it is rewarding.
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Being a " Bi " guy is not easy, but it is rewarding. I wrote this a while back, as a mag article. From my observations, it seems far harder to be a bi man than it is to be a bi woman. Actually not for me, I am completely comfortable with who I am, and with the exception of a few, I really don't care what people in general might think of me. Anyway, back on point. To some straight men, women, and even some bi women, bi men like gay men have violated the culture’s accepted notions of “masculinity”. Real men should be powerful, strong, in control and rugged. A "real man" would never perform any sexual act with another man. They never, ever would perform a sexual act with another man that a women might perform on a man. I think if a man performs any sex act with another man in some ways, he will never be the same.To an open minded, thinking man, the experience can teach things many others may never have access to. Even if he never does it again, his sense of awareness and level of experience will be expanded beyond the realm of any "straight" man, if he is confident in himself , and is willing to embrace it. The bisexual man is a misnomer, a mystery. The existence of bisexual men illicit cognitive dissonance. They do with men what women do with men and what (the seemingly more accepted) gay men do with men, but they also do with women what men do with women. Hmmm, what's up with that?? Our modern culture , almost openly supports bi women. They are trendy and sexy, because they are sexually empowered and fearless. They violate the “old rules” of gender specifics and embrace gender flexibility, balance and orgasm. It has been my experience bi men never get that kind of support unless it comes from the bi community. There doesn't seem to be room for men in society, who can, and choose to balance their masculinity and femininity. I guess that is fairly easy to get...The duality of passive and assertive women is difficult enough for people to comprehend. The idea of men being, or choosing to be sexually submissive and/or aggressive defies the "traditional" definition of “manhood” and routine logic, I'm thinking some "straight" men either fear or do not understand bi men.Although I believe it is not too far of a leap to go from enjoying ones own male sexuality , to enjoying it with another male, admit it guys, most of us have at least thought about it. Maybe straight and some bi women, who have invested a great deal of their status in the power of their sexuality may feel they cannot compete with bi men as partners.I don't believe this is common, just putting it out there. While in a relationship with a man it seems women feel they must be his sole object of sexuality to feel comfortable in the relationship, even if they are playing with other women. I have personal knowledge of this, and I assume it's often the case. I also know some bi women feel that if they can be bi, why can’t their man. What is good for the gander is also good for the goose. And I also have personal knowledge of bi and straight women, who feel that sexual activity among men is hot and sexy and a major turn on. In fact, many women prefer gay and or bi pornography over straight porn, claiming it is more realistic.... go figure. I know information is power... By experiencing sexual contact with more than one gender, I believe bi men accumulate more information than any mono-sexual., is that a word? I know I am a better lover, and I believe a better person for it. By playing with other bi couples bi men learn what only other women know, that is, how to please a male partner as a woman, how to satisfy another penis, or do unto another penis what you love done to your own. Bi male sex is liberating. Bi men escape the confines other men subject themselves to, and then can lead others, both men and women into another place of their own creation. More than straight sex, bi male sex is more about sharing, passion and being open that exposes men to the feelings most often available only to women. Bi male sex tames down alpha male competitions and jealousies. Men, who engage in bisexual activity tend to be more supportive of each other and less jealous about the penis that enters his lover’s vagina, especially when they have just been sucking it. Bisexual men love their female partners, because they share commonalities with them, not because they are hostage to their women’s sexuality. As a result, bi men are more self-confident about their masculinity, which can be a very powerful aphrodisiac for women and men. Once they accept themselves, reinforced by their successful experiences, the strength of their own convictions trumps whatever norm society dictates making them even more powerful than most heterosexual men. Bi male sex gives liberation and celebration to un repressed sexuality - to both males and females - at its most beautiful and powerful. At its best with balance and responsibility bi male sex yields freedom and even wisdom. Just My Opinion Help yourself, just not at somebody else's expense. |
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